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[Murph12334]

The day my daughter was born in 06 was the last day i worked outside of the home.

My girl is still a momma's girl and we have a close bond with eachother.

After many many many money problems, then dh lost his job. DH being on unemployment and searching for another job just doesn't bring in enough for me to still be a sahm. I found a minimum wage job.

My son is 5 months old and breastfed. I am pumping at work and dh feeds him a bottle when i'm working. When i'm home he gets it right from the tap.

I've noticed he will barely look or smile at me now. He use to act that way towards dh. I'm not use to this. He is all smiles and coos and everything for dh now. It use to be me that he just liked sitting with and putting him to sleep. Now he cries for me and I'm only good for milk.

Does it get better?

[samy23]

your title says WAHM, did you mean WOHM?

[Murph12334]

yes i meant WOHM

[samy23]

Originally Posted by Murph12334

yes i meant WOHM

ok. Sorry I don't have any advice on your issue. Hopefully someone else will reply soon.

[Murph12334]

i just had 2 days off in a row - he was smily and happy baby again the second day off. Today he's very unhappy and grumpy again though. He doesn't like me away for sure. I'm hoping he gets use to it

[tappinerp]

It's okay. It is hard, but your relationship with your DS will be okay. I promise. I WOHM full time and DH cared for our son. I understand what you are going through. I literally was only good for mommy milk. I couldn't console my lo at all. Dh had to do all of that, and it broke my heart. Here's the thing- Now that DS is 3.5, I don't think I have seen another kid more attached to his mamma than my ds is to me. We have a great relationship now- it is actually better than dh's relationship with ds.
I know it is hard, believe me. At the same time, I hope you can find peace in knowing that you are are doing everything you can right now precicely for your son. You aren't doing any harm, and you will develop a wonderful relationship with him. It may be different than what you experienced with your dd, but it will still be beautiful and attached.