Originally Posted by Blueone
I find this thread very interesting. I am an A cup and currently wear a B cup that I got when pregnant. I also mostly only wear camis with those shelf bras under my shirts. I've gone bra free a few times, but then I feel a bit self conscious. As it is, when we have guests staying overnight I make sure I wear a looser night shirt since I always go bra free when I have PJ's on.
I think the self consciousness is a thing you can work on. I know I *think* that people notice that I'm not wearing a bra but in fact I think they don't actually care if I am or not.
You know when you see people and you notice whether they have their hair up or if they have a coat on or if they have a a spot on their chin, we see it and log it in our brain and then move on. Most of the time you don't see something and mull over it all day: our brains are too busy to do that!
In the summer I was braless under t-shirts and really noticed no difference in how people spoke to me. No-one stared at my chest or looked uncomfortable so I guess it really isn't a big deal at all.
Making changes always seems overt to the one making the changes but to others it isn't so much of a big deal. Breastfeeding whilst out and about seems a big deal the first time then you get used to doing it, disregard other people's so-called objections and life carries on.
I feel more self-conscious wearing lipstick and heels than I do going bra-less!!