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5yo waking baby on purpose

post #1 of 4
Thread Starter 
DS has been purposely wkaing his 4mo sister for the last few days. It's beyond frustrating.

I just finished reading Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline and still can't figure out this one.

Please please....advice!!
post #2 of 4
Hmm. There could be a lot of things going on in this situation. It's all pretty new to him, and he's probably still trying to figure out his place in this new family situation. First, I would point out that sleep helps her grow and handle situations and that when she doesn't sleep enough, she's not as happy! I kind of wonder if a fairly logical consequence for that would be to have to spend his sister's nap times either with you or in his own room doing quiet time of his own. Perhaps one or two of the nap times could be a chance to spend some one-on-one time with him doing something he likes. That way he's kept occupied away from the baby, but he's also getting some positive reasons to leave her alone. Then when he does leave her alone, I'd probably take them out to something he'd enjoy after, and comment that when Sister sleeps well, we can go to the park like this.

post #3 of 4
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See, that's what we do, spend "special time" just the two of us while she's sleeping.

We had just finished playing his favorite game together then he goes to her door, lays down, looks at me with a mischevious smile then starts kicking her door as hard as he can.

I took him downstairs and told him he could be as loud as he wanted downstairs, but if he came upstairs no yelling or banging.

He came back up and we had a good time during the rest of her nap.

A while after she got up, he got some wrapping paper out and was trying to wrap his toys with it. I explained that wrapping paper costs money and took it away while tryign to think of something else we could use. He freaked out and started screaming at me. I told him I was trying to think of somethign else we could use, but he couldn't hear me at this point.

He ended up punching me in the face, twice. I carried him (firmly, but gently) to his room (while being punched repeatedly) and told him he could stay there until he stopped hitting. I said it was ok to be upset, but not hit.

He chased me down the hall punching me. I told him I wanted to hit him back so I needed some space so that I didn't.

I've never hit him, but this time was a close call.

Things are sooooo hard right now. We're adjusting tot eh new baby and going to school half days....

I'm abotu to go crazy trying to get through this. It seems like the harder I try with him, the worse it gets.
post #4 of 4
just wanted to reply that I know that's got to be the worst thing, my 3 y/ wakes his 1 y/0 and it's so infuriating. and for some reason my ds just doesn't get it or care that when she sleep it means we can have special time together....it's like he just can't stop himself....

I'll be watching these replies as well
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