I am 41 weeks also and chose to have it done at my most recent appointment. For me, the decision was mostly circumstantial...my hubby has to go out of state for 6 weeks soon for a training thing, and I'm fearing that this baby will decide to show up just prior to his leaving. We have a 16mo as well, no family nearby to help out, and its important to me that we all have some bonding and adjusting time before he leaves. I'm really dreading being alone with a newborn and small toddler!
That said, I didn't really expect it to start labor, and it didn't. Hopefully it at least did something for dilation, though. I tried it 3 times with my first pregnancy (which went to a day shy of 43 weeks), and never had any spectacular results. It never started labor. My thought process was that if we really get down to the wire before DH must leave, I will regret having not done anything. Are there risks? Certainly. Everything has a consequence (or potential consequence). Are they low? Most likely, for most women, in normal pregnancies, yes. For me personally in my own circumstance, the risks of attempting to stretch the membranes are less worrisome than doing nothing at all, and ending up recuperating from birth alone with two highly dependent small children.
I think it is unrealistic to say that no woman or practitioner should ever attempt this because it is always problematic...the truth is that it isn't always problematic, and there may be circumstances that make those small risks acceptable. We've all got to weigh those pros and cons for ourselves and make our own decisions.
