"Overdue" mamas support thread!

[rebeccajm]

I'm kind of in a sad place right now, mourning the passing of my EDD. I know it is only an estimate, but I was really hoping he'd be here by now.

I really wish I didn't know how to check my own cervix. It is way too tempting. I checked once last night and once tonight, and there has been no change. I am still long and completely closed. The only reason I checked tonight is that we DTD, and I figured another (clean!) foreign object wouldn't hurt, lol. I had told myself NO MORE CHECKING. Grrrrrr!

I know I am NOT alone here! And I know that there are a lot of very, very patient mamas here who are way over their EDD. So I thought we could use a thread dedicated to supporting *us* with encouraging words!

So I guess I am begging for some cheering up - for myself and the other "overdue" mamas!

[KLM99]

I'm not technically "overdue" for another 4 minutes, so I guess I can't complain yet I went two weeks over with my first, though, so trying not to get too upset about it. I started my maternity leave today, so I'm trying to be positive and try to enjoy the time off with my 2yo. It's tough though!

[2boyzmama]

I'm a day away from my EDD, but I feel "overdue" because my other two were born in my 38th week, so I fully expected this one to be born then, too.

I've had some bad moments these past two weeks, but today was my first all around bad DAY. And now I'm up with cramps that might be the start of something! We'll see...I definitely feel..."different".

[prettymom]

Tomorrow I hit 41 weeks...

[Dmitrizmom]

Today is 41+1 for me. Trying to be zen about the whole thing but slowly am getting crabby/angry/frustrated. Dd was born at 41+1 and I'm reminding myself that my body knows what it is doing. Seriously thinking about changing the message on my cell phone and turning it off... "You've reached Jen's cell. I'm not answering because I refuse to continue answering the assinine question 'Is the baby here yet?' again. If you are important enough to need to know the answer to that question, you are on the list to be notified when it happens. If not, go away."

[2boyzmama]

Originally Posted by Dmitrizmom

Today is 41+1 for me. Trying to be zen about the whole thing but slowly am getting crabby/angry/frustrated. Dd was born at 41+1 and I'm reminding myself that my body knows what it is doing. Seriously thinking about changing the message on my cell phone and turning it off... "You've reached Jen's cell. I'm not answering because I refuse to continue answering the assinine question 'Is the baby here yet?' again. If you are important enough to need to know the answer to that question, you are on the list to be notified when it happens. If not, go away."

DO IT!!! Seriously! You might tick off a person here or there right now, but as soon as that beautiful baby is born, all will be forgotten

And if you do it now, it'll be therapeutic!

[~Laura~]

40+3 today! I feel really good, but I am definitely starting to get sort of bored waiting, if that makes sense. I have been working from home half-time since 9/1, so I feel plenty rested and not rushed. I am working hard to really enjoy these last days and also the fun of knowing labor could start at any time.

I have a 41 week appt on Saturday with my midwife. Not sure if she will suggest I start doing anything to try and get things going - she's super laid back about stuff. I typically go to due date or over, so this isn't weird for me. My kids have all been under 8 pounds.

I hope everyone gets to meet their babies soon. We are all SO CLOSE!

Laura

[ilovejeff]

I belong here now. Yesterday was my EDD and I had my MW check me for the first time. I'm only a fingertip dilated and 50% effaced. I was so sure that I was further along than that...I came home and cried. It's so hard to be patient. I'm so ready to meet my baby.

[HydeParkB]

Today is my due date. And I am ready. I've been at 3 cm for at 3 weeks.

Now I'm getting all kinds of comments about why I'm still here.

I was a couple days early with DD, and my doc and I thought I'd be early with this one. Of course, there are two big events DH wanted to go to this weekend (and I wanted him to go to), he is coming down with the flu or something, DD has hand foot and mouth disease. So, maybe the baby will be coming soon, since it's seeming like pretty bad timing anyway.

[2boyzmama]

Originally Posted by ilovejeff

...I came home and cried. It's so hard to be patient. I'm so ready to meet my baby.

I did this with both my others, left my 38 week OB appt crying because I wasn't in labor and they wouldn't induce (yep, I actually asked them to with my second!! All good sense goes out the window). Both times I went into labor soon after (with my first it was that night, with my second it was a few days later).

I've actually been confused by my emotions this time. I've had bad moments, and I'm not enjoying being pregnant still, but I haven't hit that rock bottom feeling yet that I did the other two times. I thought I was on my way yesterday, then a problem at my son's school distracted me.

