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[umami_mommy]

[sapphire_chan]

"honey, it's just the words for what you've been doing. You know how it feels to go do letter-boxing with DS? That's connecting and filling his love tank."

I think he might be having trouble with the concept because it's so ingrained in him to interact with his kids the right way that it's hard to conceive of either needing words for it or of people doing anything different?

ETA:
Also "love tank" is awesome and much cooler than "love cup", although "love cup" does allow for the analogy of spilling some.

And, your username is delicious.

[umami_mommy]

http://www.atlc.org/Resources/PamLeo/

[umami_mommy]

Originally Posted by sapphire_chan

And, your username is delicious.

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[Alexander]

"Connecting" has been achieved when the child feels that it has been given time and feels it has been taken seriously.

This is done by sitting around with the child, and getting into the child's world, letting the child lead, and occasionally, gently introducing new ideas/activities that the child can take or leave, no preasure.

That might mean going and thowing a ball with the child, or taking part in a lego fantasy.

The child leads.

You cannot be fixing the car during this time.
You cannot be doing computer during this time.
You cannot be reading the paper during this time.
You cannot be listening to the radio during this time.
You cannot be having your friends over during this time.

Is there any part of this that your DH does not now get?

good luck