Originally Posted by EdnaMarie
The AAP recommendations are based on risk assessments for a large group of people. They know that if only one child in 10,000 is going to die from something, that 99,999 children could do it without dying.
However, they are going to recommend behavior that keeps every single of the 10,000 children safe.
They are also probably more aware than most of us (because they hear of sad "freak accident" cases daily) of the role that chance plays in all of this.
Does any of us want to be in the ER saying to the doctor, "It felt secure! I've latched it on there a million times! The cart didn't seem wobbly..."
To which the doctor replies, "Yes, they usually do."
And the nurse: "It's not your fault. Maybe there was a piece of gravel under the wheel."
And the other nurse: "She's stable. She's got a fighting chance."
I mean, really?
Because we are just soooo confident in our ability to assess security of carseat clips and shopping-cart stability? So that we'll put a baby four feet above ground?
I'm sorry, EdnaMarie, this whole thing sounds so silly.
I could put any other situation here and the conversation could be the same.
"I thought my Ergo was buckled, but the baby fell out."
To which the doctor replies, "Yes, they usually are buckled correctly."
And the nurse: "It's not your fault. Maybe there was something stuck in the buckle."
"I thought forward facing at one was okay, but I guess his neck just wasn't strong enough."
To which the doctor replies, "Yes, it usually is okay to forward face at one."
And the nurse: "It's not your fault. He just wasn't strong enough to withstand the crash forces." (The AAP recommended until recently a bare minimum of 1 year and 20 pounds for forward facing.)
"I thought the crib was safe - I didn't know the slat was loose."
To which the doctor replies, "Yes, cribs are usually very safe."
And the nurse: "It's not your fault. Sometimes thing break and we don't notice." (The AAP recommends babies sleep in their own spaces.)
"I thought circumcision was safe. No one told me about things being botched or meatal stenosis."
To which the doctor replies, "Yes, circumcision usually is safe."
And the nurse: "It's not your fault. The doctor just didn't do the job right." (The AAP gives parents the option, and does not recommend against circumcision.)
"I thought vaccines would save her life - not put her in the hospital with a life threatening reaction."
To which the doctor replies, "Yes, vaccines are supposed to be safe."
And the nurse: "It's not your fault. Obviously your child had an allergy no one knew about."(The AAP recommends vaccination on schedule for all children.)
In other words, some of us don't put too much stock in what the AAP says.
While I *AGREE* that today's infant carriers are *NOT* meant to snap into a cart and parents should not believe that infant carriers are *INHERENTLY SAFE* in carts, I totally disagree that it's irresponsible to do this. Anyone with a lick of common sense (and there are lots who lack it), will know that one must hold onto the carrier, make sure it's stable, and not go barreling through the store or parking lots without protecting the baby inside.
While you can certainly say that carriers don't belong there, it's not a one-size-fits-all solution to say that parents shouldn't do it. SOME parents shouldn't do it because they are unable to be mindful of it. OTHER parents can use common sense and weigh the benefits vs the risks.
Otherwise, you may as well just call the shots on everything potentially unsafe that parents do.