DD is 2.5 and has had mind blowing, horrific fits that would last between 15 and 75 minutes!!! The fits began when we weaned at 23 months. I had always had the sense that I was cutting some big emotional reaction off at the pass by nursing her to a calm state... but I had no idea how upset she was capable of being until we weaned while I was pregnant with DS.
The last 7 months have been really hard on her and I both. The out of control fits brought out ugliness in me and I have to admit that I have lost my temper with her and the behavior many many many times. I felt our relationship was badly damaged... she seems to feel so disconnected from me.
Yesterday she asked if she could nurse- the first time she has asked since she weaned.
I let her... but she did not take any milk. She just put my breast into her mouth and looked up at me with her big brown eyes. She stayed on for maybe 2 minutes, and then said she was done.
I feel that it had helped to heal both of us from the difficulties we have been facing with each other. It reminded me that she was still my baby.
She seems calmer now and more connected. Thank god.
She 'nursed' at the same time as 3 m.o. DS and it was sweet. DS seemed to notice and think it was interesting... DD (4.5) thought it was the funniest thing in the world that her sister was nursing again... and said 'oh... now I have to nurse too!!!" I said "no way sweet girl! You are too too big
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Anyone else unweaned? How did it go?
The last 7 months have been really hard on her and I both. The out of control fits brought out ugliness in me and I have to admit that I have lost my temper with her and the behavior many many many times. I felt our relationship was badly damaged... she seems to feel so disconnected from me.
Yesterday she asked if she could nurse- the first time she has asked since she weaned.
I let her... but she did not take any milk. She just put my breast into her mouth and looked up at me with her big brown eyes. She stayed on for maybe 2 minutes, and then said she was done.
I feel that it had helped to heal both of us from the difficulties we have been facing with each other. It reminded me that she was still my baby.
She seems calmer now and more connected. Thank god.
She 'nursed' at the same time as 3 m.o. DS and it was sweet. DS seemed to notice and think it was interesting... DD (4.5) thought it was the funniest thing in the world that her sister was nursing again... and said 'oh... now I have to nurse too!!!" I said "no way sweet girl! You are too too big
"Anyone else unweaned? How did it go?
