Toddler FREAKS at diaper changing - Page 2

[*Erin*]

poor fella. you've gotten great suggestions, and besides seconding that you strip your dipes, i would only add one-have you tried to change him standing up? both my LO's, boy and girl, refused to lie down for changes after about 18 months, so i began to change them while they stood up. this is very difficult if you are using prefolds, but not bad if AIO/pockets or sposies. my ds now only mostly does stand up changes

[Marsupialmom]

My youngest daughter did this. She did it at a much younger age. She did it to exert control over her body. You need to respect it. This exerting control was the first step of potty learning. If you don't want me to touch your vulva you need to put your pee and poop in the potty. If you put poop in the potty it is easier to clean off the poop and you can learn to wipe yourself.

At 3 your child can wash his own penis at bath time....after pooping he needs help. You can start moving the responciblity and control over his body to him.

[jenP]

I feel for you, OP. My son threw huge tantrums about having his diaper changed. Even just pee diapers, so it wasn't about being wiped or washed, because for pee I simply took off the old and put on the new, no wiping involved. So it sounds like something different triggering your son's response, but just the same I feel for you going through the tantrums. For my son, I believe it was a case of he doesn't like change, period. He felt like the old diaper was a part of him and did not want it taken off. I understood his emotions, but... you just can't sit in poo or a puddle of urine. Even though I understood where he was coming from, it was incredibly frustrating and made me pretty mad sometimes. But, t was actually pretty funny sometimes, I would get him in a nice dry diaper and he would scream and rip it off and go get the wet one and try to put it back on! All the while screaming, "put it back on!! I want the old one back on!!!" Then it would defuse the frustration as I just fell down laughing at him, trying to snap back on his 5-lb soggy wet overnight diaper!
My mom said it really illustrated why "It takes a village to raise a child" - it takes the village to hold him down and get his diaper changed!
Thank goodness he started using the toilet early! But early late or in-between, your son will use the toilet one day and this will all be behind you. Try to laugh if you can!

Jen

[InTheStateOfTate]

@jenp - I thought my son was the only one who had a fit over not wanting to change his soaking wet morning diaper! Thank you for making me feel like he is not the only crazy toddler in the world. At least for this issue.

[kosheng]

Originally Posted by InTheStateOfTate

@jenp - I thought my son was the only one who had a fit over not wanting to change his soaking wet morning diaper! Thank you for making me feel like he is not the only crazy toddler in the world. At least for this issue.

rofl!

[homeschoolingmama]

I think it is good that you don't want to push potty training. My son will be 4 in December and just a few weeks ago started going on his own. We never pushed it. We gently suggested it once in a while. For three wks now he has been dry, day and night. He was ready.

I have SPD. I actually didn't know that I had it until I started nursing my first. It was awful. I would scream and throw things to get my mind off of it. I talked to a friend and she told me to look up SPD. It fits me to a T. I have a hard time with light touch but if anyone goes near my nipples I go berserk. I have to wear a padded bra so my shirt doesn't rub through my bra. So I could see it being that.

[mummy2jess]

hi

have you thought about letting him wipe himself?. put a towel down give him a clean cloth and a bowl of water and ask him to wipe on his own. I do this for potty training anyway so I dont see any harm in trying it out even if he isnt intersted in the potty yet.

another thing is that my daughter had a UTI which had the same effect as ir just made her sore even though there was not very much visible change have you had his urine tested? Other symptoms (at least for my daughter) were increased wetting and thirst and general grumpiness!

sophie

[jharring]

Your post sounds exactly like my 20 month old! He is unhappy and "bow legged" when his diaper is off and pushes my hands away and screams at his diaper changing. Did you ever figure out what the problem was? I'm getting worried! Thank you!!