ped says to wean ds before he becomes dependent

[chirp]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

i looked him straight in the face and said "well isn't he already dependent since it's been his food source since the day he was born?"

DR: "Well, you don't want him to become more dependent. How often do you nurse?"

me: 4-6 times a day. and more for comfort.

dr: "yeah, see that's what i'm talking about."

me: he gets more than 1/2 his nutrition from solid food, most likely.

dr: well when i see him in two months he should be nursing less.



okay seriously...ds is only 16 months old. he EATS and NURSES like a champ. Is already nearly 28 pounds and is just a smidgen over 32 inches. he's healthy. so what the hell is doc's problem anyway. it's not like he's going to have to wean my son??

even my husband was like ... uhhhh, he's already dependent on it!!!

the only reason i didn't resolve to never return is 1. he's not my usual doc and 2. they give me no flack WHATSOEVER about not vax'ing.

[Bokonon]

If you see him again, just say "My breastfeeding relationship is not up for discussion." If your son is thriving and healthy, it is absolutely none of the doctor's business!

[Llyra]

Yeah, that's what I'd do. Just say, "Is there any medical problem? Because we're happy and comfortable with our breastfeeding relationship."

[inkedmamajama]

same old same old...huh? great about the vaxing though.

[Calidris]

wean ds before he becomes dependent

hmm, that would be at birth I would think

I'm sure he's a lot less dependant now than he was a year ago

[chirp]

exactly...now dh can comfort him sometimes...not just boobies.

doc obviously was biased against long term breastfeeding.

i wonder how many mommies fell for his misinformation?

[Bea]

I agree with the Dr.

What on earth are you thinking allowing your 16 month old to become dependent on you for food and cuddles.

Irresponsible woman!

[PatioGardener]

I like to turn it around and make the doc tell you why. Why is he worried about nursing at 16 months? Where is his evidence that says it could be a problem? Why doesn't he follow the WHO, APP, American family physician evidence based guidelines?

[readytobedone]

shameful for a 16 month old to be so dependent! heck, by the time DD was 16 months old she had a part-time job and did the grocery shopping once a month

seriously, do these docs even THINK about what comes out of their mouths?

[chirp]

i wanted to say something about international and american guidelines...especially because this doctor is indian...you'd think he'd be used to the not-american norm. but who knows :

anyway...IF i ever have him again, and he keeps bothering me about it, i will show him how amazingly informed i am and then tell him that because of the info i have my breastfeeding relationship is not up for discussion...

but really i'm just hoping that i get good old dr. jones back...she never says nothin about nothin and just follows my orders.

[chirp]

for real...dh keeps telling ds to get a job...maybe he's right

i mean, hell, I had a job when i was 16 months old. it had something to do with making sure my mom had enough diapers to change!!

[Youngfrankenstein]

Originally Posted by PatioGardener

I like to turn it around and make the doc tell you why. Why is he worried about nursing at 16 months? Where is his evidence that says it could be a problem? Why doesn't he follow the WHO, APP, American family physician evidence based guidelines?

That's what I was going to say...

You could have asked what MEDICAL reason he would have for weaning a 16 month old.

[Earth Momma]

BOUNDRIES - did this guy forget what his job is - time to shop for a new doc

[ChinaDoll]

Those darn kids, always being such dependent little boogers ...

BIT eyeroll for your doc ...

If you choose to keep him as a doc, I'd either tell him up front that the nursing is not up for discussion, or I'd just keep him out of the loop completely.

[chirp]

he's not the usual doc...my doc wasn't there today (unexpectedly)...otherwise i would be finding a new one.

my usual doc at the same office doesn't care about anything as long as e's health and exams come out clean!!

i've only had to deal with this doc once before. when i went in for an emergency and she wasn't there. he prescribed antibiotics for an ear infection. when i went for the followup with my usual doc and told her i didn't fill the script for the antibiotics he gave me she didn't even look phased. she knew they clear up on their own.

she's a much better, more relaxed "let the parent decide" kind of doc...and i've looked and looked for another one like her that doesn't share a practice...but i haven't found one. besides...she attended e's birth, and though we only see her once every few months she always remembers him.

something about her appeals to me. even if her partners do not.

[mommyshanti]

does he want you to give him cows milk or formula i mean what is better than your milk
my guy is 13m. and i couldnt imagine giving him cows milk right now especially with cold season coming sure he'll probablly catch a cold but it wont be all that nasty mucousy snot it'll be nice an dclear and if he's a picky eater you dont have to worry that he's not getting enought becuz u know he's geting all he needs from you
why do docs try to push weening so much???
makes no sense at all