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post #61 of 284
well, I POAS.....




it was negative (insert hugely relieved smilycon here)


understand, we want more kids in the future...but my world is a mess right now, and DH and I want some time to get things straight budget wise, spendsome time on ourselves () get the house cleaned up a bit, etc. I actually called my momma in tears....she had lots of sympathy for us.

The drama however is not over, because AF is still not here, and nowhere in sight. I will POAS again on Monday...so I'll let you all know then....
post #62 of 284
Happy Busy Weekend everyone!


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post #63 of 284
Thread Starter 
Heidi!

Isn't this only your 2nd PPAF? My cycles were wonky and long for a bit... you may just be slowly regulating back to normal.

Hoping you get a negative on Monday.
post #64 of 284
OMG! I have found my people! I will post after frantically cleaning the house
post #65 of 284
welcome!
post #66 of 284
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OMG! I have found my people! I will post after frantically cleaning the house
Welcome!


post #67 of 284
Hey all! So after my last post I went and checked out every ADD book from the library. It is amazing how much they resonate with me. I'm not ready to try meds yet, I am breastfeeding and I'm just not willing to risk it. I'm going to try some other things first. I do have a question for you ladies, though. How on EARTH do you remember to take pills? I am SO bad with it. I can be good for like a day or so, but even with the little pill box, I have a really hard time remembering. That's why I could never do birth control pills, cause I would forget and then it messed with me pretty bad. Also, now that I know what my problem is, I can see the things I do that are causing problems in my relationship. Being impulsive with my words, quick to anger...I was hoping that knowing this would help DP to be a little more understanding (not that I'm not trying to work on it) but I still feel like he thinks I should be a certain way (not going to happen unless maybe I'm on meds). How do I get him to understand that who I am is not going to go away? I can "work" on certain things till I'm blue in the face and the fact of the matter is, my brain cannot "do" things the way he thinks it should.

Anyway, hope you're all having a lovely weekend! Oh, also, do you guys go to any other sites, like forums for ADDers? Thanks!
post #68 of 284
Hah! A forum for ADD'ers! that'd be a good idea! (never thought of that! heheh)


As far as remembering to take pills...when I'm pregnant, DH puts a sticky note on the coffee pot! I have found though, that using my hyperfocus, I CAN create habits one at a time. I basically create a compulsion to do soemthing.

Keys- I designated a basket and put it right inside my door. All of my keys are on one ring (except my Church key). Immediately upon entering, I put my keys in the basket. In the ten years since I began this habit I have only locked myself out of my house four times. Now, for me that's a huge success.

Vitamins- same thing. Come downstairs, take vits, pour coffee and cereal. Make lunch, take vits. It has to be very simple. It's easy to notice when I'm hungry, so that's when I take my vitamins.

These are the only two things I have successfully created a habit for.
post #69 of 284
Thread Starter 
Hey, zipworth!

codysmama - but who would moderate such a forum???? I'd totally WANT to moderate, but never get around to it.

There are websites that e-mail you reminders - I used that when I was pg with DS for my vitamins. (I'm a compulsive computer-user )

Heidi, any POAS updates?
post #70 of 284
POAS update.... (by the way you all will be sick of this by the time I have anything figured out) yesterday AM....Negative.

BUT- and this is a HUGE BUT, I got four negs w/Milo before I got a BFP, yes four, and I KNEW I was Pregnant. so this is at best inconclusive.



On a different subject- as of Nov. 2 we will have insurance. DH and I are both going to be seeing counsellors- he for Aperger's testing (and anger), and me for my ADD/Anxiety.

I am very excited for the Holiday Season to begin. We will be able to do a small but respectable Christmas this year.

And class starts in two weeks.
post #71 of 284
Thread Starter 
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POAS update.... (by the way you all will be sick of this by the time I have anything figured out) yesterday AM....Negative.

