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post #81 of 178
I've never really worn a bra at all. I have a few that I wear with certain dressy outfits but that's only a couple of times a year and usually, my poor dh has to bring it home in his pocket because I can't stand it for more than and hour or two. I can't even tolerate the "shelf" type camisoles.
eta - I'm a 36C - D btw
post #82 of 178
Can I be in this tribe if I only wear a bra when I go out?
I feel SO constricted in mine, and that goes for socks too!!
post #83 of 178
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Originally Posted by Mamacitac View Post
Can I be in this tribe if I only wear a bra when I go out?
I feel SO constricted in mine, and that goes for socks too!!
haha i don't wear socks either
post #84 of 178
DH was really iffy about the whole no bra thing at first - he would point out if I was a bit pokie... "You're nipples are showing!" and I'd say right back.."So are yours!" Then he'd laugh and see the logic. We are in a conservative area with people who are made to suppress their sexuality...but come on, female nipples aren't any more sexual than a males (and might I add neither are sexual at all...)

Now he's chill. He sees that I'm not any more saggy than I was a year ago. And he understands the correlation between bras and cancer and cysts. He's very loving and supportive of me, anyway, which is all the support I need!!

I'm so much more comfy all the time, too. Lol. I put on a push-up bra for new years when we were in Vegas on the strip - I knew I had it on the ENTIRE time and it was really bugging me. I can't believe I used to wear those! I showed DH the marks on my skin when I took it off, and he felt really bad for all woman-kind.
post #85 of 178
I gave up underwire bras years ago. It was freeing--literally! I still wear boob sling-type bras though. I'm a 42 E, and freestyling makes my nipples hurt when I walk a lot (like if I go braless to the grocery store or something). So I prefer a super stretchy sports bra. Nothing molded or anything. I hadn't heard about health issues related to bras until this thread. I'll have to read more about it.
post #86 of 178
My DP doesn't like the nipple thing either. (I don't go for the color of my nipples showing, but shape, i couldn't care less)

He'll say something like "your nipples are showing". And I'll shrug, and he'll be like "but guys will notice!" and I'm like, I really don't care. I dress modestly, but if guys want to make my nipples a sexual thing in their heads, well, I don't really approve but goodness knows I'm not going to give myself breast cancer or be in pain to prevent it!
post #87 of 178
My nipples definitely show sometimes, but they showed sometimes even when I wore bras. A hard nipple is going to be visible through a thin shirt no matter what.
post #88 of 178
I keep forgetting to post about these. I love them, but when I got pregnant my boobs got to big for them, but they are super comfy.

http://www.ttimeflatwear.com/
post #89 of 178
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Originally Posted by Magelet View Post
He'll say something like "your nipples are showing". And I'll shrug, and he'll be like "but guys will notice!" and I'm like, I really don't care. I dress modestly, but if guys want to make my nipples a sexual thing in their heads, well, I don't really approve but goodness knows I'm not going to give myself breast cancer or be in pain to prevent it!
I also dress more modestly now than I ever did before giving up bras. I don't think a little nipple shape under my loose, non-cleavage-revealing shirt qualifies as immodest at all! Unless you wear a burqa some randy male is always going to find something to fixate on, and at some point that just has to become his problem and not yours.

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A hard nipple is going to be visible through a thin shirt no matter what.
Yes! Unless I wore a padded bra my nipples would often show through anyway. In fact I notice that wearing a cami hides them better than an un-padded bra.
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post #91 of 178
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Originally Posted by Kmarie42 View Post
I get that she was trying to sell bras, but at the time I definitely felt kind of hurt. I didn't know about the benefits of going braless until I found this thread. Now I feel like calling her manager and telling him about her comment. Should I?
Grr, that would irk me too. But you know, it probably won't make any difference if you call her manager. Not only are they trying to sell bras (and therefore unlikely to admit any connection between breast problems and bras) but they probably wouldn't take you seriously anyway - since there's "no hard evidence" that wearing a bra directly causes breast cancer. Sort of like how there was "no hard evidence" for a connection between smoking and lung cancer for decades Anyway, I personally wouldn't bother complaining in this case, though I would have been really annoyed too At least you know she's wrong!
post #92 of 178

Wow, that worked so much better.

