Originally Posted by CamoShades
Oh, when I was talking about being "on the clock," I wasn't talking about "timing out" of having a birth with my provider (like some hospital-based midwives will time their patients out at a certain week and make them switch to an OB), since I'm seeing an OB and having a hospital birth. That's my only option, so she won't "break up with me" or anything like that! I meant that as I approach 40-41-42 weeks, I know I'll start feeling pressure from my OB to get the baby out by a certain time or face another C-section. I'm saying I don't want to feel that pressure, so hopefully baby will come before that point. (Now I know I can refuse, but I just don't want to be put in that position in the first place.) And in terms of water breaking, doctors and hospitals have that 24-hours-to-get-the-baby-out rule, so that's what I worry about there (though I plan to fudge my times a bit if it comes down to needing to do that). That isn't necessarily a VBAC fear or worry, but probably something a lot of women in labor at a hospital -- who are educated on the subject -- think about. But alas, since I am a VBAC patient, all those things come into play all that much more.
And as far as "clock pressure" for induction (or lack of it, in your case; my OB will attempt certain forms if the cervix is favorable and baby hasn't appeared by 42 weeks, and I'm cool with that), that's kind of what I'm talking about. If your baby doesn't come on his or her own by 42ish weeks -- then what? In your case, automatic C-section, most likely, which I really, really don't want. So IMO, there's most definitely a "clock" there, which leads to that fear or worry that the VBAC won't happen.
Okay, I understand what you meant now. Welp, sorry for the Drs, but I will not consent to scheduling another c/s unless it is for a real and true threat to me &/or the baby. They are not going to come to my house and pick me up, so if I arrive far into labor, too bad for them if I am 42+ wks pg. I fell v v strongly about this & WILL NOT schedule another c/s!!!!!!! They would probably break my water or something to "induce" if I said okay, but ob did specifically say no starting labor w/ pitocin. He said if I needed a little during labor, that is different, but it is NOT good to induce a vbac w/ it.
|I hope you're able to get over your catastrophic fears of uterine rupture or placental abruption. I would think those fears would be much more stressful than my little worries about being on a doctor's time clock!
Well, the brain needs something to fixate on, I suppose
Since I'm not really afraid of laboring & birthing (looking forward to it, actually), must have *something* dreadful up in there! You are right, tho, as a vbac there are so many more completely unnecessary things for us to have to worry about as far as hospital policies go, which leads me to..
Riverbeauty, WHAT T H is wrong w/ your hospital?!? They might as well just tell you to stay at home and have a uc b/c that is what they are going to push women like us into doing. NOT that uc is unsafe, but it is not the right choice for everyone (like my dh
) My hospital does require continuous fetal monitoring, but I can have a heplock & probably refuse cervical checks, too. IDK, can they really give you an IV or an exam w/ you shouting NO at them? I can understand the heplock; ob explained that when you have an episode involving blood loss, the vessels constrict & can then make it v difficult to insert an IV. Whatever, that's semi-fine, I'm not interested in dying b/c they couldn't find my vein. But continuous saline??? WHY? That just does not make any sense. I don't know anything at all about fighting hospital policies, so in your case I would ABSOLUTELY make sure I had a great doula!!
Since you have seizures, can your Dr give you a pass on overnight visitors? Explain that unless a nurse has the time to sit w/ you each and every time that you feed your baby, you are going to need dh there w/ you to help out. They may understand that that is a true medical necessity and let you have dh stay overnight. The kid thing, ugh, that is bull crap. DD is not vaxed against the flu & she has not even had the regular flu this year. She is probably more likely to catch it going to the hospital w/ me than she is to bring it in!!!!