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post #161 of 284
so bad that on facebook in that little box where it says to write something about yourself (the one that goes under your profile picture) I wrote "I have a terrible memory, please forgive me if I knew you in high school & now have no idea who you are" (or something to that effect...)

I generally have about 4 years of memory (always have too) - before that things get super fuzzy and the longer away it was the more likely it is that I have absolutely no memories of it whatsoever

and then in terms of short term memory (if that's what you were asking) - I find it's best if I do things *right* away... my boss always thinks I'm super organized - the truth is, if I set something aside I'll forget about it completely
post #162 of 284
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I haven't read through the whole thread yet.

Does anyone have problems with memory? The more scattered I am, the worse my memory becomes. It's been getting so bad the past few months.
My memory is..... selective. where its good its very good and where its bad its horrid.

Hi Andrea!
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post #165 of 284
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Originally Posted by DaughterOfKali View Post
I haven't read through the whole thread yet.

Does anyone have problems with memory? The more scattered I am, the worse my memory becomes. It's been getting so bad the past few months.
Me!

I totally get that, Andrea! My memory is getting worse all the time.

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My memory is..... selective. where its good its very good and where its bad its horrid.
There was a little girl who had a little curl... Gosh I hope you know what I'm referring to.

Heidi, I'm so glad to hear you're feeling a bit better! It's interesting, because for me the holidays have always been a bench mark of my mental health. The first Christmas I experienced after starting one particular med was the best Christmas I'd had since childhood! It was the first time I didn't end up in a ball of anxiety and panic.
post #166 of 284
... right in the middle of her forehead! And when she was good, she was very, very good; and when she was bad she was horrid! (My mom and my grandma used to quote that one about me all the time. )



My dosage has been upped.... I am terribly drowsy.
post #167 of 284
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There was a little girl who had a little curl... Gosh I hope you know what I'm referring to.
post #168 of 284
Thread Starter 
I love that poem. I was one of those unfortunate curly kids with bangs.

What are you on, Heidi?

I'm so excited. I got my boss to agree to cut some of my hours at the shul doing private tutoring. It was the only part of the job that stressed me out, and I'll go from 15+ students to no more than 6 students soon.
post #169 of 284
Ok gals, I'm in need of some serious motivation today. I have to make a bunch of calls to companies for donations for our preschool auction. I HATE making phone calls. Plus I really want to procrastinate, but I'm the board secretary and I can't let the whole preschool down. So I"ve been putting this off for a week already and I NEED to do it today. My plan is to do it when my oldest is in preschool and hopefully the little is taking a nap. So I figured if I posted here, hopefully I will be held accountable. I will report back later!!
post #170 of 284
I've been watching a neat series on PBS, called This Emotional Life, "a three-part series that explores improving our social relationships, learning to cope with depression and anxiety, and becoming more positive, resilient individuals." I recommend you see it if you get a chance. I think you can watch the whole thing on line. The web site is extensive, you'd get a lot out of it even if you don't have time to watch the show.
post #171 of 284
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Ok gals, I'm in need of some serious motivation today. I have to make a bunch of calls to companies for donations for our preschool auction. I HATE making phone calls. Plus I really want to procrastinate, but I'm the board secretary and I can't let the whole preschool down. So I"ve been putting this off for a week already and I NEED to do it today. My plan is to do it when my oldest is in preschool and hopefully the little is taking a nap. So I figured if I posted here, hopefully I will be held accountable. I will report back later!!
Oooh, asking for donations! Can be challenge to make that first call, but it gets easier once you get started. Just think how relieved you'll be when it's done.
post #172 of 284
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I've been watching a neat series on PBS, called This Emotional Life, "a three-part series that explores improving our social relationships, learning to cope with depression and anxiety, and becoming more positive, resilient individuals." I recommend you see it if you get a chance. I think you can watch the whole thing on line. The web site is extensive, you'd get a lot out of it even if you don't have time to watch the show.
Oh no! Just what I need to distract me from making the phone calls! That does look neat though, maybe a reward when I'm done making the calls? No, you're right. It's making that first call that is the challenge. But ds1 is at school and ds2 just fell asleep so here I go...I need chocolate for this...
post #173 of 284
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I love that poem. I was one of those unfortunate curly kids with bangs.

What are you on, Heidi?

I'm so excited. I got my boss to agree to cut some of my hours at the shul doing private tutoring. It was the only part of the job that stressed me out, and I'll go from 15+ students to no more than 6 students soon.
I'm on Zoloft. I talked to the MD yesterday and she said I could take half at night and half at lunch. I did that and today was much less sleepy.

WHoo Hoooooo!!! Good for you smee! I know it can be hard to ask for a break, but your babe deserves a peaceful gestation!

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Oh no! Just what I need to distract me from making the phone calls! That does look neat though, maybe a reward when I'm done making the calls? No, you're right. It's making that first call that is the challenge. But ds1 is at school and ds2 just fell asleep so here I go...I need chocolate for this...


Inquiring minds want to know- did you get the calls made? I would have needed chocolate too...in major quantities.


(DH is rubbing my neck...and checking my spelling as I type! )

gtg.
post #174 of 284
Hi mamas

so about a week ago my mom sent me an article on ADHD in adult women and said she thinks we both have it. i thought it was the stupidest thing she ever said

then she brought me 2 books by halloweel - driven to distraction and delivered from distraction - and now I'm just confused.

there were so many things in the book that describe me perfectly, but then others that don't at all. i definitely have some characteristics that people with ADD have, but not sure if I actually have ADD.

