pregnant and over 35 - october - Page 3

[Peace+Hope]

samstress, oh my goodness! i am so sorry! i can understand if we may not see you for a while, but hopefully you will be back very soon, when you are ready. i will miss you

i did a lot of reading in birth loss during/after my very early MC, and there is one incredible thread where women have told their stories. there are literally hundreds there, and for me, it helped reading them all. many examples of women who wait at home and deliver naturally, and also other experiences.

maybe it doesn't matter now, but i'm sorry your care provider wasn't didn't provide you with the strength and guidance you needed. this is not a small thing, and i hope you can heal from that in time as well.

meanwhile, blessings and love to you, and sending kisses to the little one who you will deliver soon.

[Peace+Hope]

Maybe samstress will tell us if/when she would like to be removed from being thread mistress. I’ll be happy to start a new thread anytime so we can have updates. Just wanted to say, please put any changes/updates you’d like in the opening post in BOLD.

zonapellucida, were you uncomfortable in you DDC b/c of age? mine is pretty varied that way, but no one is above mid-30s I don’t think. i’m one of the oldest anyway… grrr, if you can find that girl, get a bunch of pregnant moms to escort you – seems like it would be way more effective than a policeman any day, heh. it was so sweet of you to loan all those things out without an insurance policy . love your MM quote.

mamaintheforest, we aren’t finding out the sex of our baby, but I sympathize with what you’re saying. i honestly think the only negative about hanging around MDC for me is the talk about gender by so many other excited moms. i’m NOT saying i don’t like other people talking about it, that would be silly. but since we decided we have other things to focus on, it’s kind of odd to come here, when we aren't even discussing it b/n us, except when talking about names. now i’m worried i’ll get hooked on my idea we may be having a girl, when what i really want is to be thinking about all the things other than gender….. and there’s plenty else to think of, right?


abigailgrace, haha, i just finished writing a post saying i thought a letter would be sweet and sensitive - glad you had such a great experience telling your daughter! she sounds like a wonderful woman indeed.

me&3, really not trying to be a fear-monger, but my husband just came off of taking zantac several times a week for years. I know you aren’t doing that, but we started reading and finding out how it effects the liver negatively, suppresses the acids in your digestive system and throws the balance off there. just saying this because you may want to do your own reading about side effects of it before you take it. that said, I haven’t had really bad indigestion yet, and who knows what I may resort to if it gets so I can’t sleep or something.

gon2be, i'm glad everything is looking better - is your body achy or anything after the wreck? i hope you're able to take it easy...

kidzaplenty, i can't imagine how hard it is to contain an illness in a big family - i hope all your little ones are feeling better soon.

Andante, welcome!

Umsami, welcome!

afm, not much to report, dying for my next midwife appt. to get here - this coming wednesday. nausea is NOT abating, and i'm 14 weeks tuesday.... still waiting....

[samstress]

Originally Posted by umsami

: Samstress:

I've had three miscarriages... all naturally. Usually, it took about two weeks. My best advice to you would be to allow yourself time to grieve and to be kind to yourself. If you ask in spirituality or search in Goggle (miscarriage ritual), there are a bunch of different rituals that can be done for a lost baby... if you think that might help.

If I were you, I'd give yourself a few weeks and then go back to the OB to make sure that everything went as planned... but that's just me. Whatever you decide, know that you're in my thoughts and prayers. :

thanks so much for the suggestions. i'm definitely interested in the rituals you mentioned, but just can't bring myself to look into it. it was pretty rough the day i found out and since then i've been immersing myself in work and other time-consuming activities (just to keep my mind off it, i guess). i'm also guessing that's why nothing has happened yet. i feel like i need to open myself up to allowing this to happen, but i'm scared because i know i'll just have to grieve all over again.

i know the healing will come, but sometimes i feel like i'm just not strong enough for this right now. i have so much going on and i'm just trying to keep it together.

i've even been avoiding coming here and posting because i knew this () would happen.

