We went to a dr. appointment for my ds2, he needs some GI testing. New hospital, new doctor (professor).
When she casually asked until what age my child had been getting breastmilk, I stopped breathing for an instant, looked at my husband for reassurance, thought that a gastro-intestinal specialist ought to know the truth about food-intake, and 'casually' mentioned that I'm nursing him once or twice daily.
As I'd expected, she'd been very surprised, if not shocked. She immediately looked up from the file to look me in the eyes and, ask if 'I still had ANY milk then?' (of course!) and say with 'professional' assurance that I'd need to wean, now. Because, as she said, my child would stay way too attached. At those words, I chuckled and replied that if there were one child going for early independence, it was certainly this one.
I am not sure what she really was thinking then. But I do think the casualty and the certainty in my voice did give a signal that the ext bf is not a big deal to us. I mean, 'not a big deal' in the sense of it being normal, and of 'not needing my child weaned from my milk for any (such) reason', and of me not having an issue with my child's need to nurse. Btw, it is as much my need as his
we both enjoy it.
And, to be honest, it's a great way of being so connected with your child, it's the greatest way to snuggle and for the two of us, it may be one of the only daily moments he would actually come and sit in my lap and be really close to me, and so peaceful! So no, I wouldn't even mind if, apart from this ext nursing, or even because of it, my child would be super de luxe attached.
I think so many ppl mix attachment so much with dependence, and on top of that they tend to give a negative connotation to these words, for some or other obscure reason.
I felt awkward to give this honest reply to the question asked and also for and for getting a judgmental yet anticipated reaction. But, I also feel proud to know how OUR way is (mine and my nursling's) and that no-one else will bring us to doing differently.
I also wonder how come that people who haven't nursed (long) as babies themselves and/or never nursed their own babies for a truly extended period, actually think to have the right to claim that extended nursing would make parental attachment/dependency an issue. And WHERE would they get this info
???
Btw, my nursling is now 3y8m old.
He still looks like a baby when he nurses, it's so sweet.
No idea what could be so wrong with that :-).
When she casually asked until what age my child had been getting breastmilk, I stopped breathing for an instant, looked at my husband for reassurance, thought that a gastro-intestinal specialist ought to know the truth about food-intake, and 'casually' mentioned that I'm nursing him once or twice daily.
As I'd expected, she'd been very surprised, if not shocked. She immediately looked up from the file to look me in the eyes and, ask if 'I still had ANY milk then?' (of course!) and say with 'professional' assurance that I'd need to wean, now. Because, as she said, my child would stay way too attached. At those words, I chuckled and replied that if there were one child going for early independence, it was certainly this one.
I am not sure what she really was thinking then. But I do think the casualty and the certainty in my voice did give a signal that the ext bf is not a big deal to us. I mean, 'not a big deal' in the sense of it being normal, and of 'not needing my child weaned from my milk for any (such) reason', and of me not having an issue with my child's need to nurse. Btw, it is as much my need as his
we both enjoy it.And, to be honest, it's a great way of being so connected with your child, it's the greatest way to snuggle and for the two of us, it may be one of the only daily moments he would actually come and sit in my lap and be really close to me, and so peaceful! So no, I wouldn't even mind if, apart from this ext nursing, or even because of it, my child would be super de luxe attached.
I think so many ppl mix attachment so much with dependence, and on top of that they tend to give a negative connotation to these words, for some or other obscure reason.
I felt awkward to give this honest reply to the question asked and also for and for getting a judgmental yet anticipated reaction. But, I also feel proud to know how OUR way is (mine and my nursling's) and that no-one else will bring us to doing differently.
I also wonder how come that people who haven't nursed (long) as babies themselves and/or never nursed their own babies for a truly extended period, actually think to have the right to claim that extended nursing would make parental attachment/dependency an issue. And WHERE would they get this info
???Btw, my nursling is now 3y8m old.
He still looks like a baby when he nurses, it's so sweet.
No idea what could be so wrong with that :-).
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