Re: Getting distressed...

[schoolmom07]

I really thought baby girl would be here by her LMP date of 9/10-9/11 and that passed. So I said, ok, maybe I was off on conception date (I know I was spot on for LMP) and we will go with the "more accurate date" of the ultrasound of 9/17 and well, that just passed, too. It is now the 18th and no signs other than contractions that have been going since last Tuesday. We actually went to the hospital on Thursday because contractions were 7 minutes apart, then went to 5, and then 3-5 and stayed consistant. However, cervix refuses to dilate anymore. Could it be because I have been checked every single time they tell me I have to? Or the fact that one lady acted as though she were digging for freaking gold and made me soooo very sore? Or stress that everyone is heaping on me by asking oh so dumb questions such as "You haven't had that baby yet?" or "Have you gone yet", or "Are you ever...yet?" and well, most of you know. I am sick of the stupidity! I believe I am going to tell people that yes, I have had the baby but there are two more in there and the doctors are waiting to see when they want out! I never really thought I would go over and so many are saying "Well, why don't you just get induced?" As if it is just a convenience thing to do...How selfish! I don't want to force my child out of a place of growth and wellness because some stupid a** doesn't know how to keep their mouth shut! To me, it is kind of like saying ok, that is enough I will decide how long you grow, gain strength, have your lungs mature...AAAAAAAAAGGGGGG!

[tofutti]

ugh. stay strong, mama.........baby appreciates it

almost there, almost..........................!

[Auroara Bobcat]

I can totally relate with the confused and frustrated feeling of the babe still being in there. My due date was the 11th by conception day and I could not believe that day came and went. Babe did come out 5 days later but those five days felt like FOREVER. When I went into labor naturally it was one of the best and most impowering feelings I've ever had. It is so worth the wait to let the body and baby do what needs to be done, even if it means going crazy in the mean time.
Your almost there.

[mkksmom]

Going overdue is tough, but you can do it. Hang in there.

[MyZoeJane]

I'm right there with you, mama. I'm losing it this morning. SO hard to not agree to the induction at this point. Wish it didn't have to be so trying...



It can't go on forever.

[rizzobabes]

Also Going Crazy Here

I totally understand how you feel!!! My DD was the 13th (based on my LMP and a very accurately timed conception) and I'm now 6 days late. I have tried using Evening Primrose Oil and Red Raspberry Leaf Tea for weeks now and I don't think either have done anything to help. I've had some cramping here and there, but nothing that would ever be considered consistent. To top it all off, for the past 3 days, the pressure of the baby being so low in my pelvis has caused my hemorrhoids to expand and multiply so badly that I had to get a prescription foam just to help me able to get through the day and be able to sit down without screaming in pain. I decided not to get checked for dilation during my last midwife appt (which was on the 15th) because I felt that if I knew "the number", it would be all I could think about and I wouldn't be able to relax...but at this point, I'm starting to lose my mind and if I don't go into labour by my next appt (which is the 22nd), not only will I want to be checked but I will probably be begging to be induced!!!

[KikaKika]

Hang in there, DDC buddy!
You are doing greeat, baby is healthy and sooooon, very sooon, she'll be here!

[[[[hug!]]]]]

[Pinkbruise]

mmmhm. I wish nobody would tell you at 36/37 weeks, "okay any day now!"

I've really been ready since 36 weeks! Over a month ago!!

Tomorrow I will be 40w+5d and will probably have my membranes stripped. I would rather have that done than try castor oil, because I've tried EVERYTHING else.

My MW is pretty awesomely comfortable with me going to 43! weeks though.... I just don't want to have to get to 43 weeks before trying to get things going. REALLY want to avoid the hospital

[schoolmom07]

Originally Posted by rizzobabes

I totally understand how you feel!!! My DD was the 13th (based on my LMP and a very accurately timed conception) and I'm now 6 days late. I have tried using Evening Primrose Oil and Red Raspberry Leaf Tea for weeks now and I don't think either have done anything to help. I've had some cramping here and there, but nothing that would ever be considered consistent. To top it all off, for the past 3 days, the pressure of the baby being so low in my pelvis has caused my hemorrhoids to expand and multiply so badly that I had to get a prescription foam just to help me able to get through the day and be able to sit down without screaming in pain. I decided not to get checked for dilation during my last midwife appt (which was on the 15th) because I felt that if I knew "the number", it would be all I could think about and I wouldn't be able to relax...but at this point, I'm starting to lose my mind and if I don't go into labour by my next appt (which is the 22nd), not only will I want to be checked but I will probably be begging to be induced!!!

