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post #21 of 37
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I have decided to go back home and visit my family and have my old midwife check my levels. I need to know for sure that this pregnancy is a loss or I will always wonder. My mdwife here can't order any lab work due to state laws and I would much rather drive 6 hours and be near my family and beloved midwife then wait 4 in that doctors office (twice) again and be treated like cattle by the staff. If it is indeed a loss, my midwife recommended black and blue cohosh. Thanks all, I love being able to come here for support. I am putting my grief on hold for now!
post #22 of 37
I think your plan is sound. My sister had a similar situation with an ultrasound and a recommended D&C- and now has a healthy and happy 4 year-old.

Best of luck to you!
post #23 of 37
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I wonder how common that is? I'm sure it's not too common, but it would be interesting to know.
post #24 of 37
you can go to this site and see stories about it, guess its pretty common.
post #25 of 37
Be good to yourself. I'm so sorry.

Be cautious, if you have a strong reaction to herbal remedies. In late June, after finding that my unborn baby no longer had a heartbeat, I took a variety of herbs that ended up causing me to bleed pretty badly, and even though I wanted to avoid the hospital, I ended up in the ER anyway (my blood wasn't clotting, it was flowing so quickly).
post #26 of 37
It's not uncommon, but it is rare enough that most MD's act as if it were an impossibility. I have a story of a pressured D&C who is now a perfect 3 year old, and because of that experience, I encourage every mom to be certain before they make a decision. I 100% understand the need to move on if they are certain, but if you have any doubt, don't rush into anything.
post #27 of 37
I am so sad for you. So sorry. I hope you have peace and healing.
post #28 of 37
I am so sorry. I hope you get some conclusive answers very soon.
post #29 of 37
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Thanks. My midwife back home is pretty confident that my baby is dead and won't test my blood for me. I am going to just wait a few weeks and get an ultrasound from wherever will let me schedule one without a referral (if that's even possible). After reading the stories on that website, I just can't accept this loss today. Not without further testing. I'm aware that it's pretty likely my baby is really dead, but I haven't given up all hope yet.
post #30 of 37
I'm going to reiterate the need for further testing, and also express my surprise that the midwife didn't at least offer to do a repeat scan a week hence.

With my blighted ovum, it was pretty obvious to me that there was no baby in the sac. I mean, I could see it, empty sac. We opted to check levels AND do a repeat scan a few days later. In the meantime, I spoke to a friend who was told she was diagnosed with a blighted ovum...who is now a happy 11-year-old! Alas, my levels were falling, and the repeat scan showed a collapsing egg sac, so there is no doubt in my mind that there was no baby. But you are so smart and right to make certain!

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post #31 of 37
I am so sorry.

I am also shocked that your Midwife is refusing to evaluate further. It is our clinic practice (in a situation like yours) to check hCG levels and perform a repeat US.
It should really be your choice. I am sorry you are meeting resistance.
post #32 of 37
Everywhere around here requires a referral, unfortunately. Can you check with your original ob? Or, if you have a general practitioner you could ask them to give you a referral. I asked my GP after our loss in January and she set me up an appointment for an u/s in about 5 minutes. I wish you the best of luck no matter what may happen.
post #33 of 37
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Originally Posted by ians_mommy View Post
I am so sorry.

I am also shocked that your Midwife is refusing to evaluate further. It is our clinic practice (in a situation like yours) to check hCG levels and perform a repeat US.
It should really be your choice. I am sorry you are meeting resistance.
: I'm so sorry. I can't understand how they won't offer you some peace of mind, one way or the other.
post #34 of 37
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I am pretty disappointed in my midwife, and hurt. I called my new midwife and told her that my old one refused the bloodwork. She told me to call the doctor back this morning to ask for another ultrasound in two weeks. She felt like it was really important for me to have my doubts examined and fears validated. I didn't think the doctor would order another ultrasound because when I called this morning they told me it wasn't necessary and kept asking me why I wanted another scan. I was happy when they called back and told me she would fax orders to a place close by so I could avoid the long commute and wait. So now, I am taking a pregnancy test in a week and right before the ultrasound in two weeks incase my hcg drops low enough to not show up so I know I can cancel the ultrasound. It's going to be a hard two weeks, but better then a lifetime of wondering what if. Here's praying for a miracle and/or peace of mind.
post #35 of 37
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Originally Posted by christina10106 View Post
I am pretty disappointed in my midwife, and hurt. I called my new midwife and told her that my old one refused the bloodwork. She told me to call the doctor back this morning to ask for another ultrasound in two weeks. She felt like it was really important for me to have my doubts examined and fears validated. I didn't think the doctor would order another ultrasound because when I called this morning they told me it wasn't necessary and kept asking me why I wanted another scan. I was happy when they called back and told me she would fax orders to a place close by so I could avoid the long commute and wait. So now, I am taking a pregnancy test in a week and right before the ultrasound in two weeks incase my hcg drops low enough to not show up so I know I can cancel the ultrasound. It's going to be a hard two weeks, but better then a lifetime of wondering what if. Here's praying for a miracle and/or peace of mind.


I hope the next two weeks go by quickly.
post #36 of 37
Thinking of you and praying for two peaceful weeks.
post #37 of 37
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I will pray for you.
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