6 weeks? no sex? explain this to me

[GradysMom]

I know some get right back to it... but I'm trying to be a "good patient" since the whole vaginal delivery thing is new to me.

Why 6 LONG weeks? "nothing in there for 6 weeks"... got it, but why.

I'm 2 wks PP and I suprise myself with thoughts of DDT so "soon". My anniversary just suffered a terribly platonic evening... does anyone know the medical reasoning behind such a huge time frame.

Already I feeling like my 1st dg tear is nearly healed and my PP bleeding is really just pink lochia at this point as well, though I suppose bleeding could pick up again...

Anyway can anyone inform me here?

[Koalamom]

After having the baby you basically have an open wound inside of you, and bleeding means you are still healing. 6 week is a general time frame that you should stop bleeding in, but I stopped bleeding at 5 weeks and didn't hesitate to dtd.

I do know that not dtd can really mess with a marriage. We both seemed really grumpy and stressed. I wish there didn't have to be a break.

[Abraisme]

6 weeks is an arbatrary time that some doctor came up with.. My midwives said when I stop bleeding is good or if I feel really ready then it's fine. It takes about 2 weeks for your cervix to close, so it's probably good to wait that long.. We started dtd around 3 weeks pp this time. I was (and still am) bleeding a little, but it was fine.

[texaspeach]

like PP said it's because until involution id complete you have an open wound. But I think it's also to give those moms who aren't interested an excuse to say no and make the doctor the bad guy instead of them - probably a throw back from the old days....

And I'm impressed by those of you who are wanting to DTD! granted I'm only a week out and had a c/s, but the thought of DTD makes my eyes bug out. Hopefully that'll change in a few weeks - I'm really hoping my libido doesn't stay AWOL

excuse typos.. I'm trying to use a netbook and it's really tiny and hard to type on

[mysticmomma]

Originally Posted by Abraisme

6 weeks is an arbatrary time that some doctor came up with.. My midwives said when I stop bleeding is good or if I feel really ready then it's fine. It takes about 2 weeks for your cervix to close, so it's probably good to wait that long.. We started dtd around 3 weeks pp this time. I was (and still am) bleeding a little, but it was fine.

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Def wait for bleeding to stop.

[Koalamom]

Originally Posted by texaspeach

like PP said it's because until involution id complete you have an open wound. But I think it's also to give those moms who aren't interested an excuse to say no and make the doctor the bad guy instead of them - probably a throw back from the old days....

And I'm impressed by those of you who are wanting to DTD! granted I'm only a week out and had a c/s, but the thought of DTD makes my eyes bug out. Hopefully that'll change in a few weeks - I'm really hoping my libido doesn't stay AWOL

excuse typos.. I'm trying to use a netbook and it's really tiny and hard to type on

After I had the baby, I was in no way going to dtd and wasn't going to for a year or more, it sounded so bad to me, but several weeks later, I had gotten the libido I was missing the whole pregnancy. I had forgottren what good sex was like. I thought that breastfeeding would mess with the good sex hormones, but I guess not.

[thorn]

6 weeks is the amount of time until the postpartum appointment usually - it's arbitrary. my doc said "whenever YOU feel ready". If you are ready before then, go for it.

[ombrooklyn]

I DID IT! Sorry to shout but i just dtd! 4.5 wks from giving birth. I was very afraid it would hurt! MW said do it when u feel like it. Well, I just now got the drive, energy, and a quiet enough babe to actually do it.
My anniversary was 13 days PP so it was just dinner and champagne. So ur not alone there!
I say do it whenever you feel ready!

[Amanda Williams]

I'm feeling the need to get back to being physical with hubby again. I know he's missing me big time. Maybe soon...

[thedenverduo]

My midwives were pretty supportive of resuming dtd as soon as I felt ready. I specifically asked if there was any reason not to, and they said no... just to take my time and stop if it hurts. We have been dtd since 12 days pp with no issues or pain. I say go for it when you feel ready!

[Mamatoabunch]

We have always been intimate post baby when I felt like it which has been 9 days to 4 weeks after baby, though usually 2 weeks. I have never torn and my PP bleeding last 10 weeks sometimes, no way I/we would wait that long.

[Jilian]

Wow, I can't believe so many of you have the urge to dtd already. For me it usually takes a good 2 months or so until I'm even willing to try.

[Talula Fairie]

Originally Posted by Jilian

Wow, I can't believe so many of you have the urge to dtd already. For me it usually takes a good 2 months or so until I'm even willing to try.

Iknorite? Me too.

I am kind of wanting to try now, but I'm skerred. I always waited the full six weeks before.

[adoremybabe]

I agree. DTD when you are ready. Surprisingly, I was emotionally ready at around 2 weeks PP. Unfortunately, I was not healed enough to be doing anything. Even more unfortunate, now I have to wait even longer for DH to heal from his surgery.

We also celebrated our wedding anniversary in August. It was an incredibly dry evening. We did however go out to eat as a whole family.

It's tough to wait but I can't even really cuddle with DH at this point....unless I want to cuddle with his feet. His whole abdominal core is pretty tender.

We are planning on going out for a special evening (probably with baby Charlie in tow) after we have both recovered. It will be nice to make sparks fly again!

[Amanda Williams]

Originally Posted by Amanda Williams

I'm feeling the need to get back to being physical with hubby again. I know he's missing me big time. Maybe soon...

Finally got it done! Ouch!

[KristinaMarie]

My OB never mentioned waiting..just whenever you feel ready have at it. We have been DTD since 13 days PP. The hardest part was still thinking that I had this huge belly to contend with..it was really nice once we both realized it was not there anymore.