I don't think i can afford a diagnosis right now, and it doesn't seem bad enough to warrant meds at this point anyway.

here are some reasons i think i might have ADD:

- my desk/office/house are a mess. i keep saying i need to get organized but it never happens
- i am constantly misplacing things
- i always put off doing things
- i have lots of ideas but rarely get around to doing them
- i get overwhelmed/stressed very easily when i have a lot of "balls in the air"
- i was hyper as a child - my parents brought me to a dr once because they were worried about hyperactivity but the dr said i was fine
- i get bored with things like yoga, poetry, long movies, etc and i prefer things with more stimulation
- my mind is always racing and jumps from one thing to another
- i am a very "to the point" kind of person and long meetings frustrate me to no end and people who say the same thing 20 different ways or take forever to make their point
- i always need to fidgit with something in my hands - a pen, ntoebook, anything
- i love having people over but the thought of all the cooking and cleaning and shopping that it requires prevents me from doing it more and stresses me when it does happen

here are some things that don't really fit with ADD
- i love to read (although i do skip over unnecessary details to get to the point and i get bored with poetry because it takes too much work to figure it out)
- i've always done very well in school and always did well on tests (for example i got 1550 on my SATs - not trying to brag or anything, but i think the fact that i did so well on tests/in school is the major thing that is making me think i don't have ADD)
- i never had behavioral problems as a child or got in trouble in school
- i'm not impulsive in what i say - i'm a bit of a people pleaser so i tend to choose my words carefully especially in new situations

so i know none of you can diagnose me or anything, but i'm just wondering for those of you who have been diagnosed with ADD, what were your major symptoms? do you fit all the typical signs, or are there some areas where you don't fit?

Thanks, reading through this thread has been really helpful
post #175 of 284
Thread Starter 
You sound a lot like me, in all those aspects.

Check out some of the online stuff about how ADD/ADHD manifests in women. You may find more of yourself there.

ETA: Oh, and welcome!
post #176 of 284
Yeah, alot like me except I don't think anyone would say I was hyperactive. I doodle on paper instead of fidgeted to keep from getting bored and managed to do great in school, till college. I'd been just barely managing with things, but as I keep hoping, it would be much better to not make everything so much harder for myself and not struggle and be so overwhelmed. Sometimes I thrive when I'm so busy I just don't have anytime to do anything, other times I just end up staying up all night to catch up. Then I struggle with feeling guilty for wasting time or if I'm overwhelmed I feel to lazy to start things, sometimes- then guilty.

I wanted to mention, another short way of explaining some of the differences in ADHD is that there are 2 types of ADHD/ADD Inattentive and Hyperactive. I'd had a few people suggest ADD for me, but at first I thought it was crazy too, because I'm not hyperactive and it wasn't the stereotypical ADHD that I had heard about.

I have not read those books but the few books I looked through had me feeling the same way. Somethings really resonated and other things didn't feel right at all. I try to over think a lot of it (diagnosis, etc) and need to just plug away till I find what works for me.
I'm also almost in the opposite "boat", I've been diagnosed and I'm trying to get my mom to look into it more for herself.

Welcome.

Jessica
post #177 of 284
Hi bluedaisy!

You sound a lot like most of us! I'm not hyper either, except to meet a deadline. I love love love to read. I was never a behavioral problem either, and always did spectacularly well on tests. oh well...

hang out with us for a while, you'll figure it out!

how is everyone?
post #178 of 284
bluedaisy - yes, that sounds like me too!

Lately I've been going in waves. Right after the new year, started taking supplements more religiously and I felt awesome, had super motivation. Then I don't know what happened, but I kind of crashed again. I had another appt with the therapist and it was good but I felt like I talked a lot and didn't accomplish much. You know how you just start talking...and talking...and talking and your brain is going in so many directions nothing feels finished? Urgh...I hate that annoying unfinished feeling that I always have! So when I was feeling better I was thinking that I didn't need medication, but now I'm rethinking it. I've been trying to get better (depression mainly) through diet and supplements, but I'm just not sure if that's working. I suppose I ought to give it more time.

Anyhoo, I can usually tell my level of mood by the amount of time I spend on the computer Which lately has been a lot!
post #179 of 284
Thanks for all the replies...I'm still learning about ADD and I guess I still have the stereotype of that hyper little boy who can't sit still, always gets in trouble, and can't focus enough to do well on tests. that's probably why i thought my mom was crazy when she first suggested it.

i also wonder at what point it becomes ADD - for example, I realize I definitely have some characteristics of people with ADD - but not everyone who is disorganized has ADD, right? For example, I get down sometimes and I worry sometimes, but I don't have depression or anxiety.

Just curious how you all realized you had ADD
post #180 of 284
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Just curious how you all realized you had ADD
for me it wasn't so much that I realized I had 'something' and went looking for a diagnosis, but that I felt that my disorganization was getting in the way of too much. I just realized I wanted to do something about it. It was a few things that happened to come together so I went to my dr and mentioned that I was feeling overwhelmed by a lot and some one directed me to ADD and she then recommended I go to a therapist who then did the eval.
I'm trying to focus on moving forward and finding solutions instead of getting stuck on the diagnosis and how everything works. Fitting time to work on me is challenging enough, so it feels like I'm moving at a snails pace.

JEssica
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