|Originally posted by IdentityCrisisMama
Forest Sage, I have heard that there are women gamers but I’ve never had the pleasure, lol. Could I pick your brain?
What’s the deal? Why do you like them? What do you get out of it? I honestly don’t get it and DH can’t explain it.
With the violent games, I especially don’t get it. I’ve asked DH why he can’t play games that exercise the same skills w/o killing and he kind of freezes up. How does the killing component enhance the game? What are you thinking about when you play?
Please don’t take offence to this. I’m MARRIED to someone who does this and I love and respect him. I just don’t understand. I figure I may get a better answer out of a woman!
No problemo, IdentityCrisisMama! No offence taken!
I like them because I consider them a high form of art and entertainment. It gives me a sense of accomplishment (whether or not one agrees with me is moot, how I measure my sense of accomplishment is going to be different from someone else's). I once butted heads with my aunt because I told her once that "riding" a horse in a game was "just like the real thing." Let's just say we didn't meet eye to eye
Of course it's not like really riding a horse. But the point is, is that our lives are restricted in a sense, and gaming is an appropriate out. As for what I get out of it, the feeling that I have mastered something that is challenging and interesting TO ME is what I get out of it. Not to mention feeling like I'm "at home" in a world where I don't feel insecure, lonely or like the oddball that I am. See, I used to ride horseback, but the physical toll it would take on my body was atrocious. I like my brain stimulated instead.
If I was neglecting my DH or my job or caring for my kids there would be a huge problem, but if things are kept in check then I think gaming is healthy. I can't speak to the ultraviolent games that saturate the market now because I don't like them. I prefer RPG/Fantasy. There's killing in those kinds of games too. I like taking down the bad guys. It gives me a sense of adventure.
BTW I have no aspirations to play EverQuest ~ I know enough about myself and my limits to know that I should avoid that which will enslave me.