Anyone going to wait for the birth to find out baby's gender?

[mosquitoswamp]

That's been my plan since before I even got pregnant. I know it's a surprise either way, but I love the thought of not even knowing until I actually hold the baby. So why am I at 4 weeks and ALREADY getting so impatient that I hope I accidentally find out at an ultrasound?

How am I going to make it another +/- 36 weeks?? I'm a planner, I like to know things. I like to plan!

Anyone else thinking they'll wait to find out? I just have this feeling I'm going to have a boy, and if I end up having a girl, I don't want to go into shock. He/She will be loved no matter what! I'm just excited

[Traceround]

You know? I don't know. DH and I have discussed this at length and on one hand I don't want to know. I want that moment at birth to hear that I have a son or a daughter.

But we have good odds at having twins and in the case of twins, I want to know to prepare.

But that doesn't make much sense, does it?

[laangel]

We decided not to bother this time. We have one of each already, so I don;t know if things were different whether we still wouldn't want to know. Also I was soooo convinced that I was preg with another girl last time, I had her name, clothes looked out, washed and put away. We had 2 scans at both of which they couldn't see 'a thing' and one sonographer even said her money was on a girl. And yes when she came out the midwife asked 'did you see what you got?' and my dp said 'it's not what you think' and lo and behold 'Hannah' had a willie!!
So we figure it's not really worth it and we would never feel we know 100% anyway. So it's team yellow here!

[Sihaya]

I LOVE to plan. I really wanted a girl last time and felt the whole time that it was a boy. We didn't find out until birth. It was perfect

We won't be finding out this time either. Mostly because we don't have ultrasounds unless medically indicated. If we were to need one, I wouldn't want to peek either, though. It feels so weird to me to be able to know something like that ahead of time.

[elismum1908]

we didn't find out with DS and we won't this time around either. i really like having the surprise awaiting me at the end of all that hard work!!! i wouldn't do it any other way.

[Red Sonja]

We found out with DS and DD1, didn't find out with DD2. Those first few moments of life, where I was just holding her and looking into her eyes, with her body still down in the water (covered with a chux pad to keep her warm) were just absolutely amazing. These big eyes quietly staring into mine, not knowing if this little being was a boy or girl but just looking and those moments of anticipation... wow! So we won't be finding out again.

[NicolleLynne]

I would like to wait but my DH has already told me that he'd like to know in advance. It's one of our few conflicts. He can't really articulate why he wants to know, just says, "I'd like to know!" I suppose if we get to that point I could ask an ultrasound tech to tell him after I leave the room but I think it would be odd for him to know and not me. I guess we'll have to talk it out, hopefully I can convince him to change his mind and join Team Green!

[gen24]

I think it is so worth it to wait. We didn't find out with DS and we won't find out with the next either. It still amazes me that I didn't even think to look to see what the sex was for at least a minutes. I completely forgot!!! We told everyone in the birthing room not to say anything. We didn't want someone to yell "it's a boy". We just wanted to find out ourselves in our own time and it was the most amazing thing ever.
We did make both our families go crazy though with the long wait...

[mosquitoswamp]

I am convinced it will SO be worth the torture to wait. I especially like the stories of holding the baby not even knowing the gender yet, just enjoying each other. Very nice!
You all sound a lot more resolute in your decision than me though, so I will keep referring back to this thread when I feel tempted.

Surely though at some point in your pregnancies you formed some idea of what you thought baby was... did it feel weird if it turned out to be wrong?

When I had my daughter, for a million reasons I won't go into now, mainly the doctor wanting to COMPLETELY dictate how everything would go, I felt so disconnected from her when she was finally out, I just kinda looked at her like "Ah, how interesting. So that's who was in there. Now someone get me a HAMBURGER!" Then Zzzz... no interest whatsoever in holding this creature.

So I'm afraid not knowing might make the baby in my belly seem more anonymous. Maybe not. I dont know

[Gypsy.Momma]

I don't plan on finding out we didn't with my first 2 girls then did with my 3rd daughter at 32 weeks because her bum was right there when the us tech looked then my son was pretty proud of his goodies and was sitting with legs wide lol. Now we have boy and girl clothes and that moment after all the hard work is so exciting!

