Questions for Muslimah Mommas - Page 2

[Sauda]

Bismillah ir Rahman ir Rahim


UmNuh,

I am afraid I cannot be of any help to your original question;
you see, I am 3rd generation American Muslimah. So I didnt have to go through alot of religious misunderstandings with my family, Alhamdiallah.

I took my Shahadah when i was 17, after I look into other beliefs, but I found, which was already my predestined fate, that Islam is the only one for me.

As far as covering is concern,
I cover everything except for the face, hands, and sometimes feet.
I live in a big city where alot of cultural religions are practiced, so head covering is not uncommon here.
-Though I might get some stupid looks from those who choose to be ignorant.

I hope that this can inspire you in some crazy way.

I pray that Allah continue to shower his infinite mercy and blessings upon you and you family.

Keep faith,

Ma-salaam

[DebraBaker]

I came into this thread with the intent to lurk and better understand Islam (especially for a woman) but I want to make commentary about other (non-Muslims) coming in and asking pointed questions about Ummnah's beliefs.

I don't think this is the context (perhaps a new thread with the intention to better understand one another?)

If I understand correctly the covering is simple modesty?

Christians, Jews, Muslims (and, I believe others such as Hindus and Buddhists) teach modesty.

One thing that being modest does is takes the attention away from the physical body and helps people concentrate on the heart and spirit.

I think threads like this are wonderful because it helps me realize how much we all have in common (greater than our differences )

Bless you, UmmNah, I enjoy reading your posts here on the Mothering boards.

Debra Baker

[1jooj]

Thank you, Sauda, for your kind words--I have been continuing to study, learn and grow. I'll be going to Morocco soon and hope to spend some real quality time at the masjid there, inshallah, and come home with renewed strength.

And thanks much to you, Debra, for defending my minority position. I have been a minority before, and it's all right. I don't mind answering questions that are asked in sincerity...I just don't feel like an authority--and that can be a good or a bad thing.

[mahdokht]

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[BelovedBird]

I always think it is so neat when I see the muslim women wearing jilbab, and you catch a hint of stylish "regular" clothes underneath it. I like them. Here I see mostly flowery scarves as headcoverings. Pretty much the same as I wear, except they wrap them around the front of there head (like tossed over the opposite shoulder, like a scarf) wheras I tie mine in back, like a do-rag.

Happy Ramadan to you!

-BelovedBird

[merpk]

Thanks for those links!! Always great having my eyes opened ...

& wishing a joyful Ramadan to you&your family ...

- Amy

[1jooj]

Thank you for your insight, sister!

I have to say, I have had an excellent Ramadan this year--alhamdulilah! While I have not read as much Qur'an as I'd have liked, I have fasted with joy for the first time, for the whole month (minus my break, which I look forward to making up soon). I am making my prayers, including fajr, daily, with my young son (18 months). He, too, enjoys praying with me. He says some of the words, and mimics the postures. I am also working harder on my modesty in dress--while my non-Muslim friends would tell you I am not at all immodest, I now ask myself when dressing, "Can I pray in this?" any time I am leaving the house.

My mother has spent full days with me, and I fasted through the days, and she didn't yell, or scream like in years past. In fact, she's helped me to make sweets for fast-breaking.

I have been trying hard to call the grace of our Creator into my life, and to bring with it His peace. This has been a glorious Ramadan, alhamdulilah.

I hope yours has been filled with peace and love and light, inshallah! And Eid Mubarak, inshallah!

[Umm Zaid]

Hi, I just joined the Mothering Forum, and immediately came to this thread, of course...

I wanted to add something about the "Two Women's Testimony," even though it is a few mos. old.

Yes, the Qur'an does say that if a woman testifies, let another be with her "to remind her." According to the scholars that I have studied with, this is in financial dealings (say, a business dispute). In a divorce case, or if she was a witness to a murder or something, it is one woman who testifies.

But then, there is another situation. As some of you might know, the woman's menstruation cycles, and her breastfeeding relationship with her child or another child has legal weight in Islam. The timing of her cycles after a divorce or widowhood is important if she wants to remarry. The breastfeeding relationship is legally important if she nurses a child who is not biologically her own (if the child is under 2, and she nurses him more than 5 times, she becomes a "milk mother," to him, and has some rights of a mother due upon her, and her children become his brothers and sisters, and he can not marry her daughters, etc.)

Anyway, if there is some question or dispute about these two things, and it is taken to court, in this situation, TWO MEN must be called to testify for each woman, for exactly the same reason, so that he may "remind the other" of what he may have seen or known about her cycle or breastfeeding relationship.

[1jooj]

Thank you so much for your knowledge--and even more for your willingness to share it, Umm Zaid!
As I mentioned above, I am still relatively young in Islam, and while we are all still learning, I have far to go. I am so happy to see both you and muslimomma here to share.
Eid Mubarak, inshallah!