Heart Cath, Flu, Forced Induction and Heart Attack...

[schoolmom07]

I can't believe I have to post all of this but no one else will believe it either. My dad had to have a heart cath done on Monday, they found no blockage but know there is a problem. DD got sick on Sunday night, took her to doctor on Monday, was told just a viral thing, but temp kept rising so we returned today after I went to the OB and found I have to have an induction on Friday for the convenience of the doctors schedules. If I chose not to do this, I would have to sign refusal papers and I don't know what all would have happened at that point since I had to actually go into the appt. alone as hubbie was out in car with dd---who it turned out after really pressing her doc, has the FLU! As if that is not enough, we get a call at about 6 this evening and my hubbie's mother had been taken to the hospital for chest pains earlier today and had had a heart attack. This poor mama is being advised to stay away from my 1st dd who is running temps as high as 104.5, being told I have to induce (without even getting to speak to my hubbie about any of it and there is no medical reason to do so), my dad just had a cath on Monday for his heart and now my MIL has had a heart attack. So...guess what I am doing Friday? Going to the hospital, alone, for an induction I had no time to think about with a score (cervical) of 6 which is rather poor success rate wise and could possibly lead to a c-section that I don't want. DD can't go to hospital, we have no one else to help, MIL would have and still offered from her hospital bed but we can't expose her to the flu as well, my mom is taking care of my daddy so that is the plan for now. Unless someone else can come up with something?

[BekahMomToOliver]

I couldn't read and not send you biiiiiig hugs!
I'm sooo sorry you're going through all that right now mama, what a terrible time for your family
Sending you ELVs and hoping the induction goes smoothly... it's the least you could ask after all this!
Thinking of you

[rebeccajm]

Oh, no! NONE of that is good. I am so sorry! If I were you, I would sign those refusal papers until things calm down. Your DD will get over the flu within several days, and hopefully your dad and MIL will be feeling better soon, too. I can't believe that they can force you to induce for their convenience. Isn't there always someone on call for a reason? With all the stress you are under, I don't think an induction is a good idea at all. But I understand it can be hard to stand up to the docs. But I totally would in your case!

Keep us updated on all this, mama!

[tofutti]

oh no, i am so sorry.

can u find at least a doula to accompany you to the hospital!? if money is an issue there are lots of really good student doulas who need hospital experience to get their certifications........my friend did this and had a great one.....

i guess there is a reason for all of this that we don't know until its over but soon all will be well for you i hope --

thinking of you!

[mkksmom]

(((Huge hugs))) Wow! Yeah, I think I'd explain the situation to the doctors and see what they say.

[sammyloo]

So so sorry! What a sh*t storm. Hoping you all get through this quickly and meet your little baby soon!

[mamamia10]

hugs!!!
big hugs!!!
I do hope everyone recovers quickly
good luck Friday

[susanl1202]

I'm a bit confused, if there is no medical reason to, why on earth are they talking about induction?? If you don't want it just say no, what with everything else going on being bullied by the medical staff is the last thing you need.

[2boyzmama]

My goodness.

I *think* what I would do in this situation is the following:

1. Go back to your OB, sign the refusal papers. You don't have to say a thing, just say you are invoking your right to refuse a non-medically necessary procedure, and you'll gladly schedule an appt to discuss it in further depth.

2. Go home, snuggle up with your daughter with some good books, a good movie, some watered-down juice, and some high-dose Vit C and take a long nap (the vit c for BOTH of you, to help her kill off the bug, and to help you avoid getting it).

3. Let your husband go take care of family matters, is his mom okay??

4. When you go back to your OB, discuss this all with him/her. Tell them what's going on and that you think it's interfering with your body going into labor naturally, so as long as you and baby are still healthy, you want to avoid an induction. Agree to whatever other testing they want you to have (NST, BPP, blood work, whatever!). If the results of those tests are encouraging, schedule an appt for next week to discuss it all again.

