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post #21 of 86
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Originally Posted by ASusan View Post
Ditto everyone else, unless you have allergies and can justify intervening.

Except the syrup. YIK. I would (and have) bring a jug of real maple syrup as a house gift. I've even called myself a syrup snob when I've prsented it/used it. You could even bring a whole pancake breakfast as a hostess gift - include a buckwheat pancake mix, TF sausage, maybe bring along your waffle iron and offer to make them with the children. (I've done this, too, as I am a pancake snob, goes with the syrup, I guess!)

If breakfast isn't your thing, you might do this with another meal. I've brought along the ingredients for Moosewood Chili (Red, Black, Green and Gold, if you want to google the recipe) and offered to assemble it for Friday night's dinner. This assures me at least one good meal, and if I make a large enough batch, there will be leftovers for Saturday lunch (for at least myself and, in this case, a child or 2 of mine!).

ETA - Areia - you beat me to the post. You posted while I was prattling on about syrup.
This is such a nice way of doing it!
post #22 of 86
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Originally Posted by JennTheMomma View Post
Well, I wouldn't be able to let it go, especially the hot dogs. I would call them ahead of time and say that some of the foods they eat you and your kids don't eat/like and ask if they have any alternatives, or if you could buy some groceries once you get there and ask to store them in the fridge. I know its only a weekend, but it could make your kids sick if they don't have this type of food, I know it would make me sick with my sensative stomach and being sensative to artificial foods.
It would be nice if our culture allowed such honesty without hurt feelings but I bet this could cause some awkwardness. I like the idea of bringing food along for a "thank-you" meal. I wouldn't allow my kids to have artificial sugar but I would probably cringe through the rest of it.
post #23 of 86
Sorry, I couldn't resist looking at the NI for Jiffy pop. Looks like there are 10g of transfats in the whole pan not one cup. I think others are spot on with their advice - try to be a gracious guest just for one weekend, but do offer to cook something. Maybe come up with some meals in mind that you can make more along your comfort lines but won't be received as holier-than-thou, IYKWIM? Like instead of super cheap hot-dogs, maybe some subltly all-beef franks? I think if you get too far out there, it could be cause hurt and awkwardness.
post #24 of 86
I'd bring (or buy there) my own food for breakfast and lunch and try to suffer through dinner with the "it won't kill us" attitude and I'd tell my kids no if they asked for things I didn't want them to have. I'm pretty picky about food though and I *do* believe some of those things kill people.......
post #25 of 86
Bring a fruit basket and some maple syrup, and take the family out for lunch one day to some place healthy to thank them for hosting your family.

Other than that, one weekend is not even going to harm you, unless any of you are easily constipated. My son gets constipated very easily if we don't eat well enough while on vacation, so I make sure to bring lots of raw fruit, veggies, raisins, etc., for him to snack on.
post #26 of 86
I'm not super strict, but 2 of the things really jump out at me. I could probably look past the drink once, but not more than that. I would bring back up drinks or insist upon water.

The aspartame is a huge NO for me. Not a chance would I let my kids eat that. I would either take my own syrup or have something else for my kids to eat.
post #27 of 86
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Originally Posted by NicaG View Post
I'd let it go. It's one weekend, and not worth the hurt feelings. If it were me, I'd probably ask for something else for the kids to drink, like water, but that's about it.

What is Jiffy pop?
It must be like a peanut butter soda.

Took me awhile to remember what it was also.LOL It's popcorn I think.
post #28 of 86
I make my mom get real syrup for when we visit It's one of my main requests on a very short list, but she can't believe the price.
post #29 of 86
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Originally Posted by ollyoxenfree View Post
When we visit friends, we always offer to cook a meal or two and to take them out for dinner as a thank you for their hospitality. Bring along your favourite granola and tell them that they just HAVE to try it, lol! Bringing a big fruit basket from the market sounds like a great idea. The farmer's markets are amazing this time of year.

You may still have to endure some unhealthy meals, but at least they won't all be like that.
I like this approach. I guess I'm a jerk but there's no way I could endure an entire weekend of eating that crap. One meal, maybe. As many as nine meals? Not a chance. Junk food makes me feel terrible and there's no way I'd eat in a way that I know would make me feel physically sick just to be polite.

I'd show up bearing a basket of healthy food like fruit and real syrup and maybe some local cider or something to replace the mystery powder sugar water. We always bring hostess gifts when we stay with friends and family anyway, so it wouldn't raise any suspicions--but if it did, oh well.
post #30 of 86
I also think it would be extremely gracious if you go grocery shopping and make a big breakfast one day for everyone and a nice dinner another night. It would be a nice thank you and a way of getting some real food into your children.

I loooove Jiffy Pop. I will have to pick some up soon. We only had it about once a year growing up but it was always so special to me. Thanks for reminding me of that stuff!
post #31 of 86
Oh, that's too bad about the Jiffy Pop I didn't know that! We've been buying it for family movie night once a week recently. Our microwave doesn't turn anymore so popcorn burns in there, and my flat top stove got scratched when I tried to make real popcorn on it because none of my pans are smooth on the bottom. I guess we're back to no popcorn then.
post #32 of 86
I don't think I could let much of that go without feeling that I'd let my kids down in some way. But I'd hate to think I was an ungracious guest, either. It's a hard balance to strike.

I think I would shop for alternatives to the foods you object to most and bring them along with to 'to contribute to the household'. I'd get uncured hot dogs, selzer water and fruit juice to mix, pirate booty, health(ier) pancake mix and real syrup. Maybe some whole wheat bread and some fruit. I wouldn't make a point of saying that your kids don't eat the less-healthy stuff, and if they head for the junk, at least you tried and you'll at least be able to ensure that they get access to some better-quality food.

