ADD Support Thread *THREE* - Page 3

[applecider]

Thanks ladies. I do feel better today, even just in really accepting the fact that this is what I do have. It makes me be more patient with myself and more accepting. I had DP look at the online quiz I took yesterday and he was shocked how many of the questions are so like me. I feel that this will help him to more patience with me as well.

So some things I'm trying today are to do things when I think about them, or more or less, finish something I am doing even though I start to think about something else. Like, I was looking for $5 and I needed a couple more ones so I started to go to my change jar and then I started thinking about needing to do something else, like start laundry, fold clothes or something and instead of getting all flustered and overwhelmed, I decided to just finish getting the $$ and if I got around to doing laundry later, great. If I forgot, then oh well. Time to stop beating myself up.

The other thing that I REALLY need to do is get off the computer. The internet is an ADD person's dream. Open new tab, search for something, open another tab, search for something else. I usually have 10+ tabs open at one time! What really made me realize this is that when I got home from preschool today, I was all happy and in a good mood. I sat down to nurse at the computer and started to read someone's blog and when I got up I immediately started to feel all icky inside. I realized that when I read others' blogs who seem to have it all together, living the kind of life I want, it makes me feel really bad about myself. So I shut all the tabs are started doing something else. The only thing I allowed myself to do was come here and post!!

I'll be keeping up with this thread and our journey with our crazy brains!!

[jessjgh1]

Originally Posted by cody'smomma

The only thing I allowed myself to do was come here and post!!

That's an awesome accomplishement! I always try to do that but always spend more time than I should (and don't stick to my one goal).

Jessica

[applecider]

Well, don't worry! Here I am, back again. But at least I haven't been here the whole time, which is what I usually do. I know it is unrealistic to expect myself to never get online during the day. There have been a few days where I make DP hide the modem cord when I start to feel out of control.

[heidirk]

Kinda like I made DH hide my credit card a couple of years ago...


Hi everyone! (it has been quiet...)


I have had to just focus on being a peaceful momma today. It's been a bit tricky, but I did manage to make bread in the breadmaker, load and run the dishwasher, and make a good breakfast and a good lunch for the boys. I also made another sandpaper letter for DS1, and supervised him while he played with glue and paper for a bit. And we got outside for bit too. (the house is a mess, though)

Tomorrow is library day, and knitting circle...I need to get sme laundry done!

[smeisnotapirate]

Originally Posted by heidirk

I need to get sme laundry done!

Wait.......... you're doing my laundry??????????????

My dad comes in tonight, and I have my 12w appointment in MD, a piano lesson, and then a wedding rehearsal tonight. UGH. No idea when this house is going to get clean (and here i sit online..............).

[heidirk]

Originally Posted by smeisnotapirate

Wait.......... you're doing my laundry??????????????

My dad comes in tonight, and I have my 12w appointment in MD, a piano lesson, and then a wedding rehearsal tonight. UGH. No idea when this house is going to get clean (and here i sit online..............).

geee, you've got enough going on, don't you? You're going to Maryland for prenatal care?

[LilMamiBella]

A lot of these posts sound like me. Especially the house rules post. I haven't been diagnosed but ds10 was just diagnosed. The doc said it was inattentive add or ADHD. I can't remember because the dr said he doesn't like to give labels. He recommended that we motivate ds with rewards and he's starting on the lowest dose of Ritalin. Rewards would be like dance class, guitar class,etc. So far it does seem like he's calmer and is focusing better. I've noticed less yelling from me! His teachers told me 3 years ago to get him diagnosed. I was reluctant about putting him on meds. So I took him out of school and homeschooled him. I tried doing the feingold diet and cod liver oil but didn't see a difference. I was calling dh every day at work to complain about ds. I finally said that we need to see a dr and maybe he'll give us some ideas. Ds was resistant to seeing the dr. But his dr is a really funny dr and that helped. Ds even said to me I've been good all day mommy! So I'm glad to finally have gotten a diagnosis.

[heidirk]

I'm glad for you, LilMamiBella! Those house rules are funny aren't they?! I was entirely serious when I wrote them, too...hehehe...

I hope your DS does very well on the meds.

[LilMamiBella]

Originally Posted by heidirk

I'm glad for you, LilMamiBella! Those house rules are funny aren't they?! I was entirely serious when I wrote them, too...hehehe...

