Anyone going to wait for the birth to find out baby's gender? - Page 2

[dana76]

I have no idea!!!! I love the idea of waiting but I'm not sure if I can! It's our first, and I am so excited about all the planning to do!!! All of you make waiting sound like such a wonderful surprise..... what to do??? I guess I have a while to make any decisions : )

[Yaliina]

Bumping up an old post.

DH & I have discussed this some already- we're kinda torn. We found out with both or DS's, and were really glad we did with DS #1 since he passed away shortly after his birth- so we felt that we got to "know" him before he was born and called him by his name... So of course we found out with DS #2. But now I'm really thinking that I want to be surprised with this one. DH isn't convinced. I guess we'll see how we feel about it when the time comes. Plenty of time to talk it out!

[CatholicBFMama]

I'm undecided about this one. We didn't find out with DD1, did with DD2. I'd love a boy this time, so we'll probably find out so in case it is a boy we can plan accordingly and buy some boy clothes so he doesn't have to come home in a frilly pink thing.

[MuslimMama]

I am still not sure either. I am still deciding how much i want/ dont want as far as prenatal care, etc. If I end up deciding to have an u/s, then I will definitely find out!

[slsurface]

With DS we found out accidentally, when the ultrasound technician blurted it out . I would be happy to wait until birth-day for #2, but DH told me that there are enough surprises in life and he'd rather know ahead of time again! Things have been rather stressful for him lately, so I totally understand how he feels. If I have any ultra sounds, I'll find out just for DH .

[peachsara]

Initially, I thought we would wait until birth to find out, but now I'm thinking we will go ahead and see. I love the anticipation and surprise with waiting but there is just too much going on this time.

We don't have any little baby clothes left - for some reason, I gave them all to the women's shelter and the adoption place. DH really wants another boy, and if it's a girl, I want him to have a chance to adjust before the baby gets here. Also, we are completely torn over the circumcision (sp) debate and we need to get it settled before hand if the baby is a boy, but not have that war if it is a girl.

[Beastie]

We're hoping not to find out, both in hopes of reducing the amount of gendered stuff that we end up with and for the joy of the surprise when we meet the baby. I'm the oldest of 4, and I remember waiting for an "it'sa" call, where my parents called from the hospital where my sibs were born to say "it's a girl" or "it's a boy."

I should throw out there that we think that genitals can only tell us the baby's biological sex; as for gender, the baby will have to figure that out as he/she/ze grows up!

[Tulafina]

n/m

[FarmerFemme]

Originally Posted by Beastie

We're hoping not to find out, both in hopes of reducing the amount of gendered stuff that we end up with and for the joy of the surprise when we meet the baby. I'm the oldest of 4, and I remember waiting for an "it'sa" call, where my parents called from the hospital where my sibs were born to say "it's a girl" or "it's a boy."

I should throw out there that we think that genitals can only tell us the baby's biological sex; as for gender, the baby will have to figure that out as he/she/ze grows up!

I'm with Beastie. Maybe it's because we're queer! I've long loved trans and gender-queer darlings and part of understanding their gender identity (and my own as a femme) makes me sensitive now to the hyper-gendered environment my baby will come into. I believe sex and gender are two very different things. I won't be finding out the sex of the baby because I want to keep that seperate from how people will treat his/her gender. I'll do my best to raise my kids in a way that lets them express the gender right for him, her, or zir! I know it's hard and a gender-neutral environment is nearly impossible, but we're going to do our best with what we can until Junebug can start making decisions about gender identity.

[blessed2bmommy]

I already want to find out, but DH does not. If I can resist I would LOVE to have the surprise of waiting. Just the thought of DH and I being the ones to discover the gender of our child! I'm really excited for that moment, just wish I could know now and still have the surprise, lol.

[laneysprout]

We found out with DD and I loved it when people would ask, "Do you know the gender?" and I would answer, "No, we're going to give her some time to decide for herself." I should mention, I teach sex and gender courses in a sociology department so this is a subject close to my heart.

I REALLLY wanted a girl last time. I have a sister so that's all I could imagine. When we found out, while I was thrilled, my second thought was mild disappointment, sort of like, "Yes! It's a girl. I'm going to have a daughter! Oh, but that means I don't get to have a son."

This time, DH wants to find out again and I just don't. I feel very certain this baby will be male, have had a name picked out for quite some time, and it just feels like it is what it is. We will be happy to have a healthy baby, either way, but I am definitely leaning towards boy this time.

[icy02]

I am planning on being surprised!! I think it will be an amazing gift after the hard work of labor. I also want to let the people in the room know to not call it out. I want to discover the sex on my own. DH really wants to know, but I think I can hold him off. We are hoping for a girl this time but the + side of another boy is that we will need nothing! DS has sooo many clothes!! We also have a lot of newborn and 0-3 gender neutral things. Hoping that if this LO is a girl someone will bring me a pack of pink onezies