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Throwing in the towel--calling OB tomorrow

post #1 of 32
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Looks like homebirth is not in the cards this time around. I am 42+1 today. My MW is taking a risk letting us get this far and has helped us try everything. I have spent 7+ hours away from home every day for the last three days seeing my MW, getting BPPs and NSTs, and doing everything within my power to bring labor on. It is just getting to be too much and I don't know how much longer I can last, especially since the latest baby weight estimate was 10 lbs. My #1 goal for this birth was to not tear again--I had a TERRIBLE HORRIBLE vaginal tear (my perineum was fine) with DS and I just didn't want to do that again. Now with the threat of a large baby I am petrified about it.

Right now I have the last dose of castor oil on board to give it one last try--I took it last night at 9 p.m. and was contracting until 3 a.m. so maybe it will work this time!

DH and I talked and cried about it tonight and have made our decision to call the OB. We'll have our MW will call her tomorrow and hopefully convince her to let us come in Saturday morning vs right away. That way we'll have time to pack our bags and write a quick birth plan tomorrow as well as make arrangements for DS. The induction will be with pitocin--I am already 3cm so it should work pretty quickly. Our MW will come along as our doula.

So unless labor happens spontaneously soon, that is the plan. I will be so relieved to be done, but am so afraid of what will happen. I had PPD after DS was born and I sure hope this birth experience doesn't send me into a tailspin again....not to mention my breastfeeding issues....(i had a breast reduction 13 years ago and did not have a fully supply with ds--dealing with all of that brought on and exacerbated the ppd ).
post #2 of 32
good luck. i will hold a good thought for you.
post #3 of 32
I'm also keeping you in my thoughts, mama.
post #4 of 32
Thinking of you mama!
post #5 of 32
Good luck Momma! Keep us posted
post #6 of 32
s I am thinking of you. It will all work out Mama. It will. You can make your hospital birth into a homebirth, remember you are in charge:Not the doc's and nurses.
post #7 of 32
good luck momma! try and keep calm and positive, things will work out for the best. i am glad your mw and doula will accompany you, lots of positive support to surround you. can't wait to hear the details!
post #8 of 32
Thinking about you too. It sounds like you had a tough past, but please let it go and focus on this birth as a totally different experience. Best of luck to you.
post #9 of 32
You did everything you could, it's ok to throw in the towel! And we're here to support you through the post partum period, whatever it may bring for you!

Focus now on bringing that baby safely into the world!!
post #10 of 32
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The castor oil did not work. This baby just does not want to come out! So FRUSTRATING!!!!!

post #11 of 32
Oh mama

Baby WILL come out, s/he just might need a little help. Did the OB agree to this weekend? Take this time to be as angry as you need to be, then try to focus on enjoying your last day being pregnant. Go eat whatever in the heck you want to, even have a glass of wine if that sounds good.

I'm excited for you that you'll meet your baby soon!!
post #12 of 32
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The castor oil did not work. This baby just does not want to come out! So FRUSTRATING!!!!!

You just make such a happy nest! Sending good thoughts your way for an easy delivery once it gets going. You have done everything you could - you should be really proud!

Laura
post #13 of 32
I can imagine how difficult this decision is for you, but I do hope you're able to look past the disappointment and instead focus on the joy of the occasion.

The statistics for babies over 42 weeks gestation really do reflect that induction is a wise choise. You're doing the right thing, mama.

Can't wait to hear about your newest baby boy! (It would be nice to not be alone in the 10lbs+ category, too!)
post #14 of 32
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Oh mama
Did the OB agree to this weekend? Take this time to be as angry as you need to be, then try to focus on enjoying your last day being pregnant. Go eat whatever in the heck you want to, even have a glass of wine if that sounds good.

I'm excited for you that you'll meet your baby soon!!
Thanks. I have yet to call the MW this morning with our decision. She is going to call the OB for us and we'll go from there. MW thinks the OB will demand we come in immediately seeing as how I'm 42+2 today, but we are going to put her off til Saturday morning. I DEFINITELY need today to process all this and prepare. We haven't packed a bag or written a birth/hospital transfer plan, so I need to do that.