I hope your DS does very well on the meds.

Thanks Heidi. Dh says I wouldn't have this problem with people coming over if I just kept the house clean. He says it like its an easy thing and like it'll stay clean when I'm done.

[heidirk]

Originally Posted by LilMamiBella

Thanks Heidi. Dh says I wouldn't have this problem with people coming over if I just kept the house clean. He says it like its an easy thing and like it'll stay clean when I'm done.

stay clean? on what planet?

[smeisnotapirate]

Originally Posted by LilMamiBella

Thanks Heidi. Dh says I wouldn't have this problem with people coming over if I just kept the house clean. He says it like its an easy thing and like it'll stay clean when I'm done.

Do you have the same DH as I do? The one who will finish a bag of cereal and then leave the empty bag on the table for the animals to get and scatter around the house? And then the same DH who will go "this house is always so dirty!" as if he had nothing to do with it?

[heidirk]

hey, I just had to share this because it's so odd...

I've been having a really steady, stable and productive last two days. I have no idea why.

I have been a good mommy, and have not forgotten anything important. I have been creative and happy. I also have not taken any of my usual vitamins except for my valerian at night.

I really wish I knew what was going on.



off to bed with me...

[applecider]

Heidi- I don't know but it seems like the same thing happened to me last week! Only I was thinking it was because I finally got around to doing something (making a phone call) that I had been putting off for awhile. I didn't realize how on edge I was having that hanging over my head. However now the person has not called me back yet and that feeling is creeping back in. MUST call today!!

I hope that you continued to feel relaxed and stable! I have also been feeling like a more patient mommy (not this morning though!). I really want to get around to reading the parenting books that I bought recently but we all know how that goes...

[Maggirayne]

Originally Posted by cody'smomma

So some things I'm trying today are to do things when I think about them, or more or less, finish something I am doing even though I start to think about something else. Like, I was looking for $5 and I needed a couple more ones so I started to go to my change jar and then I started thinking about needing to do something else, like start laundry, fold clothes or something and instead of getting all flustered and overwhelmed, I decided to just finish getting the $$ and if I got around to doing laundry later, great. If I forgot, then oh well. Time to stop beating myself up.

The other thing that I REALLY need to do is get off the computer. The internet is an ADD person's dream. Open new tab, search for something, open another tab, search for something else. I usually have 10+ tabs open at one time! What really made me realize this is that when I got home from preschool today, I was all happy and in a good mood. I sat down to nurse at the computer and started to read someone's blog and when I got up I immediately started to feel all icky inside. I realized that when I read others' blogs who seem to have it all together, living the kind of life I want, it makes me feel really bad about myself. So I shut all the tabs are started doing something else. The only thing I allowed myself to do was come here and post!!

HAHAHAHA, I currently have 32 tabs open.

Originally Posted by LilMamiBella

Thanks Heidi. Dh says I wouldn't have this problem with people coming over if I just kept the house clean. He says it like its an easy thing and like it'll stay clean when I'm done.

I am motivated to clean IF someone is coming. But stay clean, sigh,

I forgot to sub, lol, so that's why I was MIA.

Welcome, Cody's Momma and LilMamiBella!

Hey Sara, what if you edited the opening post, (I know, I know, something else to do, sorry) so mamas know this is for anyone w/ADD? Not just our chatter page.

[heidirk]

32 tabs!!!!!!!!


Wow!
I feel like the computer will explode if I open more than 5!

it's back to old foggy headed heidi... But it's OK...at least this person is familiar.

I'm heading toward class again, hoping to get the house in order a bit before it starts. I already have my books, and have started reading them. I hope that will put me in a less stressful place.

The house is done!! We have heat again! Matt got a new job with benefits and paid time off!!!


OTOH......

AF is a week late...

[smeisnotapirate]

Originally Posted by heidirk

OTOH......

AF is a week late...

Eeep!

[heidirk]

smee, you're a riot. eep, is right.

[Maggirayne]

Yay for you! And Matt's job!

Are you gonna POAS?

[smeisnotapirate]

POAS! Do it! Inquiring minds must know!

[jessjgh1]

oh oh oh, i figured it out I figured it out.. I hope I hope... hand in the air widly waving...

Pee On A Stick????

((hugs))