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post #261 of 385
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Originally Posted by frugalmama View Post
mamas I need ideas

I'm a single mom, and self-employed. We barely get by {barely as in my CC as are overdrawn and behind on payments}.

I have a thyroid problem, and am finally after 3 years of struggling I will getting Radioactive Iodine treatment for it. I have someone to watch my 3yo, but I have to stay away from her for about a week to prevent her being exposed to the radiation.

I can't figure out how I'm going to make this work - we're talking $500 easy for a hotel for a week, and I just don't have it.

And did I mention that I'm doing this in about 3 weeks since my medicaid will expire at the end of November?
Do you have an Extended Stay type place? Those are around $130 for a week where I live (still a lot, but better than $500)
post #262 of 385
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The landlord has told me that he is coming tomarrow morning with the police (I assume to evict me). I am trying my best to get everything ready so that they will see I am doing my best. I'm scared. I don't know if my landlord has the right to toss us out on the street like that.

My parents contacted me and told us we could stay with them at their house while I am looking for a new apartment or house. I am thankful for that, and at the same time, it will be a very stressful time there. My dad sleeps most of the day (cancer has returned) and he is very grouchy with the kids. He sleeps in the living room where the tv and vcr are.

It's tough, and it is the last thing I wanted to do, not because I don't love them. I love them very much, but just because my father doesn't think children have any rights. They have one bed for all of us. I really doubt they will let me move in even my mattress. I need a formal bed to sleep on. I am not one of those whose back can manage on the floor/camping/sleeping bag.

But at this point, we are limited.

The final straw was that the child support has not come yet, and so we have no way to rent an apartment or house.

Thank you to all of you who have written to me. I appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Jyotsna
post #263 of 385
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Originally Posted by Jyotsna View Post
The landlord has told me that he is coming tomarrow morning with the police (I assume to evict me). I am trying my best to get everything ready so that they will see I am doing my best. I'm scared. I don't know if my landlord has the right to toss us out on the street like that.

My parents contacted me and told us we could stay with them at their house while I am looking for a new apartment or house. I am thankful for that, and at the same time, it will be a very stressful time there. My dad sleeps most of the day (cancer has returned) and he is very grouchy with the kids. He sleeps in the living room where the tv and vcr are.

It's tough, and it is the last thing I wanted to do, not because I don't love them. I love them very much, but just because my father doesn't think children have any rights. They have one bed for all of us. I really doubt they will let me move in even my mattress. I need a formal bed to sleep on. I am not one of those whose back can manage on the floor/camping/sleeping bag.

But at this point, we are limited.

The final straw was that the child support has not come yet, and so we have no way to rent an apartment or house.

Thank you to all of you who have written to me. I appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Jyotsna
I'm not sure where you are but in most states/cities etc there are laws governing how people can be evicted and it generally requires a court order to do so. If 211 is available in your area can you call them, and see what services they may be able to connect you with as far as tenant rights.
post #264 of 385
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Originally Posted by shayinme View Post
I'm not sure where you are but in most states/cities etc there are laws governing how people can be evicted and it generally requires a court order to do so. If 211 is available in your area can you call them, and see what services they may be able to connect you with as far as tenant rights.
I can't imagine what you're going through right now, but I am hoping beyond hope that this turns out well for you and your family.
post #265 of 385
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Originally Posted by HappyLittleHouse View Post
A friend of mine just had a baby and I want to make her a nice gift basket for her and baby, and big sister (3 years old.) She's had a rough year financially, is a stay at home mom, and her husband working a minimum wage job, so there are no frills.

What would you recommend for a new-mama treat?
I would get some nice flavored teabags or little bags of special coffee-whichever she would like better.Get some nice cocoa mix that the whole family can share, with some cookies-Pepperidge Farm make an assortment box-or make some for them.Next some Lindt or Cadbury chocolate bars.I would get a subscription to a magazine she would like and include the current issue.You can find some for under $10.00 and this is a present she will be able to anticipate and enjoy monthly.For big sister a baby doll if your budget will allow or a little book or coloring book.For the baby get something that can be used but is a little bit special or cute .Every mother likes to have something nice to dress their baby in to show them off- a cute winter hat or an outfit if you want to spend that much.I don't know what your budget is, so I don't know if you will want to do all these things and if your budget is more you can always expand on this.
post #266 of 385
Our SSDI puts me 100$ over the limit for food stamps after deductions and medical, so this month all I have to feed myself and my daughter on is WIC. The first time we tried to use the new WIC was a disaster. Thankfully I have a stocked pantry with enough beans and tomatoes that will get me through to December. I am really missing meat though, and just get so excited about weekly chicken parmiagiana!
post #267 of 385
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Originally Posted by Jyotsna View Post
The landlord has told me that he is coming tomarrow morning with the police (I assume to evict me). I am trying my best to get everything ready so that they will see I am doing my best. I'm scared. I don't know if my landlord has the right to toss us out on the street like that.
The only way the police are coming is if they have a court order and you would know if they did. What happened that all of the sudden they want you out like yesterday? You may not even have to move yet if they didn't give you proper notice I would ask in a separate thread about renters rights and evictions, just be sure to post your state if you can as laws vary by state.

