So cool that there are so many bra-free people around!
Originally Posted by momma earthical
II like the idea of a tank underneath though - I might try that. The times I find it most difficult are when I'm helping at waterbirths and I end up wet........
I do find that a tank underneath provides almost total nipple coverage (unless it's really cold
) and some bounce control... for wet situations a dark tank would probably be great.
Originally Posted by clothdiaperingmom
Ive always hated wearing bras, and my mom always told me if I didnt, I would look like foreign women in National Geo where their breasts hang down to their belly buttons.
Funny though, my odd is almost 15 (shes as big as me) and wears a bra ALOT and hers already look like mine braless. So I guess it didnt matter if I wore one or not all these yrs.
Yeah, I think it has very little to do with your bra wearing and more to do with your genes and/or how many babies you've nursed
I have to say I've definitely struggled a little bit with the pervasive ideas in our culture that a) not wearing bras will cause you to have long saggy breasts and that b) long saggy breasts are not sexually attractive (and therefore affect your attractiveness and worth as a person). I don't actually believe these things at all, but they are definitely unsaid and hovering in the background in our cultural environment and they affect me too.
First of all I reason with myself that bra wearing has little if anything to do with sagginess. Second, wearing my breasts with their natural, non-spherical, side-pointing shape (perfect for nursing babies!) has led me to a different sense of style and and different feeling about how I present myself as a person. I no longer wear tight or low-cut shirts - they aren't comfortable, and there's nothing to emphasize if my breasts aren't being shaped by a bra. Somehow for me the shaping and propping up of my breasts feels like it's *for a viewer*. When I leave them free, I don't feel like I am trying to show anything to anyone. I feel less self-conscious and therefore more confident, and therefore don't feel dumpy wearing comfortable, non-revealing clothes. I feel more graceful and less... sectioned off into parts? I feel like my attractiveness is more concentrated on my face and by connection my personhood. So all this leads to me feeling like when I nurse babies and get older and my breasts sag, I am going to be completely ok with it. Because my breast shape is no longer a huge component of my feeling of being an attractive human being. It's relaxing