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You just make such a happy nest! Sending good thoughts your way for an easy delivery once it gets going. You have done everything you could - you should be really proud!
That's what my MW keeps saying LOL! I must have a cozy uterus.
post #15 of 32
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Originally Posted by MyZoeJane View Post

The statistics for babies over 42 weeks gestation really do reflect that induction is a wise choise. You're doing the right thing, mama.

Can't wait to hear about your newest baby boy! (It would be nice to not be alone in the 10lbs+ category, too!)
Thanks, we went over all the stats with the MW and feel this is the right thing to do but it's still hard.

And our baby's gender is unknown, so maybe it will be a baby girl! In any case, i just want my baby!
post #16 of 32
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Originally Posted by deymm View Post
Thanks, we went over all the stats with the MW and feel this is the right thing to do but it's still hard.

And our baby's gender is unknown, so maybe it will be a baby girl! In any case, i just want my baby!
Oops! Got you confused with 2boyz!

Well THAT makes it EXTRA exciting! OMG, I would be freaking out with excitement to find out what I was having!

Keep us posted!!!
post #17 of 32
Thread Starter 
We're meeting the OB tomorrow at 11 a.m.

The midwife said it's pefectly acceptable to go into labor tonight, though. Then we could still be at home.

Now today I have to wrap my head around writing a quick birth plan and packing a hospital bag. Those of you that have birthed at the hosptial--what did you bring? what did you need the most? What did you forget that you really wanted? I am clueless!
post #18 of 32
I have a sheet from my doula that has some good recommendations on it about what to bring to the hospital. I am using it to pack my bag today. It is long, but I could transcribe it for you, if you want. Let me know!
post #19 of 32
chapstick, floss, snacks, camera and extra batteries, toothbrushes and toothpaste for you and dh, extra clothes for dh, outfit/diapers for babe, clothes for you to labor in and wear home, pony tail holders, carseat, cloth pads if you use them, cash and coins, lotion/EO's, music and something to play it in, pillows, brush, deodorant for you and dh, glasses if you wear them.
post #20 of 32
We are planning a homebirth for this pregnancy, and thus far, I have had an uneventful pregnancy. I fully expect to have an uneventful labor and birth. I understand that sometimes a transfer is necessary, but we didn’t plan to be in the hospital. This is a huge change for us. We appreciate your expertise in labor, delivery and care of a newborn. Please help us have the birth most like we wanted, keeping in mind that many of these are not optional due to our religious beliefs. We are not unreasonable and welcome the opportunity to discuss any alternatives.

In Labor… as much as medically safe we will:

1 Have a quiet and dimly lit room with as few attendants as possible.
2 Eat and drink instead of having an IV.
3 No Vaginal exams. They can be discussed on a case by case basis
4 Keep my membranes intact and avoid augmentation.
5 Use intermittent fetal monitoring so that I may remain mobile.

In Delivery … as much as medically safe we will:

1 Wait for the urge to push, and push without coaching in any position that feels right.
2 Not have an episiotomy. I would rather tear.
3 No speaking when baby is born, as we want her to hear our voice first.
4 Eric will announce the sex of the baby. Please do not push for information.
5 Please do not suction baby.
6 We request no augmentation of placental delivery (traction, pitocin)
7 DO NOT CUT CORD!

Cesarean Delivery… as much as medically safe we will:

1 Keep Eric with me at all times, including while spinal anesthesia is administered.
2 Photograph as much as possible. We will not take shots of any personnel’s faces.
3 Please use a double layer of sutures instead of the standard one layer.
4 Avoid the routine use of a catheter. My consent is required prior to its insertion.
5 Avoid general anesthesia and keep my arms free.
6 I will breastfeed in recovery and have someone with me at all times to assist. I understand this may be contrary to hospital policy, but it is not optional for us.

Baby Care… WITHOUT EXCPETION: Parental consent will be obtained prior to conducting any procedures (routine or not), including blood draws, injections and medication. Eric will accompany our newborn at ALL times.

NO VACCINES
NO CIRCUMCISION
NO ABX EYE TREATMENT
NO VITAMIN K
NO NEWBORN SCREENING Preformed at pediatricians.
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