[QUOTE=Ksenia;14427468]Some people actually recommend randomly boxing stuff up to make it easier to declutter. The cool thing is that you can take a box out of the "junk room" and work on it in a peaceful area of the house. Then you are not stressed by the clutter in the rest of the room bearing down on you.If I had been the one to do this, I wouldn't have such a big problem with it...
But I went away on vacation to visit some old friends with my girls so all our kiddos could play and we could catch up and when I came home IT WAS ALL BOXED UP...no rhyme or reason to it.....papers with bracelets with clothes with toys. He'd completly done the downstairs to suit himself.
If I had randomly boxed up stuff, it would've been papers in a box, toys in a box, clothes in a box.
But the room is now filled with boxes HE packed while we were away for a weekend and I look at it now and it's overwhelming.......bc I know it's just a mix of things in each box and I have to sort through it and make more piles than I really needed too. I had gotten to the mindframe of ok, I can put this top over here and donate it and put this one to keep but now it's all jumbled up again.
I had gotten to a point where I could actually go and sit in the middle of the room and go through things or at least be able to take a box out and now there isn't anywhere to move in there.
His things are perfectly organized......the entire 2 car garage has new shelving he put up for his hobby things.....there is room for a few of the girls outdoor toys they still play with (rocking dino, etc...) but they have to live in that room bc they clutter up the garage.
Like I said, alot of the problem is the way he goes about doing things to suit himself without thinking he's no longer a bachelor....if it's not HIS, he won't pick it up. I can't understand my things but our children's things??? Toys are out at the end of the night that the 2yo hasn't helped put away (which she loves to do) and he'll step OVER them and complain they aren't put up. Um, how about bending down and putting it on the shelf it goes on next to it instead of stepping over it and moaning about the clutter it's causing (it can be 2 dolls on the floor and he'll walk over it)
I also need someone to sit and talk with me while I go through things so I don't get waylayed but can't find anyone to do so. It's too hard to do when the kids (2 of em) are home bc they sneak stuff away or are underfoot but he won't take them to the park bc he has other things to do...
It's going to be a long process but I've finally come to the place where it needs to go....I just need some hand holding. I need the cluter buster author to come help.....Not that Peter Walsh guy, I don't wanna cry.