Scared ds will end up getting beaten up! - Page 2

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

I will be 100% honest here if it was my kid being touched I would take the steps to get the one who done it help and if the child didnt get help I would be pressing charges.

I never want my child to think I didnt protect them if they where being abused and yes crotch grabbing is abuse when it is unwanted.

[hillymum]

Where did I say grabbing? Ds hasn't grabbed anyone? Dear god! Do you really think i would come to an open forum and announce my ds was grabbing his friend privates? Lord, now I understand the over reaction of some of these replies! He's smacked his friends bum! He once pinched a friend on his bum. You think this makes him a molester or abuser? Oh boy, got to love the people on MDC at times!

MCatLvrMom2A&X, thank you for your reply!

[annethcz]

I think a big part of the "overreaction" has to do with your ambiguous wording in the OP. It did sound as if he was grabbing other children's genitals more than once a year.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Originally Posted by hillymum

Where did I say grabbing? Ds hasn't grabbed anyone? Dear god! Lord, now I understand the over reaction of some of these replies! He's smacked his friends bum! He once pinched a friend on his bum.

MCatLvrMom2A&X, thank you for your reply!

That makes a big difference in my reply. I just assumed when you said inappropriately touching the he was grabbing genitals not smacking bums. I never thought of slapping bums as inappropriate touching before. My dd does it especially to her younger brother me and other family members. I am trying to break her from it since I dont want her doing it to kids or heaven forbid teachers at school.

I think you should go back up in the OP and put all the other information in there and I bet you will get some good advice on how to deal with the situation.

Originally Posted by hillymum

Do you really think i would come to an open forum and announce my ds was grabbing his friend privates?

Well it happens more than you might think. I have come across several posts exactly like that in the years I have been posting here.

[mtiger]

Having gotten a picture of what's actually happening, I'd say the over-reaction comes in the form of assuming that he's going to get beaten up and/or labeled as gay for what many people who play team sports do. You definitely made it sound like a bigger deal than it is. Definitely more dramatic.

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Originally Posted by hillymum

He's smacked his friends bum! He once pinched a friend on his bum. You think this makes him a molester or abuser? Oh boy, got to love the people on MDC at times!
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LMBO.... OK, but still, butt slapping is only acceptable when immediately followed with "Good Game" and usually while wearing football gear.

Otherwise, it's just kinda creepy. While I wouldn't assume he's going to be accused of assault, the other kids ARE going to give him a hard time. I doubt they will beat him up though.

Occasionally, it's not a terrible thing he learns a lesson the hard way. It'd be better if he just figured it out on his own, but if he doesn't it's not the end of the world if his friends let him know that they aren't going to put up with it.

[karne]

OP, you're sending really conflicting messages here. You seem to be laughing off, or downplaying your son's "butt slapping" or "pinching" behavior, yet you were concerned enough about his welfare to post here about not wanting him to get beaten up?

While I initially thought not, is this really a concern about what you perceive as your son's sexuality? You seemed to be asking for support/help with that question.

I have a child close in age to yours. I don't see your son's behavior as being well received by either other kids or their parents. Kids are pretty aware of their growing/changing bodies at this point. I do think it's cause for concern, and I hope you can get him appropriate help.