Originally Posted by Peace+Hope

samstress, oh my goodness! i am so sorry! i can understand if we may not see you for a while, but hopefully you will be back very soon, when you are ready. i will miss you

i did a lot of reading in birth loss during/after my very early MC, and there is one incredible thread where women have told their stories. there are literally hundreds there, and for me, it helped reading them all. many examples of women who wait at home and deliver naturally, and also other experiences.

maybe it doesn't matter now, but i'm sorry your care provider wasn't didn't provide you with the strength and guidance you needed. this is not a small thing, and i hope you can heal from that in time as well.

meanwhile, blessings and love to you, and sending kisses to the little one who you will deliver soon.

thank you.

i did stumble upon that thread you mentioned, just couldn't bring myself to read much of it.

as for my care provider, i just had an all around bad experience with him and will not be returning to him. when i first got pregnant we had decided on going with a midwife and having a homebirth. we eventually decided against it, however, because we just couldn't figure out how we were going to do it financially. if i've learned one thing from this experience, it's how important having the right people around you is and i will definitely take better care in choosing those people next time around.

Originally Posted by Peace+Hope

Maybe samstress will tell us if/when she would like to be removed from being thread mistress. I’ll be happy to start a new thread anytime so we can have updates. Just wanted to say, please put any changes/updates you’d like in the opening post in BOLD.

i'm absolutely fine remaining as threadkeeper for the remainder of the month. i'm hoping the lack of recent activity here has nothing to do with my less than joyous news. i'm thrilled for all of you and strongly encourage you to post away! this is an exciting time and you should be sharing with each other freely.

i have no problem adding new members and updating everyone's info if needed. please don't be shy!

perhaps one day i'll be joining you again.

-sam

[zannster]

It sounds like people are fleeing from the March DDC! I haven't noticed any issues there...but I'm probably not as active as some people.

Samstress -

As far as ultrasound/gender...I'm undecided. So many people talk about how great it is to wait and be surprised at the end. I think that would be more difficult for me than finding out. I'm scheduled for an "anatomy" ultrasound at 23 weeks...so I have until then to make up my mind, I guess.

[Peace+Hope]

Originally Posted by samstress

thanks so much for the suggestions. i'm definitely interested in the rituals you mentioned, but just can't bring myself to look into it. it was pretty rough the day i found out and since then i've been immersing myself in work and other time-consuming activities (just to keep my mind off it, i guess). i'm also guessing that's why nothing has happened yet. i feel like i need to open myself up to allowing this to happen, but i'm scared because i know i'll just have to grieve all over again.

i know the healing will come, but sometimes i feel like i'm just not strong enough for this right now. i have so much going on and i'm just trying to keep it together.

i've even been avoiding coming here and posting because i knew this () would happen.



thank you.

i did stumble upon that thread you mentioned, just couldn't bring myself to read much of it.

as for my care provider, i just had an all around bad experience with him and will not be returning to him. when i first got pregnant we had decided on going with a midwife and having a homebirth. we eventually decided against it, however, because we just couldn't figure out how we were going to do it financially. if i've learned one thing from this experience, it's how important having the right people around you is and i will definitely take better care in choosing those people next time around.



i'm absolutely fine remaining as threadkeeper for the remainder of the month. i'm hoping the lack of recent activity here has nothing to do with my less than joyous news. i'm thrilled for all of you and strongly encourage you to post away! this is an exciting time and you should be sharing with each other freely.

i have no problem adding new members and updating everyone's info if needed. please don't be shy!

perhaps one day i'll be joining you again.

-sam

oh sam, , i am crying with you. i'd be scared too. you clearly ARE strong enough to go through this - look at you, you are!

and i think your continuing to host the thread for october, and posting too, is a wonderful gift you can give us, as long as you want to. you are part of our community here, and real communities do not segregate us by our experiences, even when they are built around similarities to begin with!

i'm not scared off, i'm just trying not to be obnoxious and be the "every other poster" on this thread

[AbigailGrace]

Originally Posted by Peace+Hope

i'm not scared off, i'm just trying not to be obnoxious and be the "every other poster" on this thread

Me, too! I have been that poster before!