I also have an appt. date of the 22nd. I am trying to decide if I want them to check me or not. I would rather not since I am starting to feel that it is because of all the checking that I am not dilating like I should be. And it is painful! With no real results...or promises.

[KikaKika]

I just saw your update, schoolmom07 - I'll be thinking about you!!!
Sending you some gentle labor vibes and go with your instinct, you know what's best for you and your baby girl!

Hugs!!!!

[schoolmom07]

Originally Posted by KikaKika

Hang in there, DDC buddy!
You are doing greeat, baby is healthy and sooooon, very sooon, she'll be here!

[[[[hug!]]]]]

MIL is driving me insane! She has taken to dropping by the house unannounced asking me "How are you percolating" as if I am a d*** cup of coffee! Or she is calling 3 times a day wanting to know about my cervix as if that is anyone's business! Should I ask about her anus? I better not---she just might tell me and God knows I don't wanna know! UGGG! We see the doc again Tuesday and I know they are going to start discussing induction and now with all I have dealt with, I don't want it! Does that make sense? When I felt I needed it, they wouldn't hear of it. Now, when I am thinking I can do this a few more days then....that is when they will start pushing to force my baby out.

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by schoolmom07

I never really thought I would go over and so many are saying "Well, why don't you just get induced?" As if it is just a convenience thing to do...How selfish! I don't want to force my child out of a place of growth and wellness because some stupid a** doesn't know how to keep their mouth shut! To me, it is kind of like saying ok, that is enough I will decide how long you grow, gain strength, have your lungs mature...AAAAAAAAAGGGGGG!

If you are at least 37 weeks along then you wouldn't be pushing the baby out TOO soon. I'm having a planned c-section this coming week and don't feel a bit of guilt about what I'm doing to the baby.

[schoolmom07]

Originally Posted by darcytrue

If you are at least 37 weeks along then you wouldn't be pushing the baby out TOO soon. I'm having a planned c-section this coming week and don't feel a bit of guilt about what I'm doing to the baby.

Unless, your due date has been miscalculated. I had one doctor to tell me that U/S are more of a guess rather than any science to them. And...if they are just guessing then couldn't they be off by as much as three to four weeks? I am not downing what you have chosen to do but if you are not wanting this done, would you want someone to come to you and tell you when you had to do it? Uh...nah. It sounds as if this is something that you would like but it is not for me. Thanks anyway.

[KikaKika]

Originally Posted by darcytrue

If you are at least 37 weeks along then you wouldn't be pushing the baby out TOO soon. I'm having a planned c-section this coming week and don't feel a bit of guilt about what I'm doing to the baby.

I think it might be soon (37 weeks), depending on how sure one is of conception dates, and considering that babies require different "cooking time". More and more research shows that during a normal pregnancy, babies send hormonal signal, and that triggers labor... so, once kindeys, adrenal glands and lungs are ready - baby is ready to be born.
In my case, I have 2 "guess dates", since midwives ask for the first day of LMP, and I know exactly when my ovulation was (charting temp, LH strips and physical signals), and it was late, not around day 15 of the period, but after day 20... which gives me additional 5 days.
Luckily, my midwives are great, but I have a friend with a similar situation, and they are going by her LMP, not even considering that she might know her own body better.... This puts her at risk of induction, since her HCP does not allow anything over 41 weeks....

Of course, you know the details of your pregnancy, and no need for me to butt in, I'm sure you are doing best thing for you and your baby... plus, if your ticker is correct - you'll be 39 weeks at your scheduled C-section?

All the best, and I'm looking forward to all our babies arriving safely!!