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post #41 of 49
That's great news. He'll explain it to eventually - you sound really patient (giving him lots of time) and I'm sure he appreciates that although you've been firm, you've given him his space too.
post #42 of 49
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Yeah, I think he didn't want to talk about it for a couple of reasons:
1. thinking about what happened to him without thought about his feelings
2. didn't want to hear/say that I was right
3. just being *done* with it.

It's fine. I gave him information on caring for an intact penis in my initial letter (yes, it was delivered with attachments!). So we will just move on and I'll patiently wait for him to tell me.

Thanks for your support, all. It was really nice to be able to put my thoughts together before taking them to my husband.
post #43 of 49
I'm glad that it worked out!
post #44 of 49
Awesome update! It really doesn't matter WHY he wants to leave little man intact--that main thing is that he is on board! Congrats!
post #45 of 49
I am glad that your son will remain with his foreskin.

Now that the decision against circumcision has been made for your baby boy, it's probably the end of thinking about infant circumcision for you. It's most likely just the beginning for your husband.

If he's truly researched it, he now knows that he himself has lost a very highly sensitive part of his body. He knows the function of the foreskin and that he lacks that function. He knows that he's never experienced sex as it was meant to be and he never will. He knows that something was taken from him without his consent at his most vulnerable time - a helpless infant. He knows that his parents didn't protect him and instead, invited this upon him (unless it was done without their consent or done under coercion.) He knows that the medical community can be seriously wrong and he may become distrustful of them. (Ever wonder why men are so hesitant to go to the doctor? I wonder if it is because of the negative association from the primal wound inflicted upon their sex organ as infants that they avoid doctors?)

I can only imagine what a heavy load this is to process for a circumcised man that learns the truth.
post #46 of 49
I wanted to say that I am deeply sorry for your husband to have to learn this information and have to process it all. Circumcision is a wound upon a baby that ripples out to effect so many people. I get personally saddened by this issue every time I hear of it.
post #47 of 49
What a great final update!!!!!! You handled this very calmly, rationally and respectfully - I am super impressed as this is hard to do with such an emotionally charged issue AND with pregnancy hormones to boot! Nicely done.
post #48 of 49
I'm so glad everything's working out for you guys. I'm just starting my fight with my DH. I personally would love to do the letter-thing (my preferred method of communication), but DH hates reading anything even somewhat lengthy - especially if there's emotional baggage attached to the topic. He just gets upset and confused and won't focus on what's being explained.

I'm really not sure how to approach this. He's the type to dig in his heels and rarely responds to logic in a positive way. I'm hoping if I bring it up weekly, he'll eventually start analyzing how he feels or do some research.

Always,
Jill
post #49 of 49
I'm so so so happy you and your DH are now on the same page! I think your letter was amazing and I'm glad DH took the time to read and research. Yeah for intact boys!!!
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