Thanks for sharing that! I don't know if my son has BPD, but it's good to know that if he does, there is a chance of him going on to lead a happy and normal (or at least close to normal, with some speed bumps perhaps) life.
I don't mind talking about Erica and she doesn't either. She views her mental illness as no different from the diabetic who has to take insulin. I have told her how proud of her I am. It takes courage to seek help for a mental illness like bipolar and to be open about taking medication for it. She has held a full time job, lived on her own and is now the proud mother of 2 girls with her so of 12 years. They have had a very up and down relationship, breaking up, getting back together, and going through couple counseling before settling down and having kids. There have been periods when she didn't have to take medication. But she monitors her emotions and when she starts down that road again, she goes back on them. She is at high risk for PPD and both her and her dr monitor her closely. She was able to nurse her first (while on medication) for over 18 months before she self-weened because Erica was pregnant. Erica is now breastfeeding her 2nd and has decide to try out the sahm gig.
Because of her (what we thought of at the time) her extreme shyness and very low stress threshold and her reaction to church and Sunday school (4 hours at church on Sunday morning) with teachers and kids that she had always known, we knew that she would not do well in a classroom setting. She couldn't stand up to speak in front of the class and she never looked at who she was talking to. And we didn't want to fight the school district over a misdiagnosis of ADHD, ADD, or learning disabilities. None of which she had. So we sidestepped the whole thing and home schooled her. She did go to a Montessori classroom for 6th grade. Then went to a classroom/home school combination (in school for 2-2.5 days, at home 2.5-3 days). She did well in both situations. In fact, she ran (and won) for class president in 9th grade. And even gave a speech at 9th grade graduation, head down and white-knuckled hands gripping the podium in a death grip. But she did it. One of the proudest memories I have of her childhood. She went on and did 10th and 11th grades at the high school. Decided to do independent study for her senior year and finished the entire year by the end of the first semester.