I hope you get this sorted soon!





Well mama's, it was a seriously long day, I didn't get any studying done on the bus, I was to darn tired! Plus on the way back I had to stand half the way as it was standing room only. Its 8pm, I'm exhausted (got up at 3:30am) and the kids are tired so were going to bed early. Thankfully I don't have to catch tomorrows bus until 8 something so I get to sleep in until 6 Then its a full day dedicated to learning algebra yippee! yep, 5 solid hours in the tutoring center and then class, then more algebra... positive thinking here, all this killing myself is gonna get me to pass the semester and we get to keep the Pell grant next semester. Praying I pass the test on Thursday! Learning a months worth of material in 4 days
post #268 of 385
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Originally Posted by Satori View Post
The only way the police are coming is if they have a court order and you would know if they did.
Not always. We were evicted in June and the only reason we knew ahead of time that the order had gone through was that a worker at Salvation Army where I had gone trying to get help with the rent told me there was already an eviction order in the system. There was no hearing and the landlord never mailed us a notice that the eviction order had been granted.
post #269 of 385
I've posted on this thread before, but have only recently been able to come back online. My dh has not been able to find work in about 7 months now. We have recently moved out of a shelter and in to our own place after I got lucky with a call center job for a hotel chain. Out of thousands of applications 25 were picked and I got a job. Still a small enough amount of money for our family that we easily qualify for medicaid and food stamps, but it's a job After a massive cold snap this weekend my big concerns are cold weather clothing for the children. I was given clothes for the littlest one by one of the workers at the shelter so he has some warm things to wear. We have a pair of pants for each of the big 2 and they don't really fit either of them. I was hoping to get by some thrift stores after getting paid Friday, but was sick and missed a day of work on top of tech issues the week before so my check won't be as much as it should. Hopefully I can find at least a couple pairs of pants for each of them in the 10 cent bins. If I had my things that are hopefully still in storage and not auctioned off I could sew them pants, but when we came this way it was to live with a cousin and there was no money to bring a uhaul of things anyway.
post #270 of 385
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Originally Posted by s_kristina View Post
Not always. We were evicted in June and the only reason we knew ahead of time that the order had gone through was that a worker at Salvation Army where I had gone trying to get help with the rent told me there was already an eviction order in the system. There was no hearing and the landlord never mailed us a notice that the eviction order had been granted.
Then it wasn't a proper eviction, your LL pulled a fast one and made it look like you had been served then you hadn't.
post #271 of 385
Ugh I'm so sorry. This month is crappy for everyone.

I'm throwing in the towel on the job hunt. I'm entering the 2nd tri and my growing tummy willl be just another strike against me. After the chronic illness and SAHM-dom I don't have the work experience, and employers have their pick of the crop in this economy.

I can't get a job in my field as I am still a student-teacher. No one wants to take the hit to their insurance nowadays. So instead of looking for work now I'm going to focus on finishing my certification. Then after postpartum I'll be ready for the job I really want anyway.

What's really been troubling me lately is that I seem to be developing type 1 diabetes. I meet with the Dr again on Wednesday hopefully to start a treatment protocol. I feel like CRAP

There are things going right though:

My partner has invited me to move in with him in March (when the ex wants the house back). I take care of my food and medical costs.

At the .99 cent Goodwill sale I found a 100% organic cotton baby tee, 100% organic cotton tote bag, 100% cashmere sweater, and a week's worth of name brand skorts for DD in a couple years.

I've been able to pick up a neighbor's wireless signal all week.

Oh and I walked into a new yoga studio's grand opening and recieved a two week unlimited pass for free
post #272 of 385
I hate people who work in customer service. You would think, that by default, they should be personable HELPFUL people who keep their comments to themselves.