So who knows??

[tofutti]

just remember its a little easier with the baby in your belly then out - well, except for tying your shoes

[KLM99]

Originally Posted by tofutti

just remember its a little easier with the baby in your belly then out - well, except for tying your shoes

You're probably right - I'll probably want to stuff it back in just to get some sleep at some point

[coldandsleepy]

I'm in the overdue boat as well. It's frustrating for me because I'm absolutely certain of our date of conception, so it's not like the dates are off or something. Nope, it's just really taking this long.

And I KNOW that on average, first time mothers actually go closer to 41 weeks anyway. And I'm only 40+4. So I shouldn't be stressing.

But I've been so sick and so miserable since about week 34. I'm not a complainer by nature and I'm sick of feeling so whiny all the time. I just want to move on to the next less or at least differently painful physical phase of my life. :P It's hard to stay upbeat and positive when you feel so freaking crappy all the time.

[kismetbaby]

Okay so I'm not going to be over 40 weeks till after Sat (my EDD), but I am feeling so down today that I had to chime in. I know I could easily go till October without that being unusual (Oct 1st is a week from today!). . .but god, that thought makes me so depressed. I am so DONE. I want to meet my baby!!! I'm not getting any sleep these days anyway. . .I would rather be awake with a baby than awake with my back hurting and heartburn!

Its been getting really hard to hear about all the babies being born, even though I am so happy for all those mamas. But I am just getting more and more impatient, uncomfortable, and just depressed. Ugh. Not sure I will accept an internal check at my appt tomorrow. . .I think it will just upset me. A week ago I wasn't dilated at all and only 30% effaced. I don't want to find out that hasn't changed. Although I have been a lot crampier and had many more BHs this week.

[goldie117]

I can't believe that I am still pregnant. 12 days past due now. I had my midwife recalculate my dates. I am positive of date of conception so my edd really was the 12th. Just had an ultrasound yesterday and everything still looks fine. I am soooooo tired of waking up and realizing the baby's still on the inside, my husband has to go to work and I have another fun-filled (ha!)day with my crabby toddler. Still holding out hope for a homebirth. My midwife will induce with a foley bulb on Sunday and if that doesn't work she wants to break my water. I wonder all day if something is wrong with me.

[skydancer]

Just wanted to share my funny experience for the day. I'm actually 'due' today and unfortunately DH has to work late tonight, so I was facing a LONG evening. To treat myself, I went to lunch with my 2 year old. As I was ordering, the person behind the counter asked when I was due. After replying "today", she got this really odd expression on her face and asked if I was sure I didn't want it to go.

Throughout the time I was there, the lady just kept looking at me nervously. I think she was really relieved when we finally left! Talk about feeling like a ticking time bomb!!

[KLM99]

I can't really complain since I'm only a day over, but I feel bored to tears today. My whole house is clean, my freezer is full of meals, I've done all the stupid little errands that I wanted to get done, I did my nails, I shaved my legs. What else can I do to pass the time?? My poor 2yo probably wishes I'd leave her alone.

[clemrose]

I'm 40+3 and really feel ready to have this baby! For two weeks I've had pain in my lower back/pelvis that makes walking, sitting, sleeping, bending etc very painful. Once that set in I was done. I had it with my dd for 2-3 weeks before she was born, but then I didn't have a 2.5 yr old toddler to keep up with! My physical state is taking a toll on my dd too, I can tell. We keep butting heads and I've been letting her watch TV everyday which I don't like to do.

I've been preempting inquires by updating my facebook status every day with how far along I am. So today it is simply "40+3" and yesterday it was "40+2"--I think it has helped because I'm not getting "Is the baby here yet?" anymore. My dd was born at 41+6 so I know I could easily be here for awhile yet, but it won't be easy on me, iykwim.

This morning I lost some of my plug and got really hopeful, but nothing is happening. I haven't told anyone since I know it could mean nothing. My husband just called from work and said, "Don't go into labor yet, I've gotta go pick up a guitar at 4:00" (work thing). I kind of laughed and he said, "What, are you in labor right now?" NO, IF I WERE YOU WOULD BE HERE!

[PurpleMonkey]

this is the perfect thread for me

I'm 41 weeks today and one of my 21-month-old twins is sick

I guess it's just as well cause she's sick? I don't know at least if the baby were here OTHER people would be here to help! Gahhh

[2boyzmama]