I am dealing with the same issue, but more because I feel very flustered on Sunday night when I'm trying to get a basic idea of my week together. Plus, I get worried because I'm HS two boys right now, and may bring my daughter out of school after K or after 1st grade. (It's the sacrifice I had to make so my husband would agree to HS - that's a whole 'nother story there).
I thought about picking up the Oak Meadow teacher manuals for the grades I need and then going off of there as a basic outline. And then I thought about just making a very very basic sketchy idea of way for the day to flow- I hate the word schedule, even though that's kind of what I mean but without so much structure or guilt for going off it.
I asked some advice about it somewhere on the forum last week or before that, and I'm not sure what thread (maybe it was my own thread- have to look!)
What I've decided to do though:
Look into some of Oak Meadow for next year since I don't have $$ laying around right now. I'd just get some of the pieces since I like Singapore math right now and I can get my art supplies cheaper from Dick Blick/get books to read from the library or from the used book store/paperback exchange for under a dollar.
For this year now (and this is not as complicated as writing it out seems, I literally just have a spiral note book where I throw some ideas on each week and I just glance at daily for ideas):
We do Circle Time- where we talk about the day, the weather, do stories, songs, and possibly a craft or a stretching/calming exercise.
We do Together Time- for History, Art, life skills, or any other subject that the boys can cover together (7 and 9 years old).
We do Tac-act, which is what my husband started calling it. It's tactile activities and action oriented activities which again are done in groups, like crafts and baking and art activities where I have to have them both do it at the same time because of set-up issues. And sometimes we put that on it's own, sometimes we include it as part of Together Time, and sometimes it's just a random nature walk. We cannot do Nature Walks as part of a daily schedule since I live in a very urban area. I have to drive somewhere just to find a safe spot to have them walk around the block, so we had to make it part of our planned day.
And then we have Self-Choice, where I have a pocket system and I have a few workbook type assignments in there that they have to complete by the end of the week. For example, I'll put in a card that has three math assignments on it with a check box next to them. By the end of the week, he has to have all three boxes checked off. This way, it's not so strict and we can decide randomly on a Tuesday to go to the zoo or something without it throwing us off schedule. And my boys can pick whenever they want to work on it (they just have a rule that something productive must occur that day if they want to play video games later that evening
you would not believe how well that can motivate these two).
Sorry that is gigantic! I just put together this system in the last few weeks, and it made me feel a bit more comfortable about finding a balance between a strict schedule and a blank slate. I'm the kind of person that needs a bit of a loose net to hold things together, but I'd flail at either no plans at all or a very decisive schedule. I'm eclectic with a bit of a Waldorf/nature study/environmental slant, so this seems to be working for us so far!
Good luck with finding something workable for you! I think this is why homeschooling and learning about education philosophies is so fascinating. You get to experiment with what is best for both your child and you!