Originally Posted by vbactivist
I think switching between homes has huge drawbacks, even if the homes are pleasant.
not necessarily true.
IF... and only if...
the children's opinion is taken into account.
my friend's parents lived a block from each other.
the kids would go in and out of the house as they pleased. who to spend the night with.
both parents were truly commited to making it work for the children. so they were able to put their differences aside when the kids were young to spend ocasssional time together - going out for a movie or dinner where they were civil to each other.
so yes it can happen. it can be done.
my friend and her siblings grew up not wishing they hadnt divorced. in fact they liked the two houses for the opportunities it gave the kids to get their own way. they were happy how things were.
which is all the more reason to have a v. amicable divorce. which is usually not the norm.
i know so much is because she did the same thing herself. and in her case as with mine - the husband was done in a relationship. they tried the relationship but after 5 and 8 years they couldnt go on that way anymore. a relationship was too much work and they didnt want to do it anymore. it wasnt the wives. it was them. they were done. to date 6 years later neither my ex or her ex are in a committed relationship.