Brain wash dh without destroying his manhood? - Page 2

[lifeguard]

Well, I have no control if something is in the house. It is pure white knuckling it if I know it's in the house. It truly is an addiction. And it frustrates the heck out of dh 'cause when he wants something a few days later it's gone. Our agreement is that he needs to put it somewhere without me knowing about or else it's not in the house. He watches me struggling with my weight every day & knows that this isn't just me being unreasonable - he understands that it canNOT be in the house 'cause I just don't have the control.

I envy those people who think it's as easy as not having it. I agree with a pp that it is comparable to having alcohol in the house with an alcoholic. We are all wired differently.

[tanyam926]

Originally Posted by lifeguard

Well, I have no control if something is in the house. It is pure white knuckling it if I know it's in the house. It truly is an addiction. And it frustrates the heck out of dh 'cause when he wants something a few days later it's gone. Our agreement is that he needs to put it somewhere without me knowing about or else it's not in the house. He watches me struggling with my weight every day & knows that this isn't just me being unreasonable - he understands that it canNOT be in the house 'cause I just don't have the control.

I envy those people who think it's as easy as not having it. I agree with a pp that it is comparable to having alcohol in the house with an alcoholic. We are all wired differently.

Thanks for the understanding, Lifeguard.

[Ruthla]

My parents have a similar situation. My dad, when younger, could eat almost anything and it never affected his weight. Meanwhile, my Mom has been struggling with her weight since childhood and one of HER problems is lack of self-control.

Part of the solution is that he buys some "junk food" that she doesn't even like and isn't tempted by. A much bigger part of the solution is storage space: He's got a few places in the house where he keeps his stash of chocolate, pre-packaged junk food cakes, etc. He used to keep it in his office (in the house) rather than the kitchen. Now they have a fairly large kitchen, and he's got a special cabinet he uses for that purpose, one that doesn't house anything Mom eats, so she never opens it and is never tempted by it.

I can't tell you how she originally approached him about the food issue, as they've been doing this since I was a baby, if not before I was born. But I can tell you that this method (junk food in the house but not put away with the healthy foods) has worked long-term.