October Queer Conceptions - Ready to *FALL* in love w/ our future babes! - Page 9

[Beastie]

Just stopping in to say hooray!!! to JJNoho!

Still FX for tons of other Fall BFPS for all of you...

Beastie

[Lyndzies]

jjnoho, way to go!!!

Hoping to join you in the June DDC very soon.

[indigoscot]

congrats jjnoho!!

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[FtMPapa]

Check your status on the first post!

JJNoHo!!!! Congrats! Yay!



AFM - starting soy isoflavones today, CD 3-7, 110 mg/day, maybe I'll do 165. They come in 55 mg pills. It's supposed to work somewhat like Clomid - but without some of the nasty side effects of Clomid. Basically the soy bonds to estrogen receptors and prevents them from telling your body you have enough estrogen, so you produce more estrogen than you normally would, leading to a "stronger" ovulation, typically earlier in the cycle. We'll see. . . .


Everyone, I managed to delete the first post by mistake last night, so I attempted to recreate it, but I think there are some mistakes. Please let me know what your status should be if it's not right.

[osker]

Ugh, you can put us down for "waiting to O"...
Here we go again, yet another month.
Heather vetoed the RE, said she's just not ready, so we're still on at-home insems for at least another month. Which is probably for the best as we're still trying to figure out insurance issues...


Congrats to you JJ! That's so wonderful!

[jjnoho]

thanks everyone for your wishes! still nervous about the whole idea and cannot quite believe it yet.

hopefully there will be plenty more to come

[FtMPapa]

Sorry, Osker.

[megincl]

Osker,

That totally sucks. Hoping this next cycle brings a sticky bean.

AFU, we had the embryo transfer today. There was one good healthy embryo that I watched make its way into Katie's uterus via ultrasound. It was totally trippy. I was suited up in scrubs, cap, mask, shoe covers, etc. Totally a romantic TTC moment, eh?

So, we (me and ktcl) can officially be moved to waiting to know. That's been a long time coming. Phew. Pregnancy test is the 24th (SO nice having someone else manage all of this!).

be well all,
megin

[joyseattle]

Hi Everyone,

I used to lurk (and occasionally post) on here awhile back but got busy with life (grad school, doula work, relationship stuff). I'm sorry I don't "know" all of you yet, but I'm excited to see BFPs!

My partner and I have been together for 4+ years, married for 2+, and have been waiting until now to ttc (so it doesn't interfere with my grad school). After a few months of doing TCM (acu and herbs), changing my diet and starting mediation, and getting ready to move to a bigger place we finally had our frozen donor sperm shipped (it was in storage for us since 12/31/08). We just started ttc this month with an at home insem on 10/4, with plans to test on Monday 10/19.

I look forward to joining the conversation as much as time allows and getting to know your stories.

Best of luck to everyone!

P.S. FtMPapa, can you put me on the list under waiting to know?

[Lyndzies]

Hi, joyseattle!! Looks like we are sort of cycle buddies this month. I insemmed that weekend, too, and should know something on Monday or Tuesday as well! FX for both of us!

Osker - sorry AF found your DP. Here's hoping next cycle is THE cycle, and that you don't even have to worry about RE stuff!

AFM - working like a mad woman, which actually has been a nice distraction... getting ready to head to Memphis this Sunday. AF is due Monday and I'll be out of town till Thursday! I might have to sneak in a test right before I leave. I don't know if I can wait the whole week if AF is a no-show! Although.... that WOULD be a pretty accurate pg test for me (AF not coming). I definitely Oed, and my non-pg LP has never been longer than 14 days.

.... now is when it gets really hard not to test/obsess. !

[FtMPapa]

Wow, Megin & Katie! Yay! I feel like you should get a 'cuz you've got an embryo in there! PUPO! Let's hope for a !


Welcome, JoySeattle! I'm glad we have a new recruit (or a former lurker speaking up!) because we've had a couple of BFPs and I was worried about our dwindling numbers! (What would I do if there weren't new posts several times a day????)

AFM - I had adventures in getting Day 3 labs yesterday...one clinic decided to close early, so I had to drive 20 miles way out of my way to get labs drawn at a clinic in the middle of nowhere. Why is it that the one in Lesboville closes at 4 and the one in nowheresville is open 'til 7????

The clinic called today and they wouldn't give me my numbers, but the labs are in and the doctor will tell me what the numbers are....after I meet with their shrink and their "advisory board" (ethics committee) decides if they'll take me as a patient or not. Apparently, in spite of the doctor's assurances that they have treated trans patients before, I'm the first "case like this" they've ever had.

Um....what? After I've sat around for three weeks waiting for CD 3, and then was told to sit around for another 4 (or six, since my cycles are 40 days long lately...) waiting for next CD 3 to get any treatment, now they might not even treat me and I've lost two cycles? I wish I was joking.