If it comes up, I don't think you'd be too out of line saying that you have a family policy of avoiding specific ingredients....don't say why, so you don't sound judgemantal...they may just assume there are allergies or something.

My worry would be my kids....they shop with me and I've been reading them the ingredients since they were born (kept them happy if I did it in a silly voice as infants, even). They aren't old enough to understand that it's OK to chorus in the supermarket, "We don't eat that, it's NOT a grow-food", but it would be rude at someone else's house.
post #33 of 86
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Originally Posted by Evergreen View Post
I also think it would be extremely gracious if you go grocery shopping and make a big breakfast one day for everyone and a nice dinner another night. It would be a nice thank you and a way of getting some real food into your children.
That's what I would do. Honestly, I wouldn't worry about a weekend of junk food.

As someone who has people visit my house a few times a year, I do get offended when someone complains about the food I serve. Granted, I wouldn't serve that kind of food but still it annoys me.
post #34 of 86
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Originally Posted by elisent View Post
Oh, that's too bad about the Jiffy Pop I didn't know that! We've been buying it for family movie night once a week recently. Our microwave doesn't turn anymore so popcorn burns in there, and my flat top stove got scratched when I tried to make real popcorn on it because none of my pans are smooth on the bottom. I guess we're back to no popcorn then.
You could get an Air Popper
It's even yummier and super low in calories and fat
post #35 of 86
LOVE the hostess gift idea & ditto the grocery shopping & meal making! Our friends always do potluck style for group functions - it's easier & WAY cheaper. Otherwise, yeah - let it go! If something sounds especially gross you can offer to make something as well. I'm sure sharing the work & cost will be MUCH appreciated by the hostess

Feeding 2 families is a huge burden financially and time consuming - if I invited a friend's family over for a weekend & they called me to say that some of the foods we eat their family didn't like I'd be pretty miffed in so many ways - I can't believe someone suggested that!
post #36 of 86
nak

I find it funny we are having a reverse version of this with a totally different result. MIL and BIL (whose almost 8) are coming to visit the baby and they tend to eat much more "mainstream" foods where we are much more towards healthy eating. She thought nothing of saying they will be shopping when they get here. While I am a little less then thrilled to have meat cooked in the house (long time vegetarian) and was fine cooking meatless things they would be comfortable with (spagetti, burritos, etc) I guess at least we don't have to worry now what they will eat and if they will like it


I do find it interesting though how many people who I know like MIL think nothing of getting less healthy foods when they visit beacuse "the kids just don't like that sort of stuff" to things like whole wheat bread and fresh veggies. But us healthier people suck it up just to be polite. Btw I am one who would bring a few nice things and offer to help cook and othewise suck it up. Funny as that is.
post #37 of 86
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Originally Posted by elisent View Post
Oh, that's too bad about the Jiffy Pop I didn't know that! We've been buying it for family movie night once a week recently. Our microwave doesn't turn anymore so popcorn burns in there, and my flat top stove got scratched when I tried to make real popcorn on it because none of my pans are smooth on the bottom. I guess we're back to no popcorn then.
I found a "popcorn popper" pan at Value Village - it has a turnstil & a handle on the top of the lid!

Regardless of that, there are PLENTY of transfat free popcorns on the market You can also comprimise between no popcorn & the occassional Jiffy Pop fest
post #38 of 86
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Originally Posted by tankgirl136 View Post
nak
She thought nothing of saying they will be shopping when they get here. While I am a little less then thrilled to have meat cooked in the house (long time vegetarian) and was fine cooking meatless things they would be comfortable with (spagetti, burritos, etc) I guess at least we don't have to worry now what they will eat and if they will like it


But us healthier people suck it up just to be polite. Btw I am one who would bring a few nice things and offer to help cook and othewise suck it up. Funny as that is.

I think it's us POLITE people who "suck it up" and think of nice & thoughtful ways to comprimise (offering to help the purchase and preparation of meals instead of simply cooking our own). Clearly your MIL's rudeness makes you less than thrilled - I think that's what those of us who were suggesting she "let it go" were trying to avoid

We're big meat eaters here. We bring vegetarian dishes to our vegetarian friend's house. I don't feel like we're "sucking it up," I feel we're being polite & letting go of our preconceptions for a night.

I would never ask her if I could cook my family their own meal when we came over because my family doesn't like vegetarian food, KWIM?

Some people are just plain rude!
post #39 of 86
Like others mentioned I would probably just stop at the grocery store and bring some things. A grocery bag with a loaf of bread, butter, syrup, fruit, a block of cheese, some already popped popcorn or Pirate's Booty for treats, some lunch food, etc. Then I would just say something like, "Thank you so much for hosting our family this weekend!! We stopped at the grocery store and grabbed some food to help take some of the burden off of you. I would be happy to prepare (breakfast, lunch, dinner, etc) on (this day)! We are so excited to see you guys. If there is anything else I can do to help just let me know!"

Good luck!
post #40 of 86
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Originally Posted by elisent View Post
Oh, that's too bad about the Jiffy Pop I didn't know that! We've been buying it for family movie night once a week recently. Our microwave doesn't turn anymore so popcorn burns in there, and my flat top stove got scratched when I tried to make real popcorn on it because none of my pans are smooth on the bottom. I guess we're back to no popcorn then.
OK, this is totally OT about the nutrition, but you can buy a regular ole popcorn maker like the Stir Crazy. My brother got us one as a wedding gift. We'll be married 15 years next month and it's still working great! You just add oil and popcorn and it stirs it around so it doesn't burn. You just have to watch out that little kids don't touch it while it's cooking because it gets hot. But my 11 yo uses it no problem.
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