My 2 yo got a stomach bug last week and as it turns out, me, ds (4) and ds (9) got it last night. It was not fun. Looks like I'll be in bed all day sipping sprite and trying to recover.

On the good side, I sure am feeling the baby a lot!!

[jillmamma]

I have a sick first grader at home today (fever and cough), and am hoping that the rest of us don't get it! I go for my 24 week appointment with the midwives tomorrow. She is still moving around and kicking in there!

[Sonnet]

Can't remember if I've posted to this thread before...

Sonnet; 39/40; 33; 6/01/10; not sure of the sex, but there's two of them.

Oh... just saw this news as my reply posted. I'm so sorry...

[AbigailGrace]

Originally Posted by Sonnet

Can't remember if I've posted to this thread before...

Sonnet; 39/40; 33; 6/01/10; not sure of the sex, but there's two of them.

Oh... just saw this news as my reply posted. I'm so sorry...

Oh my goodness! How did you find out there are 2 so soon??? Congrats!

[Sonnet]

Early ultrasound and betas because of previous loss. They found them (or at least two sacs) just at 5 weeks.

[AbigailGrace]

Originally Posted by Sonnet

Early ultrasound and betas because of previous loss. They found them (or at least two sacs) just at 5 weeks.

Wow! Congrats! I've always wanted twins up until now! haha! But can't say it doesn't cross my mind. I haven't had an U/S but enjoy thinking, "Hmmmm, can I feel two babies moving or just one?" haha! I think it's just one!

So let's have an update on everyone!!

How far along are you?

How are you feeling?

Craving anything yummy lately?

How's the family handling the good news??

[Peace+Hope]

welcome sonnet ! wow, i'd love twins (this is our first pregnancy). if we have signs it might be a possibility, i may get a U/S, but it's not in the cards right now for me... i thought surely midwives could detect them, but i hear they can still be missed - now THAT is a surprise at birth i'm not sure i would want...

How far along are you?

14 weeks, 1 day!

How are you feeling?

hm, considering i'm up at 2:30 having to eat something when i just ate at 10:30 pm? eh. for some reason my nausea is getting WORSE - more acute from ok to OMG, when earlier, it was more low-level. i thought i'd wake up yesterday and it would be all gone! otherwise, coming out of the extreme first trimester tiredness i think - yay!

Craving anything yummy lately?

maybe b/c of the nausea i'm still in the ok, where's my protein mode. i don't remember feeling "hungry" since august, just ok, i need to eat NOW. i AM excited it's fall, and cooling off. i've already started making comfort foods i love, like chicken pot pie, chicken enchiladas, chili...

How's the family handling the good news??
so. excited. since this is our first, we've had a few more distant relatives assume it's an unplanned pregnancy - but you're so OLD.... .... close family and friends are jumping w/ joy, srsly. this will be the second grandchild for my parents, who's first will only be 4 months ahead (my sister is due in december). and we just moved closer to my husband's family, so they are pumped too.

[me&3]

Hey y'all, welcome Sonnet.

Here's my update -
How far along are you? I'm now 7.5 weeks.

How are you feeling? Tired, crummy, cranky, nauseous, and indigested all the time!

Craving anything yummy lately? Well, I'd love to get back to eating normally. I miss eating! I actually stepped up on the food intake a bit yesterday, but I'm trying to stay with food that's as bland as possible so as not to awaken the bear (i.e. the nasty reflux).

How's the family handling the good news?? I haven't told anyone except my sister, and she's sworn to secrecy.

[AbigailGrace]

How far along are you?

18 1/2 weeks

How are you feeling?

Tired! But great! Can't complain now that I'm over that yucky stomach bug I had!

Craving anything yummy lately?

The only thing I've really craved is sushi and terragon chicken from the HEB cafe. Other than that, I really have a hard time making myself eat. Usually by now, I'm eating everything in sight! haha!

How's the family handling the good news??

Still haven't told my mother or dh's parents. We will surprise dh's parents and siblings when we see them at Thanksgiving, which will be fun!! And I hope to see my mom within the next week or two.

