Cold feet?

[texmati]

i know most of you all are super excited to meet your babies... I am too, but I get nervous too mostly about labor, but sometimes about the baby itself. What if I"m not ready, what if I'm overwhelmed?

Any seasoned mom's have those feelings and do ok?

[HydeParkB]

I'm with you, and I'm a second time mom. In some ways, I feel less prepared. We didn't do childbirth classes. And working and mothering takes so much time that I haven't been reading and preparing like I did with the first. (Just washed the baby's laundry last night.)

At the same time I have a bit more confidence that I can roll with it.

The first time around, the hormones after birth really helped quell a lot of nervousness about the baby.

Labor and caring for a baby are overwhelming, but I have confidence in you!

[Earth Momma]

oh the wht if game is no fun!!!! - don't play it!!!

YOU CAN DO ANYTHING - thats why I'm a fan of natural birth because honey if you can do that its so empowering and you feel like you can do anything!! yes there is a lot of on the job training but trust your instincts. and I think baby number 2 can be harder than 1 - its so tough to figure out how to juggle both of their needs and such a different experience than the first but YOU CAB DO IT!!!!

and btw its not like yu can get out of it now : )

[tofutti]

i feel so similar -- but keep remembering the first time -- i was not into the concept of birth, not even quite into the concept of "child" (so abstract!) but let me tell ya.....once it happens, its like ----- you see the world in vivid color when before it was black and white. its like every day is....well there are no words for the amazingness.

so dont even think about it if ya can help it (yeah right ! i know)

but you are gonna be more than fine. you are gonna be over the moon, over the top, over.......hm. again, no words really do it justice.

and thinking about it beforehand, well, it really didnt help or have any bearing on the reality that followed so i would skip it ha

[lrlittle]

i got cold feet during transition. a little.too.late.

you'll be fine, mama. and don't feel bad...it's all normal.

[darcytrue]

This is my third and I've definitely felt this way. A couple of weeks ago I woke up during the night (as I often do 10x a night anyway) and all of a sudden I got a feeling of how there's no turning back and the baby will be here no matter what and everything in my life will change. I felt that way for a mere few minutes and then fell back asleep. Otherwise, majority of the time I'm very excited about it all! I've come a long way since the beginning of this pregnancy when I was very scared to become pregnant over the age of 40 and what it would do to our family and because I thought I was done with the baby making.

[kismetbaby]

Well, another first-timer here so no hard won advice, but just to say I feel ya!

99% of the time I am just counting the minutes till I can meet my baby and am so excited and happy that I made it to 38 weeks pg, etc. etc.

But there is that 1% that hits me every once in awhile, were for a moment I think "oh god, what did I get myself into!?!" and it takes my breath away. I try to let those moments go though. . .as a PP expressed, maybe some things you just can't adequately imagine before hand.

[tofutti]

i also just remembered something funny - last time i was in a panic, every night, waking up, like, OH NO, i dont want my life to change!! what have i done?!

and i actually thought about adoption - for like a minute - but i did! dh thought i was nutso. (and now that i know what its like - that i would literally step in front of a train before i would allow a hair on DS's head to be hurt - its so freaking funny to me)

(and DS was the most hard won baby - infertility, iui, previous losses, etc etc - but still, the crazy brain was there )

its the UNKNOWN ya know?

but how exciting is that? and how many chances in life do you get to be so -- on the verge of a new frontier like this? too cool. its like the moon landing or something. this is my favorite part in a way, now that i "know" -- the unpredictability, the sheer rollercoaster-ness of it

[texmati]

thanks you guys. Toffutti, I hope that comes true for me, the seeing in color, not black and white.

I keep telling myself that no one I know has ever regretted having a child. It is the unknown, and the feeling not prepared. I wish I could say that the majority of the feelings I'm having are positive ones. Instead, I think I'm panicking most of the time, but I do have warm fuzzy moments every now and again. (I miss second trimester soooo much!!!)

Dh keeps telling me not to worry when I tell him to do stuff around the house. I feel like saying-- I'll quit worrying when all this stuff is done!