For the past oh 6 months, some months worse than others, for like 5 days before my period, I've had really some breasts. This month, it was so bad that yesterday, I was wincing in pain as my breasts bounced as I walked slowly!! I decided today that that would not do, but obviously my only bra (a padded underwire, since used to be I only wore padded bras to deal with the nipple issue. funny that I went straight from only wearing padded bras to no bra with who cares if the nipple shows. but anyways) wasn't going to be bareable.

I decided to try wearing a leotard under my clothes (I love leotards, from having done ballet much of my life). They rather squish your boobs, but it is gentle lyrca squishing in, and no firm hold toxins in place or wire cutting into you. It helped SO much. My breasts are still very sore, but they weren't bouncing as I walked, so they didn't really hurt that much today. (they are mostly sore to contact, such as bouncing, or bumping, or DP forgetting they hurt and playing with them. that's been happening a lot the pasdt few days I like that he likes them and all but OUCH!! lol)

anyways, I've never liked sports bras because they squish too much and haven't had any in years anyways. I thought sharing it might help some other mamas if you have problems with sore breasts and bouncing, and have leotards around. (btw, it doesn't even have a build in "shelf bra" or anything, its just the natural light squishing that seemed to work). the squishing was slightly painful on my sore breasts for a few minutes (mostly the anything touching/squishing my nipples), but after a few minutes it was comfy, and that is so much better than bouncing extreme pain all day.
post #93 of 178
I'm 61, have 7 kids and 11 grands, haven't worn a bra since the '60's!
Its right up there with panyhose & neck ties as the stupidest pieces of clothing goes!
post #94 of 178

new to nursing / bra issue

I would love to avoid wearing a bra while nursing, but the breast my son is not on starts leaking... those of you who said you nurse without a bra, how do you handle this? I hate nursing pads but can't think of another way.
post #95 of 178
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post #96 of 178
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lilypadz stay on all by themselves
you have to be careful with lilypads if you are prone to plugged ducts. trust me. ouch!
post #97 of 178
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post #98 of 178
I'm semi-bra-free! A Facebook friend posted the link to the brafree site about 5 or 6 weeks ago, and I made a point to not wear a bra when I'm at home. Since I'm a student who doesn't work, I'm home most of the time Today for example, I woke up at 10 am, put on a bra at about 2 when I changed for school, and took it off at 7:30 when I got home and changed into a sweatshirt. My goal is to get some of the non-wire soft bras, because when you're wearing a baggy shirt or flowy tank top, you can't see nipples anyhow. I doubt I'll ever be totally free, without even a camisole or soft bra, in public, but I really, really want to be underwire-free completely...I figure I'll keep one push up bra for special occasions. In just the last few weeks though, my breasts have gotten noticeably perkier!
post #99 of 178
ive always been bra free at home, but i'm more of a nudist(!)
. i have no idea how someone would wear a bra under clothes at home, when only your family will see you. i bet ya ten bucks your family doesn't care about your nipples (well, unless youre my son, then you lunge at every chance!) haha.
if i wear a wireless bra i get a plugged duct t hat same day. i wear padded underwire vickies bras to go out in, i'm a fashion victim what do you want???
i have also weaned myself off of petroleum products and deodorant/antiperspirant and i am pretty darn proud.
but socks in the winter = LOVE
post #100 of 178
i should also note that since my son is barely vaxed, i take a lot of precautions to get the germs off us when we come home. we changfe clothes and wash up right away so i shed my bra & nice (dirty) clothing for something comfy. right now, its sweats, socks, and no top/bra because the baby's asleep. is there a nudist tribe here (no flames please)?
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