We recently had a new au pair come into the house to take care of the kids. She is mostly for our baby, who is 11 months, because our 3yo dd goes to preschool and my moms house during the day. But, she is being very sassy, saying she doesnt want the au pair, to get away, etc. She is throwing tantrums, and basically testing the boundaries. Usually, she is really well behaved. I usually tell her to put her "listening ears back on" and she is able to fix her own behavior...but now it seems like she has fallen apart. We have never had someone else living in our house...but I would have thought she would have been like this with the new baby coming into the house, not the au pair. And, to top it off, the au pair is very shy, so it seems like she may have a hard time being assertive with our dd. I dont want to start punishing her, because it seems that there is some emotional need that is not being met, it is because of the new situation, testing bounderies, etc. But, I cant let her get away with it because then the au pair will think it is ok for her to behave like that. Any suggestions???
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10/5/09 at 2:49pm