We're lucky because we have a great cardiologist. I know he'll answer any and all questions I have (as long as it's something he can give an accurate answer to). My dh and I are so opposite when it comes to this, but dh doesn't ask questions and figures we're told what we need to know... but myself, I need to ask questions and find out more. I'm most curious about everything that happened in the OR, once my dd was in the PICU and regular floor, I was with her 24/7.
And $400 for your kid's medical records??? That just seems outragous.
I keep thinking about exactly what do I want to know. Will it give me closure in sense? I may just tell the cardiologist that it's important for me to know more about what happened in the OR, whether it be through him and I having a conversation or through her medical records... things like how long was she on bypass, how big was her hole, thymus total or partial removal, what exactly where the other things they found while operating, any complications during surgery. Sorry, I typing as I think... I don't think he has the full records from her surgery. Before leaving the hospital, I asked about that and they told me he can request a full copy of her records from the hospital... otherwise he'd get the usual condensed version.
Can I just ask how good it feel to be able to "talk" with others who have been there?
Jilian... it sounds like you have a wonderful midwife. You don't hear about someone going the extra mile like that (thank God she did). I'm assuming you stayed with the midwife for your dd. Do you mind me asking if you gave birth in a hospital or birthing center or home? I'm asking because I really want to go with a group of midwives for my next pregnancy and birth, but then the only option is home (which I won't do unless my labor is truly that fast) or a birthing center (dh is not on board at all with anything but a hospital birth)... I'm torn on whether I should just stay with my OB or go with the midwife (and get dh on board with whatever choice). And I figure as a heart mom, you can give a unique perspective.