[mama in the forest]

Samstress, I'm so sorry about your loss.

does anyone know how long it can take?

I have had some losses. I handled two with Cytotec and I did have one loss naturally. (had a D & C with one which I loathed) There were pros & cons to both ways.

With the cytotec it was very peaceful & easy. I was able to decide what day I was ready to experience it, and I had very little cramping. It felt like very mild menstrual cramps. One I had quite a bit of bleeding, which tapered off after several hours. The other had minimal bleeding. The cytotec was actually a really good experience, and it allowed me to move on immediately, which I was grateful for. I was ready to be DONE, and it was helpful to facilitate that. Using this medication was a blessing and each loss was completely overwith in about 4 hours.

The natural one took me about three weeks. Regular spotting the first week, more bleeding the second, and heavy the third. The entire time I had horrific cramps...by that last week I felt like I was in freakin labor every day, and this loss was only a 5 week loss!! (compared to later losses) It was very frustrating for me as I have a full plate of things to do otherwise.

I think you can have a spiritual experience no matter which way you go, and may yours be sacred & speedy.

[mama in the forest]

So let's have an update on everyone!!

How far along are you?

28 weeks!


How are you feeling?

fabulous!....working out, lifting weights, sleeping, loving life


Craving anything yummy lately?

my cravings are a bit irrelevant ~ I am on a special low carb diet to keep my blood sugars in the right place. I take no sugar at all, and it's weird because I do not even want it anymore...whereas prior to my pregnancy I had SUCH a sweet tooth!


How's the family handling the good news??

the kids are really excited - the boys are happy because boys will "rule" after this little guy is born. There was stiff competition since I have three boys & three girls currently.

[gon2be]

So let's have an update on everyone!!

How far along are you?

32 weeks tomorrow


How are you feeling?

In general, very well. Still having some spotting, which I am more and more sure is related to heavy lifting(no man around the house to do it!!)Hoping to discuss my options with my doc in a couple of weeks


Craving anything yummy lately?

Hmmmm, lots of fruit and crunchy things like cucumber. Also brownies and cookies(homemade, of course)


How's the family handling the good news??

My kids are getting super excited. We watched a water birth video the other day, and they all say they want us to wake them up when the baby is being born. My mother is stressing, but I told her I am not discussing our plans. She is not in favor of UC, too many of her own fears in the way.

[moonInLion]

Samstress, . I am so sorry.
My loss earlier this year was diagnosed at 14w2d, fetal demise around 8w5d. I wanted to have a natural miscarriage, which happened at 14w6d, so 6 weeks after the baby had passed away. After the diagnosis, I got some acupuncture to get things going, and used (on my naturopath's advice) castor oil packages on the lower abdomen. Everything went fine and I managed to completely stay away from the medical system.

So let's have an update on everyone!!

How far along are you?
16w3d

How are you feeling? All over pretty good. But STILL not confident about this pregnancy. Still no movements, hope they are going to manifest themselves before the 18w ultrasound.


Craving anything yummy lately?
Nae. Still cannot stomach nut butters (which I was big on being almost vegan...).

How's the family handling the good news??
We haven't told anyone yet, apart from our children and my best GF, that is. My daughter, 3, cannot wait until the baby comes; well, I've told her that she is going to stay home with me when the baby is there and I am on maternity leave (she now is in full-time preschool...), and she is reallly looking forward to that.......

[Peace+Hope]

bumping

[zannster]

How far along are you? 17 weeks this Sunday

How are you feeling? Tired. I often wake up early in the morning and can't get back to sleep. I'm also having a bit of a 'rhoid problem this time around. But I'm alright otherwise, I guess.

Craving anything yummy lately? No - haven't really had many cravings. The closest thing was when I really wanted something like a particular teriyaki burger I used to eat when I lived in CA. So I bought veggie burgers, avocado, teriyaki sauce - and made something similar.

How's the family handling the good news?? Fine. No big changes. Everybody has known for a while. Actually, I think DS has been less psyched about it lately. I don't talk about it a lot with him - I don't want him to feel that everything is about the baby, you know?