[soso-lynn]

No knowing does not make the baby more anonymous. Quite the contrary. If you know you are having, say, a boy, you will start to construc in your mind his lile boy and interpret his kicking and other feelings during the pregnancy to his boy temperament. When the baby is born, you will then have to learn to deconstruct your fantasy to get to know the actual person.

If you do not find ou and if you only get ultrasounds if medically necessary, you can actually start to bond with your child in-utero but you will always have a reminder that you do not yet know who that person is.

I think it is pretty obvious that I am not finding out the baby's sex until after birth, possibly until they reach adulthood and decide for themselves.

[Bri&lexismom]

Being high risk I have a lot of u/s. With lexi I think it was 5. And every time I was always asking can you see if she is still a girl lol. My sil had her 20 week u/s that said boy and well she has very pretty girl lol. I can't wait I count the days down to the 20 week u/s like I do the due date. Waiting is just to much for me. I have to plan everything either blue or pink. Michael wants to paint the room the day of the u/s lol. So needless to say we will be finding out. We just want to know. I have pic's and videos from the 20 week u/s and it's something that we put in the baby book and show the video to whoever we can get to watch it lol.

[juleslane]

I have 3 girls, and since we told everyone, I can't count how many "i hope it's a boy" I have gotten. I mean, at least 30! So, this is really making me lean towards not knowing. However, dh really wants to know, so not sure what to do. We still have tons of time to decide, but for now, I am telling people we are not finding out. I would be happy with either gender. I am a type A personality, with TONS of girls baby stuff, so to not find out will be tough! We shall see

[UberMama]

We didn't plan on it but once I became pregnant, the IM (intended mother) decided she did want to know at our 20ish week u/s.

I still don't want to know until birth, but I'd rather know if everyone else knows.. So, I'll be finding out.

[kbcain]

We found out with my son @ 20 weeks.

DH really wants to know, but I'm kinda on the fence about it. I love the idea of seeing the baby and not knowing what it is for the first few moments!

[DeChRi]

Crashing from May DDC (well, O-ed late so I MAY be a June DDC-er eventually!)

We are trying to decide. We have 2 girls. Baby will be rooming in with us so there isn't a room to decorate for a couple years yet. We have strollers and car seats and such, so nothing besides clothes to buy.

As of right now I would LOVE to wait. DH and everyone else wants to know. I kind of would like a boy, but also think 3 girls would rock. Given that I am not really anxious about the gender, I think waiting would be fun.

What we might do as a compromise is have the U/S tech do the whole...write on a piece of paper and stick in an envelope...deal. Then we can wait as long as we want, find a special time (even if it isn't birth) and open it together (not with the U/S tech).

[GoBecGo]

We'll only be having one u/s, at between 11 and 13 weeks, too early to call. Plus the hospital we're booking to (UK NHS) doesn't tell you the sex and won't look for it. I guess if you had a very immodest boy you might figure it would for yourself in a later scan but we hope not to have one (i had 2 more with DD for being "post-dates" to check placenta was still working, which it was, very annoying as DD came at 41+4, which is NOT post dates to me!). If i had the option i wouldn't want to know. I like the idea of the baby maintaining the anonymity nature has given them unless there is a medical problem.

[bananabee]

I really want to know. I've got my heart set on a little girl, so if it's a boy I'll need time to rearrange my feelings so when he's born, I can fully embrace my little male person with all my heart.

That said, we may not tell anyone the gender so people will shower us with gender neutral gifts that we can use with the next baby.

[peachsara]

I really don't know yet.

With DS, I wanted to know right away. I also really wanted a girl and wanted some time to get used to it if I was having a boy.

With DD, I did not want to know at all. Everything with her birth was going to be so scheduled and planned out, that I really wanted a surprise. But, the ultrasound tech almost told me. Then, the nurse left the chart sitting right beside me while I was waiting for the OB and the U/S report was right on top. I glanced over and saw the word "female" - I told myself the rest of the pregnancy that it was a reference to me.

This time, I really don't care. I think that DH really wants to know but I'm not sure how I feel.

[SuperGojiMama]

Definitely looking forward to the surprise.. Names picked out for both!