In the meantime...REST!!!!! Your entire family needs it.

[alegna]

Not in your group but had to respond

My goodness! What a rotten week.

I would NOT allow an induction without reason. Nothing happens if you sign the refusal papers. Tell them it's just not a good time with your family situation.

Babies come when ready.

-Angela

[joeys_mom]

[schoolmom07]

The OB's are telling me that they won't be able to get me another appt. if I refuse. I am worried about if I refuse will they be able to call in Social Services? MIL is having a heart cath today, probably about now, and we will know more about 6:00 p.m. tonight. DD is still running temp and I am feeling something just "off" in my mouth/throat area. Doctors say that it is best for baby to be induced if the flu is going on at our house as it would be better for baby if she weren't in my belly if I got the flu. Not sure on that one. Fever with this seems to run pretty high 104.5 in dd so not sure what that would do to L/O. I feel so rushed! The OB's scheduled appt. while they had me in to U/S and then when I was done, asked me into their office and told me about it. I said, I needed to talk to my husband, who was out in the car with our daughter since she couldn't come even into the lobby being that sick. I had to consent they said or sign refusal papers. All of this without getting to speak to husband! I left when all was done and hubbie and I talked a bit on the way home. We still had not really decided what to do and then...we get the call about his mother. So now, I am just at a loss...

[schoolmom07]

Originally Posted by alegna

Not in your group but had to respond

My goodness! What a rotten week.

I would NOT allow an induction without reason. Nothing happens if you sign the refusal papers. Tell them it's just not a good time with your family situation.

Babies come when ready.

-Angela

Have you been through this before? Do you know what happens if you refuse? I don't and am so not sure what to do.

[schoolmom07]

OB's say baby is 8 lbs. guess-ti-mate, fluid levels are at 10, cord not around her neck, h/r good at 134-154, I am not leaking fluid but "that he just does not see a reason to continue this pregnancy any further". I am so overwhelmed that I just want baby here but am also worried about her being around the flu as I have been scared half to death by my dd1's doc. He has told me this is no joke and that we need to be seperate from dd1 for at least 10 days. They have pushed Tamiflu on me, dh won't be able to take it as it is 100.00 out of pocket (which we don't have and insurance won't cover for him), dd1 is on it and it makes both dd1 and I nauseaus. I actually threw up after taking it yesterday and baby's movement definitley increased as though she did not like it either. But since I feel as though I am getting sick I feel that I should probably take it anyway...Really debating that as I don't want L/O to get it from me because I didn't take it. Either way it affects her, in or out. What to do???? I would only be 41 weeks on Friday and could go for another week, right?

[Auroara Bobcat]

I would say NO induction. They can't call SS for no good reason. I would honestly just laugh the OBs off and tend to my family.

[onlyboys]

I refused an induction and nothing happened at all. I scheduled my next appointment and then went into labor on my own at 40 weeks.

Hope this finds you well.

[mysticmomma]

Not that I would consent to an induction without a pressing medical reason anyway, but you have about a million other reasons why not to right now! What if your induction fails and you end up with a section?!

Legally, they can't drop you right now. They owe you 30 days notice.

[mysticmomma]

And it's much easier to care for a baby in your belly than a newborn if you do catch the flu.

[just_lily]

Not in your DDC but I just had to post to offer hugs and support. This sounds like a really rough week for you.

I wouldn't agree to the induction without a medical reason. I had an induction with my DD, and it did not go well. I went in on a Thursday morning, they tried everything under the sun to get her to come vaginally and she was finally born by c-section on Saturday evening. I was then in the post-natal ward recovering until late Tuesday afternoon. And then of course weeks of recovery afterwards.

So don't let them talk you into an induction by making it seem all quick and in and out. I was there for six days, which is an awful long time to be away from your DD unless there is a good medical reason for it.

Good luck mama!

[alegna]

Nothing happens if you refuse. It's your baby, your body, your decision.



-Angela