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mourning the loss of a friend from violent death

post #1 of 19
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A friend of mine, a mother with a young son, was violently killed this past weekend by her ex. Her son witnessed most, if not all, of it. She was the sister of my best friend from high school and we became close later, while we lived in the same area w/o my friend nearby...

I just can't believe it and so angry at the man who did it. I can't believehow selfish he was/is and can't believe that he is alive, rotting now in jail, while she's dead...and thier little boy has no parents. My friend will most likely adopt her nephew but I am just a mess over this. I think about it all the time, and if I have to do something, I focus, then my thoughts go right back. Always thinking about her, cant' believe it's real.

I worry too about the effects of violent death on her soul. Is that weird? Is she confused? I hope she died quickly and hopefully she knew her son would be okay....

It's effecting more than I thought it would....

Since hardly anyone I know knew her, other than my best friend, I felt the need to simply be around people who could relate to being in grieving.

Thanks.
post #2 of 19
I could not read without offering lots and lots of hugs.
post #3 of 19
What a tragic senseless loss. I am so sorry.
post #4 of 19
I'm so sorry mama

I don't have any answers to your questions, but how awful.
post #5 of 19


I am so sorry.
post #6 of 19
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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post #8 of 19
Thread Starter 
thanks everyone.
post #9 of 19
I am so sorry.
Peace and healing to you and the family left behind. (HUGS)
post #10 of 19
Thread Starter 
I appreciate everyone who has taken a moment to pause on this thread with me. It's been so sad. Funeral today.

Lyrics from one of her favorite albums, Emmy Lou Harris' "wrecking ball" being used in the service

All My Tears
When I go don't cry for me
In my fathers arms I'll be
The wounds this world left on my soul
Will all be healed and I'll be whole

Sun and moon will be replaced
With the light of Jesus' face
And I will not be ashamed
For my savior knows my name

It don't matter where you bury me
I'll be home and I'll be free
It don't matter where I lay
All my tears be washed away

Gold and silver blind the eye
Temporary riches lie
Come and eat from heaven's store
Come and drink and thirst no more

So weep not for me my friend
When my time below does end
For my life belongs to him
Who will raise the dead again

It don't matter where you bury me
I'll be home and I'll be free
It don't matter where I lay
All my tears be washed away

Thanks again....
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post #12 of 19
I'm so sorry for your loss, and the anger you must feel.
Sending strength and comfort to you, your friend, & her son.
post #13 of 19
I'm so sorry.
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post #15 of 19
I'm so sorry that you lost a loved friend that way. SO sorry for her little boy. How absolutely horrifying. Poor baby. That song is so beautiful, though, and I believe that her soul is at peace and at rest, now. If she loved that song, then I bet she believes that, too. I know she will be watching over her little boy.
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post #17 of 19
so sorry for your loss. my prayers are with her son
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I'm so sorry
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