I had to run to the store for 2 things. Toilet paper and Rolaids. I have heartburn so bad that it was all I could do to not throw up on the counter. I finally find everything and head to the counter. I don't carry cash. I had only my card on me and it only had $2.95 on it. The lady rings everything up (those 2 items plus 2 cheesy halloween fingers for the girls) my total was $1.50. I had managed to stay within my means so this was good. I was really not wanting to have to put anything back yk?

The lady ringing me up asked if all I had was my card. I said yes, as I choke back yet another urge to hurl. She then gives me a lecture on how it costs them something like 85 cents to run a card and normally they don't accept cards for anything under $5. I said I understand but that that was all I had, these were things I needed, and I didn't even have $5 on the card to begin with. She ran it through and then throws it across the counter at me and says, "Next time bring cash. It's easier for me."

Who gives a s**t if it's easier for you? I am not there shopping to make it easier for you! I am there for a couple things and while I udnerstand the financial irritation to having to process my whoppin $1.50 I really don't think I deserve to be chastised for it. Next time, I won't hold back and I will hurl on your counter. You think processing my measly ticket was an irritation, try cleaning up throw up.

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post #273 of 385
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Originally Posted by Marlet View Post
She ran it through and then throws it across the counter at me and says, "Next time bring cash. It's easier for me."
This is when you say "there won't be a next time."


OR if you're feeling especially brave demand a manager, refusing to budge until they come to you then complain loudly.

I look at it this way... you can treat me this way, I'm a big girl and I can take it but I'll be damned if you're going to treat anyone else like that.

post #274 of 385
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Originally Posted by Satori View Post
Then it wasn't a proper eviction, your LL pulled a fast one and made it look like you had been served then you hadn't.
Cops showed up with papers it was an eviction. He just didn't follow the laws on notifiying us as he was supposed to. It's certainly there for anyone to see in the state of FL.
post #275 of 385
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Originally Posted by s_kristina View Post
Cops showed up with papers it was an eviction. He just didn't follow the laws on notifiying us as he was supposed to. It's certainly there for anyone to see in the state of FL.
Like I said, it wasn't a proper eviction. Yes it was granted but you had grounds to fight since he did it illegally.
post #276 of 385
Dear Universe,

I know in your infinite wisdom your smarter then I am and I'm sure you have some reason for inflecting the sinus infection from hell on me this morning when I woke up at 3am to catch the bus to school and discovered a raging headache and an infection thats backed up into my ear and as a result made me miss the bus since I was in to much pain to get up and get ready. I'm sure you have some grand plan too as to why my car over heated out of the blue yesterday 2 miles from home after I had already driven it 110 miles yesterday and I wasn't even speeding.

I am very grateful that yesterday you inspired me to go to the salvation army thrift shop and look for a rolling backpack for my aching back (my backpack weights about 40lbs with my books) which I didn't find but I did find 2 brand new pairs of PJ's bottoms for my one child who didn't have any that fit and a new pair of jeans and new sweat shirt for my other child who needs warm clothes as well all for $1 total (can you believe this was my 1st time going?!) and I'm grateful that my childcare issues are working out this week but seriously, your twisted sense of humor is wearing thin, don't you think you've had enough fun with me? Seriously, its time to go play with someone else, you've had weeks and weeks of fun with me and now its time for my luck to change because I can only take so much and your just pushing me to far.

PS: Please stop sending people to my door! 18 months of living here and no one ever knocks, in the past 14 hours I've had a kirby salesman after dark wanting to demo his machine and a JW wanting to share the great news while I'm suffering in misery and have 5 things going on at once. I just want to be left alone for a bit with some good luck!

Thank you..
post #277 of 385
Satori sounds like you've been having a bad time
I got a letter from Energy Assistance Monday, telling me they were going to deny my application if I didn't bring in Eric (my ex) into the office so they could photocopy his driver's license. Umm, hello, people you've had my application for 2 mths, and NOW you realize that you need his ID?!?! So I had to go track him down, and bring him to the office so they could do that, then they handed me the letter saying that I got the Assistance
Anyways, at least I have most of my gas bill paid off now.
post #278 of 385
cwat sounds like fun spending quality time with your x.
post #279 of 385
Ohh, yeah, it was barrels of fun
First I had to FIND him, which took about an hour (so much for being a "phone call away"-like he tells the kids ) then I had to listen to him bitch and complain cause HE HAD TO GO THERE AND SHOW HIS LICENSE (yes because I did this just to piss him off and ruin his day) and "Why didn't you change the gas over to your name?" (same reason as above, of course )
Jerk...
post #280 of 385
Has anyone heard from Jyotsna? She hasn't posted since she said the police were coming to evict her yesterday. I hope everything is ok
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