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Poll Results: Have you taken your boy out in girl's clothing?

This is a multiple choice poll
  • 18% (14)
    Yeah, we do that all the time! What's the big deal?
  • 33% (25)
    Occasionally. It's happened before, it'll probably happen again.
  • 18% (14)
    Never, but I let my girl wear boy's clothing.
  • 29% (22)
    Never; my girls wear girl clothing and my boys wear boy clothing.
75 Total Votes  
post #21 of 42
I voted "Never," because I *do* have a line I don't cross. I mean, I'm not going to put my daughter in a t-shirt emblazoned with trucks, or my son in something with bows and ruffles on it. I'm just not. However, I think my definition of "unisex" is probably different from other people's. My son's favorite shirt (that I finally had to get rid of because he wore it so much that it fell apart) was a knitted short-sleeve top with a V-neck, from the '70's I would guess, in stripes of bright red, yellow, and white. It was very Beau-Brummelesque. It wasn't at all traditionally masculine, but neither traditionally feminine. But it was certainly flamboyant, which boys in our culture are not supposed to be. We have a lot of items of clothing that I think aren't really specific to one or the other gender, but isn't what most people think of as "unisex", that I dress both the boys and my girl in. Like fuzzy socks. Or a pink piece of clothing in a non-feminized style.
post #22 of 42
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Originally posted by Cloverlove

Oh, check out this photo from Hanna Andersson. It is definitely a boy in a dress! How cool is that?
I don't think that's a boy. As a former short-haired girl myself, I remember how annoying and confusing it can be to be mis-identified.

Of course, usually when I was misidentified I was wearing button-down shirts and long pants, my usual uniform at that age. But always from the girl's department!
post #23 of 42
My 6 year old Boy/Girl Twins get

mistaken for identical twin sisters almost all the time, It does not matter if my son is dressed in boys clothes, As i said in my original post, My sons hair is the same length and color, And their voices are very simular, If i am doing something and not looking at them and one of them says something to me, I actually have to turn around to see which one was talking to me.

It was chilly out this past Sunday, The kids were bored because they were stuck in the house, So they decided to play dressup, (Some of the clothes that i have for both my son and daughter are doubles, Because when we go out and they get dirty, I can change their clothes and no one else knows that i changed their clothes) They both came out of my daughters room dressed identically, they were in a pink sweater and pink pants, They both had on a pair of white tights and black mary janes, My daughter put my sons hair in pigtails held in place with pink ribbons with 2 barrettes with pink bows in his hair, He looked so cute, My daughters hair was done the same way, When i saw them, I have to admit that they did look like identical twin sisters.

I forgot that we had to go to my neices 6 year old sons birthday party at a local duckpin (small balls) bowling alley, When i saw the time, I told my son to go get changed into his own clothes,(we really did not know any of the other kids that were going to be there) What he said next surprised me, He said that since he looked just like his sister, He wanted to switch places with his sister, he would go as her and she would go as her brother, My daughter did not mind that, So my daughter got changed into her brothers clothes and before we left, I reminded them that since they were going as each other, They would have to answer to each others names, They said ok.

When we got there, I took their coats (Like alot of girls these days, My daughter has a pink winter jacket, Which means my son was wearing his sisters winter jacket) from them and hung them up and they both started playing with the other kids including bowling, We were there for a little over 2 hours and to my knowledge no one including my neice and sister knew that my son and daughter were wearing each others clothes.

When it was time for the kids to go to bed, I started putting one of my daughters nitegowns on who i thought was my daughter, But come to find out it was my son, I even forgot that it was my son wearing his sisters clothes since he looks exactly like his sister.
post #24 of 42
Just this evening I took my so to Urgent Care wearing his sister's sparkly red party shoes. That's what he wanted to wear. If that makes him happy, more power to him!

My son was raised in an orphanage for the first 2 years of his life, and although they didn't put boys in dresses, they didn't care if boys wore flowers and lace. My son loves pink ruffley clothes. Good for him!

Namaste!
post #25 of 42
I only have a dd so I've never put a boy in girl's clothing except my nephew one night in dd's pj's because he unexpectedly spent the night.
We have put dd in boy's clothing. We got some boy hand me downs when she was an infant/toddler. They had tigers, trains, cars on them- big deal.
We have gone shopping in the boy's section of clothing stores many times.
We got some super cute overalls with bugs on them. We bought dd Spiderman skates because Spiderman is cooler than Barbie. The boys section has red, black, navy and other nice colors that look good on dd and go with anything. Dd wears girly clothes too. Now that she is 5 it is more her choice.
post #26 of 42
Thread Starter 
Wow, this is an old thread! :LOL

I have a daughter now who frequently goes out in boy's clothing. Even when she's wearing pink, though, people think she's a boy a lot.

