Originally Posted by mbhf
If your parent slive in the same town and you get along with them, I can't see why anyone would expect you to stay with your ILs. I actually get along much better with my ILs, so I frequently stay with them without my dh (he can't get much time off work to travel with us) and just visit my parents for a few hours one day.
This is totally me!! My parents and in-laws live in the same town. My hubby was in the army and got shipped over to Korea. I stayed with the ILs for a couple months with son #1 before we joined hubby in Korea.
If anything, I need hubby as a buffer with my own parents.
But, I don't find it weird that you don't stay with them. If anything, I always get questions about why I'm not staying with my own parents. The other thing I sometimes do is arrange for my MIL or my own mother to spend time with my older son by themselves. I don't really think of it as babysitting, since I'm not looking for someone to watch my kid, but I find that they enjoy the alone time much better than if I'm there with them.