BUT- and this is a HUGE BUT, I got four negs w/Milo before I got a BFP, yes four, and I KNEW I was Pregnant. so this is at best inconclusive.
So are you getting that feeling again? Keep in mind that even if you ARE pregnant again (and the timing's not so good), you won't have baby for another 8 months or so, right? So at least it's not immediate baby, you know? Small comfort, but a bit of comfort nonetheless.

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On a different subject- as of Nov. 2 we will have insurance. DH and I are both going to be seeing counsellors- he for Aperger's testing (and anger), and me for my ADD/Anxiety.

I am very excited for the Holiday Season to begin. We will be able to do a small but respectable Christmas this year.

And class starts in two weeks.
Yay for insurance! It always amazes me that we're so similar, Heidi. I'm pretty sure DH is a mild Aspie as well and he gets frustrated and angry soooo quickly that it's shocking. And, well, you ALL know my ADD/anxiety stuff.

I'm actually wondering about starting Lexapro to ward off PPD (which I had with DS) immediately postpartum. I'm also planning on encapsulating my placenta (no idea how THAT is going to work), because I don't care how gross it sounds to me, if it keeps me from PPD again, I'll do it.

And yay for modest Christmas! We actually have a Christmas tree that's really nice that DH bought the first year we were married and we haven't put up since. Do you want it for this year, or will you do a real tree?
post #72 of 284
Ohhhh, real tree for sure! DH and I might even be able to get each other gifts!

Do you take an Omega three supplement? I took one while pregnant with Milo, and it helped immensely. Less Mommy Brain, more even keeled emotions during PG, too. I had a good PP time after Milo, especially considering the situation we were in, with DH having lost his job, no insurance, etc. I got a softchew type.

No, I'm OK, now about a maybe baby...I wasn't, I was scared. But as I look back over the last year, and I see how God has taken care of us, I can trust that He will continue. DH has started looking for a bigger car. And yes, I have some familiar symptoms. I won't go into details here!


Smee- about your DH, it does explain a lot doesn't it? I wonder if the anger is triggered by the whole 'missing social cues' thing? Always feeling half a beat behind? I have felt that myself, especially in group conversations and it is unnerving and embarrassing. The more He talked about it, the clearer it became to him.


'que sera, sera'
post #73 of 284
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oh oh oh, i figured it out I figured it out.. I hope I hope... hand in the air widly waving...

Pee On A Stick????


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OMG! I have found my people! I will post after frantically cleaning the house
Welcome!
Ha, I babysat today just to get motivated to clean. :doh I am sooooo glad I don't have twins.
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codysmama - but who would moderate such a forum???? I'd totally WANT to moderate, but never get around to it.

There are websites that e-mail you reminders - I used that when I was pg with DS for my vitamins. (I'm a compulsive computer-user )
Really? where?

Rofl, someone who wasn't ADD?

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POAS update.... (by the way you all will be sick of this by the time I have anything figured out) yesterday AM....Negative
Naw. . . I got 3 negs w/A, knew I was. And that was 5 weeks after LMP, I mean, ovulating was 3 weeks after, but that was after my arm breaking and was wonky. But I looked at one a couplr hours later and saw that faint line, hadn't been looking, waaaah, it's too late at night to get another test! Dark a week later.

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I'm actually wondering about starting Lexapro to ward off PPD (which I had with DS) immediately postpartum. I'm also planning on encapsulating my placenta (no idea how THAT is going to work), because I don't care how gross it sounds to me, if it keeps me from PPD again, I'll do it.
I did mine, haven't ground and encapsulated it. I seriously need to be taking it. Or get AF--yeah right.
post #74 of 284
I cleaned off the top of the toy shelves today! Now Henry's crafts and 'school' stuff is up there. I wanted to get more done today, but the washing machine has malfunctioned, and it kind of threw me off. Oh, I did get the sewing room/toy room/living room cleaned up and all the toys put away. It still needs vacuumed though.






Man, I feel like I could sleep for week. :yawning This grey day has really gotten too me. I have officially recovered my sense of humor about this whole thing.
post #75 of 284
Heidi-that's great about insurance! Nice to know you can actually DO something.

