What would you do?

[BlessedMommy2006]

I joined the YMCA and they have child care. Something in me makes me feel uncomfortable to have them do diaper changes. I would probably have to give the "no retraction" lecture each time I left the baby, as workers wouldn't necessarily be the same each time.

My husband thinks that it would be fine to let them change his diaper. I'm leaning towards just changing beforehand and having them come get me if it's needed.

WWYD?

[titania8]

when i worked in that position, i wasn't supposed to do pottying or diaper changes. we didn't even have a place to change diapers. but of course, that doesn't mean your Y is the same setup! i would just change before and tell them to get/call/page you if your LO needs a diaper.

[BlessedMommy2006]

Originally Posted by titania8

when i worked in that position, i wasn't supposed to do pottying or diaper changes. we didn't even have a place to change diapers. but of course, that doesn't mean your Y is the same setup! i would just change before and tell them to get/call/page you if your LO needs a diaper.

I think that's what I'm going to do probably. I don't think my Y is the same set up as yours because when I asked if they could call me for a diaper change, the lady in charge acted surprised and said that normally the child care workers take care of it.

[JaymeH]

Yeah, our Y doesn't do diapers. I always thought it was a liability thing.
I say, go with your gut. Have them come and get you. And, if you get to know your lo's "schedule" you can probably adjust your workout accordingly! Ha!

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Since you dont know who will be doing it and they could have a shift change while you where away I would either 1) print out a paper in bright red and have it hung over the changing station and make sure to mention it to whoever is there and tell them to tell anyone coming on duty. 2) go ahead and have them get you if you dont trust they would follow the rule.

That really is a tough question since I have never left my ds or dd for that matter with anyone but family.

[Eeyore35]

If I had a baby boy,I'd leave the changes to the staff,and not worry or say anything.

I work in gym childcare. we have lots of baby boys come in,and I've NEVER had a mom mention their child's status. even before I had my daughter,and just assumed you had to retract to clean, I wouldn't have done it in a childcre setting. I assumed it would be something parents do as needed,not done everydiaper change or anything. (when i was pregant,i metnioned to a couple friends who had baby boys that it sucked i couldn't get the baby circumsized if it was a boy,and I didn't want the hassle of figuring out how to clean it. They assured me it was no big deal. Nothing to retract,just wash like a finger. so I stopped worrying.)

If you can't trust them with diaper changes,don't leave him there at all.

[Eeyore35]

By the way,it quite liekly isn't that easy to just "come get you" .It's abig hassle where I work. If I'm there alone,I can't leave,obviously,so id have to call rot desk,describe you,if they didn't know you by name yet,try to give them some idea where in the gym you are. Then explain why i need you to come in. All while trying to keep the kids safe all by myself. And after all that,it's possible the front desk person won't be ableto find you. If you canarrage to be in one place the wholetime,then it'snot so bad. But,if you re in a class,we re loathe to disturb the class. we'll do it if need be,but its not encouraged. especially a yoga class. it's fine if it's a good reason,but otherwise? Not so much.


Another thing to keep in mind-I check any diaper that's looking wet,feel's squishy. I changed it if I think it needs it. I wouldn't call a mom in cause I thought diaper might be a little squishy. I'd need to be sure it needs changing before I called in mom.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Originally Posted by Eeyore35

By the way,it quite liekly isn't that easy to just "come get you" .It's abig hassle where I work. If I'm there alone,I can't leave,obviously,so id have to call rot desk,describe you,if they didn't know you by name yet,try to give them some idea where in the gym you are. Then explain why i need you to come in. All while trying to keep the kids safe all by myself. And after all that,it's possible the front desk person won't be ableto find you. If you canarrage to be in one place the wholetime,then it'snot so bad. But,if you re in a class,we re loathe to disturb the class. we'll do it if need be,but its not encouraged. especially a yoga class. it's fine if it's a good reason,but otherwise? Not so much.


Another thing to keep in mind-I check any diaper that's looking wet,feel's squishy. I changed it if I think it needs it. I wouldn't call a mom in cause I thought diaper might be a little squishy. I'd need to be sure it needs changing before I called in mom.

The problem is that the teaching is still out there to retract and clean. Even doing this once could lead to tearing and pain or something as threatening as paraphimosis where the foreskin is stuck behind the glans which is an emergency situation. You never know unless you ask who still believes the old retract rule or not and it isnt worth the risk to the child to take the chance they will know.

This forum is full of retraction stories some causing no harm but many who ended up with major harm.

[mama24-7]

i've worked for 3 ymca's. the only way i'd ever leave my littles w/ y staff is if i knew them personally.

sus

[Eeyore35]

Originally Posted by mama24-7

i've worked for 3 ymca's. the only way i'd ever leave my littles w/ y staff is if i knew them personally.

sus

Altho I wouldn't worry about diaper changes,I personally wouldn't leave an infant in gym childcare either. I think that's probably overcatious,but still,outside my personal comfort zone.

[mama24-7]

Originally Posted by Eeyore35

Altho I wouldn't worry about diaper changes,I personally wouldn't leave an infant in gym childcare either. I think that's probably overcatious,but still,outside my personal comfort zone.

i'm curious about why you seem to be so unconcerned about this. so many moms have come here upset about their child being retracted & they know/saw it happen. in a case like this, the mom wouldn't possibly know or would find out when her ds has a problem.

sus

[MommytoB]

Anywhere , even churches and first year of preschool can have a risk of a kid getting retracted.

I told Brendan's first time preschool teachers do not pull back foreskin and they said okay we won't but then when I was changing his diape I found long hair wrapped all the way around his foreskin including it was coming from the inside of it . So I wrote a Note Saying
Dear Teacher D & I ,
I mentioned to you both at the home visit that I didn't want my son's foreskin retracted which means pull back but I think one of your teachers in the room did it because I found hair on my son's penis that was coming from the inside of his foreskin and the only way hair could get in the inside by being retracted so please only Wipe the outside of the foreskin like I asked and make sure you give this info to other subs/volunteers who may end up changing my son's diaper . No problem with them again on that issue.

Also, I didn't think my boy would end up going pee within a hour of church after he had a diaper change before I brought him there and when I went to get him the lady there told me had a wet diaper so they changed him I was like you didn't pull back his foreskin did you ? The lady there said we know not do that so I was like phew but didn't even think of suggesting that to them .

So I have no idea if they do dippy changes in the Ymca . ETA I was in water aerobics class when the Y was paging me stating that I need to come get my son but I can't remember the reason why .

[GoodMomma]

If it were me I would explain to the workers there that he's intact and tell them how to clean him and write on his diaper "I'm intact, do NOT retract" just for a little reminder. I would use it as an educational moment, lol. But I understand your concern.

[mamadelbosque]

IDK, I did enough research to know that I didn't want my DS circed before he was born, but it never even occured to me to retract it, nor has it ever occured to me as something that people need to be told not to do... and DS has had diaper changes from dozens of people, and its just never been an issue. I know there are lots of stories around this forum of people who HAVE had issues, but how many more of us are there that haven't and so don't post? I know the only reason I'm back in here at all is because DS2 had a UTI at ~2.5-3wks.

ETA: And DS1 did get left at YMCA daycare while I swam and DH worked out when he was under a year.. and it just never occured to us to worry about it.

[jeca]

YMCa employees will not retract your child's penis. THey simply do diaper changes nothing else. If an employee was caught on camera doing something like that they would have a lot of explaining to do.