My son recently asked for a pair of pink shoes. My sister talked him into red instead. He wasn't that hard to convince, but he told me that he'd still rather have pink because, "I like it. It's pretty." :LOL What a love .
post #27 of 42
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post #28 of 42

Girl in BOY's clothing

I know it's not as controversial, but when she is called a boy, we just call her Brian and keep up the charade (if it is a stranger)...just so she gets treated more ways than the typical "girl" treatment from people...I wonder how long we can do it!!! :LOL
post #29 of 42
I voted the 3rd option "never" only because ds has never asked. If he wanted to I'd let him. Although, since he's the oldest and I'm not much of a girly-girl, his drag wardrobe is really lacking. I suppose we could throw something together with the pink silks and play jewelry.
post #30 of 42
How would I dress DS in girl clothes? I don't have any! I don't think I'd dress him in girl clothes intentionally but if when he's older if he wanted to wear something I'd let him and I wouldn't worry about it if he had to borrow a friend's clothes and they were ruffly.

I had a little boy in my class once who liked to wear girls dress up clothes and it was a big issue because his mom wanted to discourage him. We ended up compromising but I always felt bad for the kid. His little sister was allowed to do whatever she wanted while he was held to a very high standard I didn't blame him for thinking it might be better to be a girl.

As far as DS goes I'm just happy if I can dress him in clothes that aren't hyper-masculinized, he's a baby for goodness sake, I want him to look like a baby. We don't play sports, race cars, tinker with tools or drive trucks, so why would I want to put him in clothes decorated with that stuff?

Aviva
post #31 of 42
Quote:
Originally Posted by fourlittlebirds
I mean, I'm not going to put my daughter in a t-shirt emblazoned with trucks
Yeah, b/c I have never met a girl who likes to play with trucks..or cars. I have never met a woman who drives a truck, either. Nope. Never.

Not that I like clothes with trucks on them, even. But it's so silly to think that trucks and cars and dinos belong to boys while flowers, gardens and ladybugs belong to girls.
post #32 of 42
No, I have never and would never dress ds in girl's clothing. I do not care to try to shock people and push gender boundries on purpose (I don't understand that idea).

When he was an infant, we dressed him in traditional boy styles, and he now makes his own choices in what to buy and wear. These items are always masculine. Which is not to say that he doesn't like one pair of dark purple sweats! But, he will only wear these at home.

He's 6 1/2 years old now, and when I asked him about this thread, he was amazed that there are little boys out there that wear skirts and ruffles (when they are not part of their natural culture, ie kilt or sarong). He wasn't bothered by this, but said it wasn't something he'd want to do.

I paint my toenails, but when asked if he wanted his painted, the answer was a very firm "NO"! Same goes with cosmetics. Well, except toner and face cream, he loves those!
post #33 of 42
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Gunter
Yeah, b/c I have never met a girl who likes to play with trucks..or cars. I have never met a woman who drives a truck, either. Nope. Never.
Um, are you being sarcastic here?
post #34 of 42
Quote:
Um, are you being sarcastic here?
I'm pretty sure it was sarcastic.

I didn't vote, because I don't have a son. But if I did, and he wanted to wear girl's clothing out of the house, I'd have no problem with it.
post #35 of 42
Quote:
Originally Posted by eilonwy
Um, are you being sarcastic here?
Yes, very. :LOL
post #36 of 42
well when i have a son i will have no problems with what he wants to wear even if it is nailpolish and eyeshadow. whether he is 2, 5, 9 or 12. if he can carry it off and chooses to be that way then i can do it too.

my dd is a tomboy who always chooses boys clothes when we go shopping. she considers a dress as dressup clothes. if it has gathers then it becomes a ballerina dress. she prefers shorts. since most of her clothes are handme downs we get a mix of both. plus i have a hard time finding bright colours for girls and so automatically shop in the boys section.

my fav. story though is that my dd was a bob the builder fan but not any longer. she had a couple of bob outfits which we gave her friend when he started that interest.

the other day she was in her fav. shirt with a mean looking crocodile and definitely boy pants. her 5 and 6 year old boyfriends were so upset about why she was wearing boys clothes. my dd yelled at them BECAUSE I WANT TO!!! at almost 3 i dont think she has a sense of what is boys or what is girls clothes. she wears mostly boys uw.
post #37 of 42
I have 2 girls now, and no boy yet, but I'm sure that if the third (or fourth or fifth... ;-)) is a boy, he'll be wearing some of the clothes of his elder sisters... definitiely as a baby ;-) Once he's starting to refuse and want his own selection of clothes, no problem...

Fiikske
post #38 of 42
I voted, Yep, no biggie deal.