It also eliminates any hope that they might have gotten my labs and recommended something before it was too late this cycle. I have to get in to see the shrink and get the report to the ethics committee before their meeting on the 28th. ::sigh::

[spcd]

Originally Posted by FtMPapa

The clinic called today and they wouldn't give me my numbers, but the labs are in and the doctor will tell me what the numbers are....after I meet with their shrink and their "advisory board" (ethics committee) decides if they'll take me as a patient or not. Apparently, in spite of the doctor's assurances that they have treated trans patients before, I'm the first "case like this" they've ever had.

Um....what? After I've sat around for three weeks waiting for CD 3, and then was told to sit around for another 4 (or six, since my cycles are 40 days long lately...) waiting for next CD 3 to get any treatment, now they might not even treat me and I've lost two cycles? I wish I was joking.

It also eliminates any hope that they might have gotten my labs and recommended something before it was too late this cycle. I have to get in to see the shrink and get the report to the ethics committee before their meeting on the 28th. ::sigh::

That is shocking and bizarre. I've never heard of them having an "advisory board". That's so disappointing to hear. I'm sorry for all the trouble.

Congrats jjnoho. Good luck!

Still undecided here. Feel a little silly posting when we've got nothing going on. But, well, I'm addicted to your stories...

[joyseattle]

Lyndzies, thanks for the welcome and yay for being cycle buddies! Are you feeling any symptoms? I'm testing Monday am if AF doesn't arrive. I'll be 14 days past O. We're in OKC at my partner's brother's house until Sunday so there will be no early testing this cycle. I have acupuncture in the afternoon on Monday to support AF or an early pregnancy--hopefully the latter!

Papa, I'm sorry that you're dealing with all this. Hopefully you'll get good news soon and can proceed with this cycle.

[danjelle]

oh wow jjnoho, well done !!!!

congrats, i am so pleased for you
happy and healthy wishes your way

[danjelle]

oh and papa i haven't read this whole thread because it's long and i have the attention span of a gnat but i read a few of your posts and saw the struggle you have been facing with the clinic. i really hope they come through and help you out, especially after letting you think they would be helping. that's just so unfair!

big love going out to you. kia kaha, papa!

[Lyndzies]

papa - that all just SUCKS. That's all there is to is. I'm sorry you're having to jump through ADDITIONAL hoops (as if this whole queer TTC thing isn't hoop-ridden enough already!).

spcd - I'm glad you're still hanging out, even if you're undecided.

joyseattle - Monday will be 14dpo for me, too. AF should be here by Tuesday at the absolute latest. BUT, I don't know if I'm going to be able to test until next THURSDAY if AF doesn't show up... because I'm going to be out of town for work and feel weird testing without DP. I guess I'll just have to play it by ear.

To answer your other question, I'm somewhat symptomless this TWW... I usually have this awful nausea/heartburn/wet burp thing that has tricked me into thinking "pregnant!" for quite a few cycles... but none of that this time. I'm hoping the lack of it is a "real" symptom for once. Lol! So pretty much that, sore bbs (also a normal LP symptom for me), and I feel like I've been more tired than usual (but I've been working like a crazy person).

I guess I'll have a pretty good idea by Tuesday if no AF whether any of the above means anything for me.

How about you? Any symptoms?

AFM - had a nice temp jump today! FX.........

[osker]

Joyseattle - Welcome! Did you know this also unofficially the overeducated, grad school ttc club? What is your focus in grad school? Were are you in the process?

(I'm 4th year, PsyD, working on dissertation, going on internship next year)


Thanks everyone for the hugs. We were devastated by the BFN, yet again. I think that we're going to keep trying at home until we figure out our insurance in the next three months or so. All of a sudden I panicked that insurance would deny us if we were already being seen for fertility issues... so, I think for now, better to hold off until we're with some insurance company.

Papa, that's awful that you have to jump through these hoops. If for some reason they say no, you could always drive out to Boston (yeah, that's about possible!) and go to the place in lexington that calls attention to wanting gay folks -they actually advertise specifically that way! Hopefully your ethics board just wants to meet you and find out how wonderful you are!

[Beastie]

So sorry, Osker. I hope this next cycle is the one, and that you never even have to find out the insurance details, except for your healthy pregnancy!

FTMPapa, I am so outraged on your behalf! It's bad enough that they are being blatantly transphobic, even after you gave them the opportunity to tell you honestly about their experience with trans-fertility, but it's especially hideous that they should ask anyone, of any gender, to miss a precious cycle. I am so sorry.

Joyseattle and Lyndzies, FX for you both! JJNoho and I need more queers (and queer nerds especially) in the June DDC...

Love,
Beastie

[jjnoho]

osker - sorry for the bfn. good luck with insurance pursuits. maybe ttc at home will work out.

papa - i am shocked and disgusted that they would be making you go through this. that is an altogehter new level of transphobia! i don't see how they have the right to put you through a psychiatric eval and an ethics board to provide services to you.

lyndzies - fx for you. a temp jump is a good sign!

[megincl]

Papa -- I am literally speechless at what you are facing at this clinic. Huge anger on your behalf over here..... ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!