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[Magelet]

Is it weird? I should be over the top excstatic about this new job (which I am, sort of), because not only does it pay well, and we DESPERATELY needed me to get this job, its also a hopefully interesting job, in an interesting place (kosher style california deli with focus on local sustainable food).

and yet, I'm sort of in mourning for my loss of time. Being only slightly employed, I had so much time to spend with my DP, and on interesting things. Now, I don't know if I will be able to do my jewish choir, and the classes on discovering judaism that I am excited about (I have to at least miss the first one for training), and I'm worried I'll have no choice but to work on shabbat, and what about family celebrations (will I be able to get an extra day off at thanksgiving to spend time with family? will I be able to go to my mom's family's christmas celebration (as secular as christmas gets, and its the only time the whole family gets together in a year, and its not a religious celebration particularly, more a family thing with lots of traditions), or will I have to work? will I have the energy to have dinner with my parents after working all day)? and DP and I won't have as much time together and I'll be tired all the time.

I realize this is just how working life is, I've never worked full time before though, and I'm just nervous and mourning the freedom that comes with unemployment or almost unemployment. I'm sure I'll enjoy it when I start. I hope. wish me luck.

thanks for listening to me kvetch.

[Ruthla]

Caroline All changes, even good changes, are stressful and require some adjusting to.

You may need to drop out of some of your "extra curriculuar" activities, but you WILL find time to spend with DP and your family. Yeah, maybe you'll be more tired than usual at the family get-togethers, but that doesn't mean they'll be any less enjoyable.

If you let your boss know ahead of time what day you need off for your extended family celebration, it can probably be arranged. But give your boss the date for that as soon as you have it.

[smeisnotapirate]

Caroline, hugs. You'll settle into a groove and be able to work on that work/life balance. It's tough, but you'll get better at it as the job becomes more familiar and you get a schedule worked out.

[Magelet]

Thanks. I know it will get less stressful as I begin to do it, when I first started my other job, one day of work, and I'd be totally drained, feeling like I couldn't even move, for 3 days, and barely recuperated by the next week. Now I work there two days a week, and it doesn't tire me out that much, because I've gotten used to it.

I think part of what's gotten me into a panic, is that it is absolutely mandatory to work on rosh hashanah and pesach. But I know in my brain, is that that probably won't be a problem. I'm only commited for working there for 3-6 months (secretly hoping three months at the counter, then get promoted to table service, better learn fast lol). and honestly working a day shift on pesach doesn't bother me that much, if I can still cook a sedar for the first day of pesach (aka have the day before and erev pesach free). Rosh hashanah bothers me, but if I'm still working there at that point, and it is a problem, I'll quit, and with my newfound awesome resume and hopefully great references, find a new job. a year is a long time to figure it out.

He mentioned having to work xmas and xmas eve and I said that wasn't a problem, but mentioned this family gathering the week before, and he was wishy washy about whether I would be able to get it off. but what I realized is, I'm going to put my foot down about not working shabbat, and its sat/sun, and I work my other job sun, and hopefully I'll be able to get coverage there.

I think I'm just nervous, as to be expected with a new job. thanks for listening and the hugs. it means a lot.

[LambQueen]

what's new , mamas?

it's officially cholent season in our house!

[Ruthla]

It's always cholent season in my house! In the winter, we all want warm food. In the summer, I need to plan on two meals on Saturday afternoons (effectively lunch and dinner before it finally gets dark), so I keep cholent as one of them, and then make assorted cold salads for the other meal.

[npl]

We are back from our trip, still jetlagged, and I'm snowed under with laundry. How on earth did I manage to mix up all the clean stuff with the dirties?
Thankfully, I have quite a bit of paid work lined up for the next couple of weeks. Which means that it will probably take a while to clear the backlog of laundry, especially as much of the stuff we took with was summery/fall and now it's pretty cold here, so I don't need some of the clothes urgently. Between work and all the appts and errands that were put off until we got back, I think I won't have much time for mundane chores like laundry and cleaning (much rather shop for winter coats for the kids than clean the mess they made in the bathroom!)
Fortunately, a friend invited us for shabbos lunch, and I have most of Friday night's supper ready-cooked in the freezer, so besides challah and potatoes, I won't have to cook.

[tikva18]

Well, coming in quite late... I had no idea this thread was around.

Mazaltov Chavalemamela!!!

To back track - I have a heter to do shiurim for Y.K. and Tisha B'Av - but this last fast I needed none of it! This was my best fast ever! The first year I was married I had the issue of getting suddenly sick toward the end of fasting - that was way bad. Since I've had other issues - hence the heter, but B"H I did not need it at all.

Sukkos - it rained the entire YomTov - absolutely crazy - there were 2 days during chol hamo'ed where there wasn't rain - so we did outside activities those days.

Okay, the kids are back in school - it's time to clean up the house - for real this time - and keep it that way! I do have the twins home this year and am planning a little homeschooling for them. They turned 4 Sept 1st.

This Sunday we will be attending a chasuna - it's for a girl who lived by us for 2 1/2 years when she was in highschool. I'm so excited - kind of like marrying off my first child . She asked dh to be an eid.

Anyone else have any btdt advice for yeshiva searching? we're getting ready for this now... we have 3 on our list and are really hoping/davening that Akiva will get into the local one for a number of different reasons. It's going to be hard as he is behind in gemara since his school appears to go at a much slower pace than other schools.

[Magelet]

forgive my ignorance, what is a chasuna?

I'm pretty good. The past few days of work weren't that hard. today, whew, today was a challenge lol. It was my first day not in training, and I was closing by myself. It was a bit overwhelming. I know I'll get used to it though.

DP told me today that when he went to the bank we have enough money to cover all of next months bills in the checking account, and I haven't gotten paid yet. That means my wages can go to savings. It is SUCH a good feeling knowing we have enough money to pay the bills next month. I feel so comfortable all of a sudden. Like snuggling into a nice warm blanket with a loved one and a cat on a grey day and watching the rain.

and with a stew in the oven, and a present from a swap friend in the mail today, overall, despite the exhaustion and challenges of work, it felt like a good day. (I did have to miss the first day of my discovering torah class this week for work but I'm hoping to make the rest. I'm very excited about it. Turns out a friend is also taking the class!!)

[Ruthla]

A chasuna is a wedding. I'm not sure what an eid is though.

[tikva18]

chasuna or chatuna (emphasis on last syllable) is a wedding; an eid (said like aide - give or take) is a witness.

[Magelet]

Will you share your cholent recipes with me? I haven't got one and I'd love to try some out and find one to make "mine" but haven't got a place to start.

[imnottelling]

Continuing here:
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...0#post14546040