subbing- lots of great info here!
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10/28/09 at 8:36pm
Thankfully- I have friends who all try to live simply as well. Of course how this looks is different for everyone as we all have different goals and needs, but to just have people that get the fact that we want to live w/ a minimal amt of things is wonderful.
What I'd like to pass down to my children is that ordinary life is very fulfilling. I'm striving to pay more attention to the seasons and the weather, to celebrate nature, to be mindful while doing everyday chores like sweeping the kitchen and folding laundry. I want my children to grow up with a sense of peace and happiness that comes from within - which is so against everything our consumer culture puts out there.
Making things yourself is so much more rewarding than buying things. But then again, I've always hated shopping.
always working on this. There are several books on this very subject to borrow from the library to read when you feel you are off.
Not just pocessions, but living simply requires several other things in your life.
knowing when you're full.
Knowing when you are tired.
Saying No to people because you are one of the above or something else.
Not joining something.
knowing your limits and your families limits.
knowing how to slow down, smell the roses or whatever it is in front of you.
working to live not live to work
We as a family do not over schedule, double book, have to leave here quickly because we are late for this and arrive abrubtly and interupt the starting blah blah blah.
We tell friends and family no to things. But we also say yes to things. But we have no issue saying- No we are not coming to your house for insert holiday or whatever in here because we made plans to do insert activity here. We do not send one person in the family here so the other can go there. We tell one of the parties no we are not coming.
I remember last spring my dd2's preschool was having a night time golf thing. It was the same day as dd1's birthday party at our house. I told the chair person, we have my dd1's birthday that day. A friend standing by said, But Amy, your party is during the DAY, this is at NIGHT. And I said you're right and we are not attending. Later I found out from a mutaul friend the lady saying you CAN attend could not understand why I did NOT feel obligated to attend the golf thing since the party was during the day. Because, one night golfing didnt sound like anything we wanted to do. After planning a party all day, I would not have energy to golf at night esp since I dont want to do it!! I didnt share that, but its knowing you dont have to do anything and everything because someone else feels its the thing to do.
We went and saw both sets of parents over Thanksgiving weekend, and both already had PILES of presents, mostly for the kids! AGH! What am I going to do with all this plastic crap?