Our next door neighbors put their 2 yo in full time (40+ hrs per week) daycare at age 2, just because he was two. They have this very set idea that someone should be home, and the child should be at home until age 2, then something magical happens, and it is suddenly important that the child spend all day, five days a week in the company of similar aged kids, in a full time daycare environment,
and they called it "school".
The person who had been the at home caregiver, and remained at home, alone, for many months after he was in full time daycare, was totally offended when I mistakenly referred to it as daycare (like most people around here would). Never mind that the company running it (it's an onsite facility) refers to it as the "daycare center".
The neighbors are from the east coast. I have a friend who has moved out there, and she told me they were pressured by everyone they knew to have their kids in full time care once they were two, whether both parents were working or not. She experienced an attitude that it is essential for them to be spending their days in a setting with similar aged kids once they are two. She thought it was strange. I wonder if it's a regional idea ?
I don't dispute everyone's right to choose what works for them, whatever their reasons are. But I also exercise my own freedom to privately think it's odd to believe a 2 yo needs
40 hrs a week in a daycare facility, with no other reason for doing it, other than being two. Other reasons may make it make more sense to me - an overwhelmed, depressed, or really impatient parent at home, a high needs younger sibling, working from home, school from home (for the parent), etc. And yes, I get
that it really doesn't matter what I think, etc. But it also really doesn't matter what I think about other parenting style choices.......and yet it's okay for me to have an opinion on those too, as well as this, as long as I don't go sharing it with the person in question or treating them harshly over the difference of ideas. Which I wouldn't, and I suspect the OP wouldn't either. But I will think it all I want and not feel a bit guilty about it !
Again, IMO it's nutty to see a 2 yo as needing 40 hrs a week in a daycare center for their own good, just for being two.
BTW our neighbors almost all think I'm crazy for homeschooling. I don't consider them or anyone to be truly judgmental about it until they share this opinion with me in a critical way, give me all their reasons why they think it's a bad idea and should not even be legal, and then discuss it in a harshly critical way with each other, a few feet from me, in loud voices to make sure
I got it. All of which has been done. If they thought all these things privately, or even discussed it among themselves, but didn't bother me with it, I would not consider them to be judgmental.