I can't believe I didn't respond to this threat initially. This is our life...

DS just completed a two week stint as Pippi Longstocking (dress, stocking, braids, the works!) so indeed, he has on many occasion been seen about town in girl duds. He's currently growing his hair so he can have real pig tails rather than the ones I made for him with an old head band and pipe cleaners. DS is a HUGE HUGE HUGE role player. Its been full speed ahead with few slow downs since he was about 2 1/2. We rarely leave the house NOT dressed as someone, something, an animal, dinosaur, etc. I'd have to say that his most passionate role plays are that of dressing like girls; characters, people he knows, or otherwise. Last week we read a book about a fairy and right away he said, "I want to be a fairy." So there he was riding his trike through the house decked out in a tiara, colorful scarf I fashioned into a dress, and a magic wand made from one of his drum sticks and a sparkly pipe cleaner. It's like this all day long. All. Day. Long. On Wednesday we did the shopping. When the grocery clerk asked him who he was this week I was shocked when DS gave her his actual name. Happens about once a month, maybe. Then again, last week he "got a crush on" a friend of mine's daughter. I can usually tell right off if he's going to become smitten with a girl. He's 4 1/2 and already has a "type." At any rate, we arrived home from this outting and sure enough, he went diving into dresser for jeans, and a red shirt to be just like "Robin." And then of course, asked me to pull his hair into a pony tail to complete Robin's look.

MarsupialMom - you described my DS as well, "eccentric but happy with himself." Indeed!

And I wouldn't dream of squelching one single eccentric piece of him.
post #39 of 42

Party girl...

My six-year-old was very dissapointed when one of his little playmates declared that her birthday party would be for girls only. He complained to her mother and, for a joke, she said he could come but he'd have to wear a dress and a ribbon in his hair.

My son took this quite seriously and for the following week begged me to get him a dress. Eventually, for a quiet life, I gave in and borrowed a party dress, underwear, tights and shoes from his cousin. My son trotted off happily to the party, the little girls made a huge fuss over him and he had the time of his life.

Mind you, he has come home in a dress a few times since and I'm wondering what will happen if his father sees him...

Cathy
post #40 of 42
Quote:
Originally Posted by Cathy Anne
My six-year-old was very dissapointed when one of his little playmates declared that her birthday party would be for girls only. He complained to her mother and, for a joke, she said he could come but he'd have to wear a dress and a ribbon in his hair.
It made me feel so sad to read that. And then I realized that I can't remember one single birthday party I had as a girl where there was a boy in attendance. :

My son's long time pal is a girl, and she has always invited both girls and boys to her parties. This year it was a pink and purple party and DS was delighted... and more than a little frustrated at the lack of pink and purple in his wardrobe--we had a major frustration that morning! We figured something out though and all went well.

The thing is, at this point at least, it just hasn't occured to DS that acting or dressing like a girl isn't compeletly normal as it is for him to be a boy. When two neighbor boys came over last weekend (11 and 6), DS was dressed as Pippi and at first they both looked at him like he was a little nutz to which DS replied, "Don't you know Pippi? Don't you like her?" And then he proceeded to start jumping and flipping about... just like Pippi. The little boys just shrugged and played along.

He has spent sometime with other little kids (boys and girls both) who are quite concerned about the differences and who is allowed to do/wear what... that's girly, that's for boys, etc., but DS just doesn't seem to be concerned about this. More power to him.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Cathy Anne
My son took this quite seriously and for the following week begged me to get him a dress. Eventually, for a quiet life, I gave in and borrowed a party dress, underwear, tights and shoes from his cousin. My son trotted off happily to the party, the little girls made a huge fuss over him and he had the time of his life.
I love the visual of this and yes, I do imagine that the girls LOVED having him there! Good for you, and your son!

Quote:
Originally Posted by Cathy Anne
Mind you, he has come home in a dress a few times since and I'm wondering what will happen if his father sees him...
Oh no, would he really be upset? He might surprise ya! Bless his heart, My DH has been wonderful about this, and has taken it in the spirit in which it is presented. This morning DS woke up and decided he wanted to be Pippi and DH said to me quiety, "Good. Pippi is so much easier on me than the T-Rex clawing at me all the time." I think DS is a lot like DH was as a kid... DH's favorite toy as a kid was his holster and pistols (he even wore them to church! ), and then, he also took Ballet for a time. As an adult, he's pro gun-control, and while he isn't a huge fan of ballet, he does have an appreciate for it. What he is for lack of a better cliche, is in touch with his feminine side. Something that I have always appreciated about him. He's an artist, a writer, and loves to garden. He also likes watching and playing sports, and plays rock guitar. Well balanced you might say! At any rate, DS has a pretty good role model there!

The best,
Em
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