How to handle this situation - Page 2

[Zenful]

Originally Posted by momo7

The first thing I did after I read your story was laugh. Just the idea of this woman pulling up beside you and saying what she did, that's just ......I mean it's just so absurd. I'm so sorry she made you feel like that. When I see pro-breastfeeding stickers I get so jealous because I don't have any on my van......You're doing a great job "evangelizing" the breastfeeding cause....good for you.

Her reaction is ridiculous, imo. It's not like you were pointing your finger at anyone in particular...you were simply stating that babies are meant to be breastfed and if you don't like it then don't look. Where in that does it say that a mother should be judged for not being able to breastfeed? Also, to take something so personally when it's just a friggin bumper sticker, for crying out loud...I just don't get it The "bitch" part, though, I found particularly funny...it makes the whole scene seem like a bad sitcom

[frontierpsych]

She seems to have been looking to be offended. I know plenty of people who couldn't breastfeed, either for physical reasons or due to other obstacles, and NONE of them would have been offended by anything like that.

[Megan73]

You handled it perfectly – she was clearly in no mood to listen.
That said, I feel sad at how much that woman must have been hurt by being unable to breastfeed that she reacted in such an inappropriate way.

[Lora0404]

Seriously, I had to laugh at this too. Hopefully, you won't have this situation again (unless you run across that looney toon again). You did everything just right. This lady obviously has mental issues for screaming obscenities over bumper stickers. I wouldn't want to engage anyone who was unstable. Go you for having cool stickers

[sapphire_chan]

The finger?

Followed by complaining at MDC about the woman.

Not like she gave you a chance for a calm discussion.

My opinion is she was at fault in some way for her milk drying up as people who couldn't nurse through no fault of their own don't get pissy about other people breastfeeding. (Sad, maybe, or upset if accosted by a misguided obnoxivist, but not pissy)

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by amberskyfire

Learn how to say "I am deaf, I cannot understand" in sign language. Once they spout off something rude you don't know what to answer to, just sign your sign. They get embarrassed very fast and just walk off.

[Altair]

I can see being *hurt* by being reminded of something that you still beat yourself up over and feel guilt over or just mourn not being able to do. I was a homebirth doula for 10 years before having my baby, a planned homebirth turned 3 day-60 hour horrendous labor at home (one entire day of which was transition), made the agonizing decision to transfer when I realized my baby had been stuck for that past day, and had a c-section. That was 6 months ago and homebirth propaganda still makes me cry.

Thank goodness I was able to breastfeed. If I had lost that too I may have become that crazy woman screaming at random strangers.