I made a Dr. appt for tomorrow for a referral to a psychologist/mental health counselor/what have you. I'm amazed that I actually did it and didn't put it off for months! But I have just had it. I don't even want drugs I just want to talk to someone. It's like, as soon as I really embraced my self-diagnosis, so many things started to make sense. And I'm wondering if I don't also have adrenal fatigue from the years of stressing myself out to get anything done.

Which brings me to today, I had a SUPER crappy day, headache, overwhelmed with messiness...and as I was driving to pick up my co-op order, it dawned on me that I was feeling super depressed about having ADD. Because all this time I've thought, oh in a few years when the kids get older, I'll be able to get my s*** together. Or, someday, I'll be organized and have the life I picture and won't have to struggle. But the fact is, I'll ALWAYS struggle. My brain will always be this way. And I guess it was just super depressing to realize that I will have to struggle with my ways forever. On the other hand, it also makes me realize that I really do need to take control and help myself out rather than playing the lazy victim. DP is so good though. When he came home I was curled up on the couch, kids running wild. He brought me some pain meds for the headache and then proceeded to cook dinner (mac and cheese!), do the dishes and pick up a bit. Ah, it was wonderful to have a short nap and not have to THINK for two seconds.

Also, I've come to the conclusion that I will NOT be taking over the board treasurer position for preschool next year. I do NOT need to do that to myself. And I should not feel bad about it.

Anyway, sorry to go off there, but this is the first thread I think of lately when I want to vent!

Oh, by ADD forums I meant like I've gone to these ADD sites lately (can we say, hyperfocus??) and trying to get a glimpse into others' add lives and how they cope. Like ADDerworld and yahoo groups of ADD women and stuff. Just trying to connect and get help!!
post #76 of 284
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by cody'smomma
Which brings me to today, I had a SUPER crappy day, headache, overwhelmed with messiness...and as I was driving to pick up my co-op order, it dawned on me that I was feeling super depressed about having ADD. Because all this time I've thought, oh in a few years when the kids get older, I'll be able to get my s*** together. Or, someday, I'll be organized and have the life I picture and won't have to struggle. But the fact is, I'll ALWAYS struggle. My brain will always be this way. And I guess it was just super depressing to realize that I will have to struggle with my ways forever. On the other hand, it also makes me realize that I really do need to take control and help myself
big, big to you. THis was a rough patch for me too, when I went through it. It's easy to stay in one 'place' and not start anything....I call it being a victim of my own inertia. an object at rest stays at rest, etc. etc..... I aplaud you for getting something done bout it.

I too, just need to talk to someone about it.

and for DP's who can cook!
post #77 of 284
BTW......





AF is here.
post #78 of 284
I've found my way back to this thread......I have an appt to meet with a therapist tomorrow and I'm really hoping that I make it work with this one, because he is totally bending the rules for me as far insurance so that I can afford to see him, and if I can't go there then there will be no therapy at all. And I know I need it for a variety of reasons that are too exhausting to even ennumerate.

One question for you all who have done therapy: did you focus on the ADD and then find that your other issues resolved (like anxiety, depression, etc) or did you do therapy for another issue or a specific problem (like, for example, I'm staying with mom and it's extremely stressful) and that in turn helped you to cope with ADD? Does that make sense? He asked me to decide what I wanted to work on first, because there are so many issues, and I was kind of thinking to myself "um....you're the professional....you tell me!"

On a positive note I actually forced myself to get up and go out today with ds. I didn't clean the house like my mom wanted but I did manage to go to a job interview (on the bus, with ds, no small feat in this city that doesn't believe in reliable public transit), call about a dozen more prospective jobs when we got home, and cook dinner for everyone.....cajun chicken, rice and sweet potatoes. And then I got into a yelling match with my mom and we all ended up eating dinner in separate rooms. But hey, life isn't perfect, lol.
post #79 of 284
Thread Starter 
Yay for AF!

waiting, no help here. No therapy for me.
post #80 of 284
oops, lol, I missed that the first time around. I saw the "BTW..." and I kept saying, btw what? lol

glad to see AF finally showed up!
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