Originally Posted by Mama_Meme
well... I've tried nightweaning twice and I guess i'm still in the middle of attempt number2 My DD is a super light sleeper (2yo) and wakes often adn just keeps repeating, for literally hours, every night "nummies, nummies, nummies" and I have tried not giving it her. it's got to the poitn where, if I've decided there's no nummies until 6am, she will actually wake at 3 am and ask/cry//demand them for three hours until its time for it, at which point, we are both exhausted and the time is right, so I give it to her. Not the best reinforcement, but what do i do?
This is how my attempts at nightweaning have gone. Sometimes I forget that when she stirs, it doesn't mean she needs to nurse. What I usually do is, she stirs and if it seems like it's going to turn into crab, scream, smack fest (in-bed temper tantrum, oh joy) I will try to nip it in the bud by nursing her. What I try to remember to do is to let her squirm a bit and then go back to sleep. I don't always do this.
A few weeks ago we were doing ok, she'd wake up once or twice and then I'd tell her no more ah-ahs until the alarm goes off, well she'd pitch a fit for a while, and then finally fall back asleep (lucky girl, because I was still wide awake after a bout like that). But, for some reason, we slipped back into nursing.
I think we need more space, DH, baby and I on a queen doesn't quite cut it. Sometimes DH sleeps downstairs because he doesn't like our mattress and I think DD and I do better that way.
But Friday nights we usually let the kids stay up and watch a movie and then they sleep on the fold out couch. This past friday, she didn't cry at all, and only when she was ready to wake up, did I hear her. I thought maybe we could have her start sleeping with her sister. But, DSD said she was asking her for ah-ah all night long. Usually they just bring her upstairs if she's getting too cranky, so I thought it couldn't have been too bad. I have no idea how long it really was (DSD does tend to be a heavy sleeper and probably doesn't know how much DD was awake), but I do know she was not pitching a fit. So I'm not sure cosleeping with DSD and DSS is right just yet - since she'd disturb their sleep, too.
What we're probably going to try is getting her her official own bed. Or rather, putting the bunk beds back together and getting DSS his own bed. I think nightweaning needs to happen with us at the same time as ending co-sleeping, or at least primary co-sleeping. We've tried all kinds of ways, but have had mixed success.
For right now, we're just muddling through. I do think though that I'm going to try and wean her off the "i'm just waking up and I need to nurse for at least a half hour" session. It takes up way too much time in the morning and I can get nothing done. Today I had DH get her dressed and start her day - so when they came downstairs I had breakfast for them - she just ate instead. I did nurse her afterwards, but she was well awake and was much better about not lingering for hours (when she's sleepy, she will nurse for as long as I'd let her). She just nursed, asked for "other side ah-ah" and finished, not even ten minutes. Of course, this means I have to be alot better about getting out of bed and moving when the alarm clock goes off.