Feel like my 3.5yr old DD has lost the connection between her brain and actions

[BakerALM]

She does not "think" anymore and it is driving me CRAZY! I feel like everything I say is just going in one ear and out the other. She is constantly doing things that she knows is wrong or inappropriate or inconsiderate and honestly after watching her reaction to my discipline I truly don't think she realizes it most of the time until I say something AGAIN for the 100th time. Then she looks at me like "oh ya I remember now that was wrong and I should not do that" . I really don't' think most of the time she is just choosing to go against my rules (that does also happen) but how do I deal with this? She was always a really considerate child and now she is just walking on my last nerve! I have told her again and again for something and it does not change behavior. I have not found ANYTHING that changes behavior.
ANY SUGGESTIONS HELP!
Andrea

[ssh]

Isn't 3.5 a wonderful age. I think we're coming out of it. It wasn't quite as bad as the tantrums and no impulse control of 2.5, but it was challenging. As for suggestions; make sure she gets lots of exercise and interesting things to do and be patient. Almost 4 is proving to be a more pleasant age for our DD. I found letting my DD paint for awhile really gave us a calmer rest of the day, for example. Asking your DD to repeat what you say can help if she is really getting so distracted she isn't hearing you.

[aspenleaves]

I defienetly know what your talking about.... I have a 5 year old DD. A few things to remember..... for us the half year to the next year up, say 3.5 to 4 is always much harder then the previousl 6 moinths. I think this is beacuse of growing and having to reconfigure everything to accomodate the new skills and challanges with behavior. We always take 2 steps forward 1 step back - the oh, I thought we were already DONE with this. And it isn't how loud you say something.... it is how many times.

Really and truely when we are out I hear parents of teenagers telling them some things I am telling my DD.... I dont think it ever really ends until you dont' have to do it becuase they are adults.

Good Luck